There’s that one post about how the worst way to lose a friend is that you just stop talking to them and there wasn’t really a problem, you just drifted apart. I disagree. When you drift apart, there’s usually room for reconciliation in the future.
In my opinion, the worst way to stop being friends with someone is when they’re a generally good person and you like being around them but they have this like one trait that always ends up being a source of conflict. And you accept and try to work around the trait, but it always comes back around to fuck up the friendship again. And you try and try to make things work, and you give your friend numerous “second chances” but it always just leads to more problems. Until finally, you’ve been hurt by this friend so many times, that when their bad trait rears its ugly head again, you’ve had enough. You’ve been patient and nice and forgiving but this time, you just can’t be. It’s the end, you’ve reached your limit.
It’s not that you hate them, either. They frustrate you and they make you mad but you don’t hate them. You genuinely want them to be happy, but you just can’t be in their life anymore because it exhausts you. And when you remember them, out of the blue, you remember how important they were to you at one point. And that even if you’re initially angry when you think about them, you’re not really mad. It’s just residual anger.
I’d rather drift apart from a friend than be hurt by one.
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