Yo can we get some green flags for feeders 😭
Green Flags for Feeders 💚
🟢UNDERSTANDS AND EMPHASIZES THE IMPORTANCE OF CONSENT.
🟢 Knows the difference between “feedism” and “feederism”
🟢 Understands and respects boundaries and hard limits. Will not (without consent) push you further than you are truly comfortable with and will not get mad/angry when you use safe words during play
🟢 Has a willingness to establish safe words and other protocols to ensure you stay comfortable and safe during play
🟢 Has done research and understands the complexity of size discrimination and fat politics
🟢 Is a vocal advocate for the rights and equality of fat folks and other marginalized groups
🟢 When planning dates and outings, they take the time to plan the most comfortable route and accommodations for their larger partner. (restaurants with space and no booths, travel accommodations like taking uber instead of walking, buying extra seats on airplanes, etc)
🟢 Worships your growing body but also adores you and your body outside of the context of kink.
🟢 Sees you as a person first and not a sex toy. Values your opinions, hobbies, perspective. Appreciates your humanity and makes you YOU.
🟢 Constantly shows you how appreciative they are of your choice to participate in this kink
🟢 Values and protects the trust you have placed in them. (not sharing private photos, not using language that makes you self conscious, etc)
🟢 Occasionally pays for meals/stuffing sessions. And/or contributes to your meals and gain when possible.
🟢 Understands that being an online feeder/encourager does not by default offer the same privilege and authority as being an irl feeder/encourager. (There’s only so much you can realistically demand for through a screen)
🟢 Is aware of trendy plus size brands and clothing options that will accommodate their partner’s size
🟢 Follows fat people on social media (not to fetishize but to have a diverse social media experience)
🟢 Respects the limits to your gain and will not pressure you to gain more (without consent)
🟢 Stays aware and respectful of teasing and comments made about your gain in relation to your gender expression. Avoids triggering language and gender based teasing when there is no consent
There’s tons more so please feel free to add folks!
