Encouraging a Feedee is a lot more than telling them to eat!
A lot of people donโt take the time to understand that encouragement isnโt always about telling someone to eat. So, letโs expand on what encouragement means, so that we can be better Feeders, Encouragers or Mutual Gainers.
Remind them itโs okay to want to be fat and being fat doesnโt make them a bad person.
Tell them that they are beautiful or handsome with their new weight and that it suits them.
Reassure them that itโs great that they want to work towards their dream body.
Communicate that itโs okay if they decide that theyโre happy with the weight theyโve gained or they need to lose weight. Remind them that their bodily autonomy is important and itโs their choice.
Praise their increased appetite and tell them that their passion for food is wholesome.
Congratulating them for sticking to their daily calorie goals.
Tell them that itโs alright to take a rest when theyโre stuffed and they donโt need to push themselves 100% of the time.
When they tell you they arenโt feeling too good, have the empathy to reassure that itโs okay to have a relaxed day.
If they have done a good job at stuffing and overeating, aftercare is important. Encouragement isnโt only verbal, ask if they want to have their belly rubbed or if they would like to be cuddled. See if thereโs anything you can do to ease their discomfort. Is there a movie you can watch together? Maybe some music would go well with bloated snuggles?
Notice their softness and brighten their day by saying that you appreciate how cuddly they are / have become.
Reassure them by telling them that their gain is beautiful at any size and that all bodies gain differently. Show them the things youโve noticed and love about their growing body.
And if theyโre a guy, hype them up by saying the moobs theyโre developing look wonderful and really suit them.
Tell them that their double chin is beautiful.
When their clothes are getting too small, inspire them by telling them their belly popping out under their shirt is cute.
If youโve noticed that their confidence improve as they become happier in their body, make sure you let them know.
Have some empathy and reassure them by explaining that itโs okay to feel anxious about judgement and that youโll stand by them in judgmental situations.
Youโre their partner in this, have the time for them to discuss their anxieties and fears around gaining weight or being fat.
If they break furniture, laugh it off and say that itโs understandable that some furniture is too flimsy and itโs time to buy some new furniture that better supports their size.
As their body expands, tell them that you donโt mind helping them reach places they canโt when taking care of their body. Offer to tie their shoe laces and start getting things for them. Allow them to rest, remember it takes a lot of energy to maneuver bigger bodies.
If youโre moving too fast, remember your Feedeeโs size. Take steps to make them feel like they arenโt a burden with reduced mobility and tell them that you donโt mind taking things slower.
Remember that their body is their own and not yours to dictate.
And most importantly, always tell them that you love and admire them. Make them feel beautiful and welcome.
