growth

i blog for the girls who don’t recognise the person they see in the mirror

‪It does not matter how much knowledge you consume, if you are not going to start applying it to your life and focusing on growth and mastery, it all just becomes a waste of time and energy. The consumption of information without application is a distraction.‬

2023: go to the limits of your longing, let everything happen to you: beauty and terror, just keep going, no feeling is final

wear big jhumkas, put on flowy skirts that reach all the way to your ankles adorned with silver paayal, fall in love with stories and books from lands away from yours, keep your hair in it's natural elegance, dance more, sing louder, learn to cook, or learn to craft, pick up a new hobby or maybe just sit down with a cup of chai and listen to the sounds of the city. do whatever you have to do to live brighter, laugh with you whole heart because that is what you deserve.

Oooooooh there’s a name for why I hate softness when I’m feeling brittle

OH.

Well. That would explain. A lot.

[[most clinicians have witnessed how difficult memories resurface when a client feels truly seen, heard, and loved in therapy. A metaphor for this process is “backdraft.” Backdraft occurs when a firefighter opens a door with a hot fire behind it. Oxygen rushes in, causing a burst of flame. Similarly, when the door of the heart is opened with compassion, intense pain can sometimes be released. Unconditional love reveals the conditions under which we were unloved in the past. Therefore, some clients, especially those with a history of childhood abuse or neglect, are fearful of compassion (Gilbert et al., 20010).]]