A Safe Space To Talk About Being Queer

i wish more people knew what sapphic 💕💕💕 is because people don’t understand how i’m bisexual and not interested in men. 🙄

like... for me... i am biSEXual but i could never love a man. idgaf what your gender is, we can definitely fuck. Sure. BUT... my soulmate is a womxn or nonbinary (includes genderfluid, etc.) person.

Also family: we love you

Me: *is*

Family: you know we love you right?

warning: idk who is gonna respond to this post so to prevent hate comments coming to you directly please don’t reblog if you aren’t in a good place right now 💖

Tumblr is often a safe space for many of us with access to internet but there are still hateful ass people in the all queer tags especially ones regarding gender so...

I am throwing this post into the mix to tell any phobes to leave us TF alone! Our identities are and always have been valid and real. 🖕🏾

and most importantly to tell all y’all queers to laugh at those hateful words because not a single one of them is true. I know how much they can hurt, but you know what... Warriors get hurt all the time but they never lose that fighting spirit. And neither will we because honestly, FUCK that. 😇 You are soooo awesome and beautiful. Nothing of true beauty is sinful, disgusting, or unnatural. HATE IS UNNATURAL!

if you find yourself feeling down here are a few things that might help:

say something like “I am valid”, “I am real”, “I’m the shit”, “I am proud to be *insert gender/sexuality*”, “I am beautiful” out loud OR write it down over and over again

reach out to someone that supports you

scroll down your favorite blog/a blog that you know is safe (this really helps when i do it)

sending the queerest positive energy

i just want to let all my fellow queers know that you can still be happy and enjoy your life even if your family/“friends” don’t support you... trust me, i know it sucks. my entire family is homophobic, biphobic, transphobic in addition to being toxic af in a variety of other ways.

but you know what? you will be so much happier once you free yourself from anyone toxic to you... we all have our different situations but at some point you will be able to move out, build a chosen family, relax or do whatever it is you need to do.

i say this to you and to myself: please, keep fighting... you got this. you’re beautiful. :)

in the mean time, here are some things that could help and only require yourself:

find a book to escape in every now and then

journal about your feelings and don’t hold back... or about scenarios that make you smile! write poems, songs, short stories...

when you are in a good mood, make a list or a few lists of positive and motivational stuff and read one whenever you are feeling down... you could do notes instead... if you aren’t a word person, try a collage!

set reminders on your phone so you will get notifications like: “you can do this”, “i believe in you”, “keep going!”, “good morning”, “drink water”...

find a hobby!!! drawing, painting, writing, running, hiking, keeping animals, photography, filmmaking, baking, cooking, reading, fashion, singing, dancing, yoga, exercising, volunteering, cosplaying, gaming, streaming...

So I used to be on this team in HS and we made handmade crafts or whatever. One of my team members was very pretty. I kind of had a thing for her. Anyways, I knew I was bisexual but I was still in that denial and self-acceptance phase.

Me: *says something flirty because I’m a huge f****** flirt especially when it comes to girls*

Teammate: *smiles* Are you flirting with me? 

Me, a disaster bi: *bi panic* Wh-What? Huh. N-No. *blushes in awkward silence*

It’s crazy how people say they love you but things change when you come out to them... So many people have a fragile love for you. 

Things changed in a negative way when I came out to my family. It’s weird because I don’t regret it because I feel a little better about myself BUT I still don’t feel like I can be myself. I’m so uncomfortable in what’s supposed to be my home. I feel uncomfortable around my own family. I don’t have any support.

Then I feel uncomfortable about going to church. I’m not religious how you might think. I believe in the universe and stuff. Anyways, I just feel like a fraud. A pretender. I don’t know... It justs hurts to know that they only love part of me. One tiny little detail could change everything if they somehow found out. My heart starts beating at the thought of it. 

Me: I'm bisexual.

I would talk to her about how she’s confusing you before you tell her you like her. That way you two can have a conversation and hopefully clear everything up.

(sorry for any typos)

I would start by dropping little hints in your actions and words to simmer down the possible shock. Then, after a little time has passed I would recommend asking her if you two can talk. I wouldn’t tell her in front of people and stuff... Also, make sure you tell her in person. Try to keep what you have to say short, simple, and clear. Make sure you include a few reasons why you like her. It is totally okay to be nervous but try to have a relaxed voice. 

An alternative would be to write her a letter. I don’t know if she’s the type of person who would prefer talking in person but this is a great option if you don’t want to do the whole talking thing. I don’t know... Maybe she likes handwritten things... 

You got this!!! If things don’t go the way you may have imagined, make sure you assure her that you two can still be friends.