Bi Arousal

I have had a couple of questions about my use of clitoral stimulation as coping mechanism during labor.  While it is a coping mechanism, for me it’s much more than that.  To me labor and birth are the collimation of sex - it’s the ultimate outcome of sex.  You are, through your body, giving independent life to a child created by an act of love - sex that is.  To me labor and birth are incredibly sexual events.  Clitoral stimulation is only natural - it’s the way for your body to release the tension of labor in a most natural, beautiful, and enjoyable way.

I used clitoral stimulation during each of my three homebirths.  During the last one I think I has about 6 orgasms.  So how did I do it?  Well, I either pleasured myself, or (the better way!) either my husband or my midwife “assisted”.

When I pleasured myself, I pictured my body opening up.  I thought of the baby forcing me open and stretching me wide. I pictured the baby passing through my vagina - my birth canal - and stretching my labia in a painfully but oh so pleasurable burn. I rubbed my clit, and as I realized that soon I would be giving birth.  The orgasms were amazing.

Even better, though, was my husband or my midwife stimulating me.  I would lay back, with my eyes closed, and experience the sensations.  This was part of the labor process - the people closest to me helping me relax and open my body. These were the best orgasms. During my last homebirth (the twins) my husband was wearing a pair of gym shorts (I was naked) and I could see his erection as he rubbed my clit.  OMG I wanted to fuck him right then! The ones by my midwife were even more intense than the ones by my husband.  I loved her touch.  There is something taboo, even ethically questionable, about he touch at the time but to me it was pure beauty. Yes, I had been intimate with her before the labors but this was different. The raw sexuality of her touch match with the pure sexuality of labor. I am getting myself so wet right now just thinking of it. MMMM.