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This is what a real, qualified OBGYN will tell you about what women feel when they get an abortion

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It fucking doesn’t.

When I started dating my current boyfriend we talked for 6 hours on our first date and 7 hours on our second. We talked about a shit ton of different topics, and one of those topics was politics and the #metoo movement. We talked about sexual harassment and sexual assault.

Every step along the way towards us having sex he asked for my consent. The first day we actually had sex he made sure I was ready and checked in on me several times to make sure I was still enjoying myself. He was amazing.

I had men who were trying to flirt with me grab at me before I even knew who they were. I’ve had creepy old men decide giving me a shoulder massage while I was sitting down the perfect way they could introduce themselves. That is the type of touching we want to stop.

Any of the guys that are scared off by women saying “don’t touch us unless we ask” are the exact type of guys that need to learn about consent, women’s bodily autonomy and personal space.

If you are concerned that becoming friends with a women in the Me Too era will read to someone accusing you of sexual harassment, you need to rethink how you interact with women.

I have a bunch of guy friends, and none of them are afraid I’m going to accuse them of anything. Do you know why? We are friends. We treat each other with respect. Any of them can hug me goodbye or put their arm around me and I know they won’t touch me inappropriately. But when we first met that wasn’t true. We built a friendship of trust.

I am a hugger, I like hugging people. My friends know this about me, but when I meet new people I always ask them if it is okay that I hug them. I have had people say no, and I respect that and do not hug them.

Feminism is dead. Women’s history is being rewritten again after millennia of our achievements being hidden in the first place. 

If a woman in history was dressed as a woman and recognized as a woman while accomplishing great things, they claim she was probably a trans woman (as I’ve seen them pull with Sappho).

If a woman in history was dressed as a man because women weren’t allowed to do what she did, they claim she was probably a trans man and don’t recognize that she was disguised as a man because she had to be (as they are now pulling with Joan of Arc).

It’s like crossing the street in the middle of the day when a black person is walking in the opposite direction as you. Your statement is sexist just like my scenario would be racist.

If I (as a lesbian) saw these three people in public I probably would’ve been attracted to them before I was informed they were trans. I wont even lie, and I’m sure a lot of women or men would agree. BUT once id find out that they were males my attraction would immediately go away. I am not attracted to males, even if they are 100% “passing” or look like women. Im not attracted to penis’s or people who get their penis’s “turned into vaginas” and tbh these people are the same as these people who don’t pass

20 y//o transgender: ”You need dysphoria to be trans”

TRAs: ”NO NOT THOSE ONES!!!”

60 y//o trans woman: ”Young trans people need to realize that a trans woman can never become a real woman and vice versa”

Honestly, fuck this. I know many women - myself included - that, as we were younger, didn’t fucking “want” to be “a girl”.

You know why???

BECAUSE WE ARE AN OPPRESSED CLASS OF CITIZENS. And we already felt it but didn’t understand it.

Were we transgender because we used to go on about wanting to be a boy ‘cause it was so much easier???? NO. We were recognizing they weren’t oppressed the same way.

You wanna do makeup, wear dresses, force yourself to be pleasant for every guy around the globe? Go the fuck ahead. That is not what it means to be a woman. You wanna say you’re a woman while fashioning your big ass beard around? Must be nice having all the privileges of being a man plus all the fun of being called a woman.

I mean….. do you really believe being a woman is a feeling? Do you really believe all women share this same ✨magical feeling✨ that determines that they are women??

There’s no feeling to being a woman, the same as there is no feeling to being latin or black. We share physical - biological - characteristics that dictates how society will treat us.

It is not about what you want, choose or feel. It’s about what you are taught when you’re a child, what people expect of you, how they act around you, how you were presented the world. That is something that takes a life time to build, something that comes as soon as they know “it’s a girl!” before you’re even born.

“terfs want trans women to die” FALSE

“terfs want gender roles“ FALSE

“terfs hate sex workers“  FALSE

“terfs hate women who wear makeup“ FALSE

there is really so much propaganda all over this site that people are equating radfems to nazis, who had fucking concentration camps! (and by the way, no terf wants concentration camps so if you’re tryna reblog this to say that, it is FALSE)

radical feminism is just about the liberation of women from the patriarchy. y’all libfems hate on the patriarchy often but are too busy with your “empowerment” bullshit to actually challenge it. 

liberal feminism literally gives men what they want. men want women to wear makeup and have sex with them, and all your cries for  “empowerment” are giving them easier access to those things. 

no radfem hates prostitutes. we hate prostitution as a whole. we hate that we live in a world where women are forced to sell themselves to make ends meet. we hate that women and children are sold and abused and murdered. we hate the men who buy women and children. 

no radfem hates trans people or wants them to die. we just hate that trans activism has erased the struggles of women. we believe in sex-based oppression, because we recognize that you can’t just identify out of things like female genital mutilation and rape. and we’re anti gender roles too.

PART 1 OF THIS ASK

‘’issues’’ that are bothering radfems in no particular order and without my personal opinions on them:

prostitution - because purchased consent is not consent, it’s coercion. sex work is dehumanizing and traumatizing for women. 

pornography - which is prostitution on camera. it harms not only the women involved in the videos (physically and mentally) it also harms the viewers in the long run. (also 90% of sex workers want out of the sex industry).

surrogacy - similar to prostitution and pornography in the sense that women’s bodies become acquirable products for sale or rent. inhuman unethical and unnatural.

capitalism - which is the system that allows the commodification of women and their bodies. in a truly social society (ironic) women wouldn’t have to sell or rent out their bodies in order to survive. 

bdsm - wherein the majority of subs are women and the majority of doms are men. that results in: power imbalances, physical and emotional abuse and trauma. 

patriarchal religions - all holy books were written by men and serve to maintain and legitimize patriarchal power structures. FURTHERMORE. patriarchal religions falsely attribute the gift of creation to men when in reality every man on earth was molded from the flesh of women. (Adam you know where to stick that rib)

gender roles/femininity aesthetic as well as behavioral performances of femininity also serve to perpetuate patriarchal power structures. a woman who has been taught since birth to adorn her cage is too busy to reflect on what exactly she is adorning.

postmodernism/queer theory - radical feminism is based on materialism. women are oppressed because of their biological reality, which is not subjective, subjectable to changes or personal interpretations. postmodernism and queer theory are. according to queer theory one can identify into whatever class one wishes to, as long as one feels, or says one feels like a member of that class… wild.

the beauty industry - fills up the pockets of old wrinkly men. keeps women insecure, low self-esteem. their value and self-worth forever dependent on their physical appeal (to men). big bad.

marriage - marriage would be described by some as the wheels on which patriarchy is carried onwards. historically, marriage has been nothing but a transaction: a daughter, who belonged to her father now belongs to her husband, her reproductive labor, domestic labor, emotional labor and physical labor all at his disposition. (until death do us part!)

individualism - as opposed to class analysis. arguably the most overlooked and hardest ‘’issue’’ to overcome. it’s understandable that most women gravitate towards liberal feminism because they don’t have to analyze the reasons behind their actions, they don’t have to come to difficult and unappealing conclusions, they don’t have to feel the need to take action and stop engaging in whatever they are doing that’s harming women as a class. after all it’s their choice!

PART 2 OF THIS ASK

‘’solutions’’ to the issues

you say ultimate solution i say possible solutions. Depending on which radfem you ask you’ll get the following ones (again no personal opinions)

male exclusion - simply deciding to center one’s life and actions around females in all possible aspects.

refusing to birth male children

introspection - analyzing one’s actions and maybe asking oneself: is this something andrea dworkin would want me to do?

raising awareness - of all the issues mentioned above. spreading the radfem gospel.. not a solution but a step towards finding or creating a solution as a community.

being politically ACTIVE - political agency and action is essential for female liberation; especially concerning topics such as reproductive rights, legislation of prostitution, electing representatives ETC.

investing time and effort into making men aware of the issues, in the hopes that they’ll do their part for the liberation of women and do the same with their fellow men.

creating a virus that only affects the y chromosome, thus wholly decimating the male population within months or years.

PART 3 OF THIS ASK

‘’do y’all believe that NATURALLY women are just as capable as being soldiers or doing construction and things of that nature that are typically deemed male oriented jobs throughout history?’’

the question here isn’t if women are capable of being soldiers or construction workers or performing well at jobs that are commonly deemed ‘’male’’ the question here is, why do you see men as the norm and women as the other? why do women have to reach the male standard and not the other way round? are men *naturally* capable of being healers? carers? men have been waging war against men since times immemorial, women have been suffering the consequences for as long. what makes you think that women, as a class want to be soldiers? 

answer: you think because men have killed and maimed and tortured men, it must be an objective for women as well. you believe that whatever men do, it must become the example, the goal for women.  that’s your libfem-fueled distorted sense of ‘’’’equality’’’’ between the sexes. the truth is, there is no equality to be achieved within a system that is controlled by the class we aim to be equal to. it’s not about equality but liberation. 

ask yourself how much better would things have been, if there were less female soldiers and more female political leaders, how much better would things have been if the fates of whole continents and countries had not been completely determined by men, aka 50% of the population? how many wars would have been avoided? how many lives spared?  we will never know. 

PART 1 OF THIS ASK

‘’issues’’ that are bothering radfems in no particular order and without my personal opinions on them:

prostitution - because purchased consent is not consent, it’s coercion. sex work is dehumanizing and traumatizing for women. 

pornography - which is prostitution on camera. it harms not only the women involved in the videos (physically and mentally) it also harms the viewers in the long run. (also 90% of sex workers want out of the sex industry).

surrogacy - similar to prostitution and pornography in the sense that women’s bodies become acquirable products for sale or rent. inhuman unethical and unnatural.

capitalism - which is the system that allows the commodification of women and their bodies. in a truly social society (ironic) women wouldn’t have to sell or rent out their bodies in order to survive. 

bdsm - wherein the majority of subs are women and the majority of doms are men. that results in: power imbalances, physical and emotional abuse and trauma. 

patriarchal religions - all holy books were written by men and serve to maintain and legitimize patriarchal power structures. FURTHERMORE. patriarchal religions falsely attribute the gift of creation to men when in reality every man on earth was molded from the flesh of women. (Adam you know where to stick that rib)

gender roles/femininity aesthetic as well as behavioral performances of femininity also serve to perpetuate patriarchal power structures. a woman who has been taught since birth to adorn her cage is too busy to reflect on what exactly she is adorning.

postmodernism/queer theory - radical feminism is based on materialism. women are oppressed because of their biological reality, which is not subjective, subjectable to changes or personal interpretations. postmodernism and queer theory are. according to queer theory one can identify into whatever class one wishes to, as long as one feels, or says one feels like a member of that class… wild.

the beauty industry - fills up the pockets of old wrinkly men. keeps women insecure, low self-esteem. their value and self-worth forever dependent on their physical appeal (to men). big bad.

marriage - marriage would be described by some as the wheels on which patriarchy is carried onwards. historically, marriage has been nothing but a transaction: a daughter, who belonged to her father now belongs to her husband, her reproductive labor, domestic labor, emotional labor and physical labor all at his disposition. (until death do us part!)

individualism - as opposed to class analysis. arguably the most overlooked and hardest ‘’issue’’ to overcome. it’s understandable that most women gravitate towards liberal feminism because they don’t have to analyze the reasons behind their actions, they don’t have to come to difficult and unappealing conclusions, they don’t have to feel the need to take action and stop engaging in whatever they are doing that’s harming women as a class. after all it’s their choice!

PART 2 OF THIS ASK

‘’solutions’’ to the issues

you say ultimate solution i say possible solutions. Depending on which radfem you ask you’ll get the following ones (again no personal opinions)

male exclusion - simply deciding to center one’s life and actions around females in all possible aspects.

refusing to birth male children

introspection - analyzing one’s actions and maybe asking oneself: is this something andrea dworkin would want me to do?

raising awareness - of all the issues mentioned above. spreading the radfem gospel.. not a solution but a step towards finding or creating a solution as a community.

being politically ACTIVE - political agency and action is essential for female liberation; especially concerning topics such as reproductive rights, legislation of prostitution, electing representatives ETC.

investing time and effort into making men aware of the issues, in the hopes that they’ll do their part for the liberation of women and do the same with their fellow men.

creating a virus that only affects the y chromosome, thus wholly decimating the male population within months or years.

PART 3 OF THIS ASK

‘’do y’all believe that NATURALLY women are just as capable as being soldiers or doing construction and things of that nature that are typically deemed male oriented jobs throughout history?’’

the question here isn’t if women are capable of being soldiers or construction workers or performing well at jobs that are commonly deemed ‘’male’’ the question here is, why do you see men as the norm and women as the other? why do women have to reach the male standard and not the other way round? are men *naturally* capable of being healers? carers? men have been waging war against men since times immemorial, women have been suffering the consequences for as long. what makes you think that women, as a class want to be soldiers? 

answer: you think because men have killed and maimed and tortured men, it must be an objective for women as well. you believe that whatever men do, it must become the example, the goal for women.  that’s your libfem-fueled distorted sense of ‘’’’equality’’’’ between the sexes. the truth is, there is no equality to be achieved within a system that is controlled by the class we aim to be equal to. it’s not about equality but liberation. 

ask yourself how much better would things have been, if there were less female soldiers and more female political leaders, how much better would things have been if the fates of whole continents and countries had not been completely determined by men, aka 50% of the population? how many wars would have been avoided? how many lives spared?  we will never know. 

Yes, I did for real. Let’s start from the top ladies:

I’m a lonely gal with an online dating profile and the specific one I use connects with Instagram, my art Instagram. Around two weeks ago I got a DM from a cartoon icon. To my surprise, it was a girl from the dating site explaining that she messaged me there and got scared and deleted, regained confidence, and messaged me again on IG. To be honest, I was thrilled.

 We started chatting and for the most part, she seemed nice. Our conversations center her, but I figured she just wanted me to know her, so I didn’t mind. A day into chatting she told me her name: Valerie. I was super happy! I always wanted to date a girl named Valerie. I started to get that warm feeling in my chest; I daydream about having a girlfriend. We began making plans to meet. I found her dating profile. She wasn’t the prettiest, but that wasn’t big deal to me, besides her profile had no mention of her male origins; I thought she was female.

 Then it happened. We started talking about pride. I guess it clicked for her that I was in fact, a lesbian. 

She told me, “UGH I never state it on profiles or anything, but I feel like you actually have right to know since you’re really nice and we plan on meeting at some point but– I’m actually trans, not cis.” 

To which my dumbass said, “Thank you for being honest” instead of the answer, the right answer that I wanted which was “Read: 9:21″. The warm feeling fell into a pit in my stomach. I was livid, shaking mad, but then they started talking.

 “Oh Thank God. I was afraid you’d get upset and yeet me away like most other people.”

 I was and I wanted to, but I was afraid and felt, so, so, so awful. I’m cursed with empathy for shitty people. To be short I buckled. Told them that, “I’d never yeet you.”

We continued making plans, I put it at the latest date I could, the following Saturday (22-12-18) Though I tried to find anyway to tell them I wanted to back out without hurting them I couldn’t, so I went.

 It was a small date at the city library, we got overpriced coffee. They just showed me memes, told me I was “louder than they expected”, talked about their ex’s and old friends, and lamented about how boring a library date was (which they suggested). They even called a nazi a good guy, apart from the nazi part, which was shocking to say in the slightest.

 I felt so stupid the entire bus home. I should have noticed all the signs, how much they talked about themselves, how they looked, how they corrected me on useless media trivia. I stewed on it for awhile, and no I shouldn’t have, because I am a pussy-loving Lesbian Radfem. Something about myself that unlike them I never hid, ever. It’s on every profile I own and they shouldn’t of ever pursued me. They tricked me, and made me feel guilty for it.