so when straight people ask me why I say Iâm âqueerâ or âgayâ instead of sharing my actual identity as a panromantic demisexual non-binary sapphic queer I just tell them âok look, when youâre talking to someone who isnât local and they ask you where youâre from and you either say the name of the largest city nearby or âtown name, suburb of large nearby cityâ so they can get some geographical context of where youâre located right, bc theyâre probably not going to know the name of the little town you actually live in.â
but if youâre talking to a local you can say the name of your actual town bc they have a greater chance of knowing where/what that is.
ok well when Iâm talking to a straight person I start with queer bc chances are they arenât as familiar with the context of all the little towns in that big queer city and need gps (gay positioning system) to find me.
if Iâm talking to another queer person and I say I live in a suburb of gay city in a town called panromantic on the demisexual side of the tracks which is in the county of queer and I live off the intersection of non-binary and sapphic, theyâd probably be able to find me with little to no problems, make sense?