Shout out to non-binary people who seek any form of androgyny.

Shout out to non-binary people who have a strong sense of gender and are not completely "opting out" of gender.

Shout out to non-binary people who do want to belong in a certain box and care about labels.

Shout out to non-binary people who care about being misgendered and are not gender-apathetic.

Shout out to non-binary people who consider themselves cis, or neither cis nor trans for any reason.

Shout out to non-binary people who consider themselves cis, or neither cis nor trans due to being intersex.

Shout out to non-binary people whose identity has a reason.

Shout out to ALL nonbinary people who are considered "stereotypical", get little positivity, and every time their identity is mentioned, it's to remind other people they don't have to be like them.

"Nonbinary is not a third gender" for some people it is. "Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny" but we're allowed to desire it. "Being nonbinary is a rebellion against gender roles" if it is for you, cool. But my gender is not a political movement and not everyone feels comfortable with statements like this.

We are doing something. We’re rejecting allonormative ideals and that’s a massive thing to do. We’re actively fighting not just to help other aspecs, but to help everyone, because amatonormativity (and allonormativity as a whole) hurt everyone. Single people who want to find a partner but can’t also deserve to be able to exist.

There are so many issues with the expectation of marriage, including:

A single income isn't enough to get by anymore

Having a spouse is almost necessary under the current medical system

Society shames and pressures people who are single to get into relationships constantly

Rejecting allonormativity means fighting against these things that hurt everyone.

love shipping

hate shipping

date/want to date

dont want to date

have/want sex

don't want sex

with autism

with depression

with anxiety

with adhd

with ocd

identify as aroallo because of trauma

are hypersexual

have very low sex drives

are heterosexual

are trans

are queer

have low empathy

aren't out

are aplatonic

are repulsed by romance

are disabled

are POC

are kinksters

have just found out

and then dealing with the fact that i do experience sexual attraction intensely and not wanting to be the deviant queer that i was told i was and wishing i wanted a "normal" relationship. god. it's hard! i wanna affirm to all of us aroallos that it's fucking hard and i'm proud of you no matter where u are in your self-acceptance journey and i hope one day you can fully be at peace with your orientation if you arent currently.

but even with all that, there's also something awesome about accepting myself. idk man i'm glad i know who i am and i'm glad i no longer put myself in situations that make me uncomfortable. i have people in my life i care about and aren't planning on going anywhere, i have a friend i have sex with who knows i'm aro and it's chill. there is permanence and beauty and joy and connection in my life. still unlearning the idea (very stupid idea tbh) that romance is the ultimate permanence or that it means something unbreakable. in my rational mind, i know that my relationships are more unbreakable than almost all romance i see lol.

these are not impossible things even though i used to feel like they were. and whatever you yearn for, no matter how different from my ideal, is likely also not impossible. we can have the lives we want, i promise :)))