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Love posts that go " hate people complaining that [word being used as slur] is a slur. It is literally not I am just using it to talk down on you and demean you and make you seem like a whiny bitch and igrno your issues/ make them appear non existent. Literally not a slur uggg.

Ok I’ll be the one to say it. Some of you don’t think anyone born with a vagina has the interiority or awareness of self to be a “real” tranny or discuss or opine or theorize about their own experiences with oppression. and its making you stupid

the insinuation that trans men are " young impressionable teenage confused girls " needs to be fucking stopped. not only does it erase the worth of trans mens identities, it's creepy, and unnecessarily infantalizing. it also perpetuates this cruel and mean idea that trans men are stupid and cant think for themselves. stop insinuating this harmful rhetoric.

it's also sooooo obvious that they dont want trans boys/men to transition because they feel entitled to young female bodies

we need more trans men in stem we need more trans men in humanities we need more trans men in the arts we need more trans men in trades we need more trans men everywhere and anywhere and we need to celebrate every single trans man who chooses himself over being a sacrificial lamb for cisfeminist narratives. go make that hrt appointment, boy, you do not fucking need to suffer in silence because you don't want to be "just another man in ___" you are not betraying anyone. cisfeminists betray you when they treat your existence like a symbol instead of a fellow person.

When it comes to this topic of "cracking a trans woman's egg", I see too many people kind of seem to have this attitude that they want to "crack a trans woman's egg" because it'll make them look good and feel good about themselves, rather than it being about actually, genuinely wanting to show someone care, love, and support, and helping and supporting them through a journey of self-discovery. You like the IDEA of a trans woman, and the IDEA that YOU got to be "The Special One Who Made This Trans Woman Realize Who She Is", but not because you love trans women and care about trans women and want to help people explore their identity and discover who they are, but because you want to feel good about yourself and look good to other people, like you just want to be able to brag about "cracking an egg", you didn't actually have a genuine care and interest in helping someone discover who they truly are.

I think if you bully trans girls for their style or interests or hobbies, especially if they’re just starting out exploring and discovering themselves and their identities, then honestly please shut up and refrain from making your opinion their problem. Girls who love spinny skirts and thigh highs and hyperpop music and plushies are cool as fuck and the only thing you should be doing is buying them even more of the things they love!!

reminder that trans men also fought for your rights and refusal to acknowledge this is tantamount to denying historical fact

being misogynistic to a trans man must feel good as hell when youre a woman whos scared to punch up to cis men and so you resort to punching down/sideways on a marginalized group of people who dont have the societal/systemic power/privilege to defend themselves

“masculinity (rather than gender conformity) is universally rewarded for everyone in general including women (and people perceived as women)” okay great. now please point me in the direction of this huge majority of successful rich famous unabashedly hairy hypermasculine butch women that should surely exist in the mainstream public eye if this is the case.

"but i have to be wary of trans women because so many have been transandrophobic" these bad actors are trying to make "trans woman" synonymous with "transandrophobe", are you going to let them?

the fear mongering around transmasculine people who sing going on testosterone genuinely pisses me off. yes, you will be able to sing. no, you won't lose your voice. no, low voices aren't ugly (where are people even getting this shit???). no, higher voices aren't prettier. sing through the changes (don't push anything). hydrate. h y d r a t e. please don't stop singing, your voice will sound amazing.

when i hear trans men and mascs saying things like “i know women have a right to be afraid. i know they are scared of men and it causes them to treat me badly but i have empathy for what they go through” i want to stop them, put my hands on their shoulders and look them in the eyes and say, you have more of a right, you have more reason to feel fear, you have more of a right to be afraid of men. women are not a vulnerable population because that is inherent to women, they are a vulnerable population because of how common rape and sexual assault are, because of reproductive rights and forced pregnancies, financial inequality, social prejudice and mistreatment, discrimination in education and employment, unequal burdens of labor and expectations, and more. you as a trans man or masc are likely deal with all of that in higher numbers than cis women. and sometimes higher, the same, and lower than trans women which i personally say to that let’s call the whole thing equal and move on. you know better than anyone how terrifying cis men can be, what discrimination based on your sex is like, the levels of harassment we face. we know why women are afraid because we experience all the same things. this does not give any woman the right to be discriminatory towards you, you do not have to see her side as if the oppression she faces is any more than what you do, as if you are somehow on the inside looking in. you’re not, you’re in the same room and in a particularly gnarly corner that they are not actually. and no one has any right to make it harder for you to be there. stand up straight, have dignity, demand the respect you are willing to give, and take up the space you deserve.