List of toxic and incorrect things that were taught to me while I was growing up
Child abuse only exists if you always get badly insulted, yelled at, or physically abused by adults [e.g. beaten, scarred, slurred]
If your parents generally don’t pay attention to you, it just means they’re busy or have more important things to do
Saying a child does something for attention, as if they don’t deserve attention, is fine and justifies you ignoring them
Self harming is always about asking for attention
Asking for attention in general is wrong
No matter how much they hurt you, you’re still supposed to respect a family member [e.g. “But they are still your parents.“]
Your partner can’t do things against your will [e.g. ”He can’t sexually assault you, he’s your boyfriend!“]
An abusive relationship is always obvious and involves beating
Staying in an abusive relationship makes it your own fault
PTSD is something only soldiers coming back from war can have
Bullying is part of life and trying to stop it is pointless
An eating disorder always means you eat too little/are underweight
If a boy is mean to you it’s because they like you
Girls are overdramatic/boys don’t have feelings
A harsh upbringing gives you “thick skin”
Hurting your children “in moderation” can be correct disciplining
Therapy is only for mental cases
Having multiple personalities is overt, obvious, and dramatic
Having a bad memory means you lack intelligence
If you can’t remember something traumatic then it “couldn’t have been that bad“
Being “mature for your age“ is a good thing
Feel free to add any of your own, unfortunately there’s a lot of these and I could likely make the list longer if I’d take more time, but these are some important ones I wish to bring to light