How did you figure out that you were aroace?
it was a feeling I had for a while...I thought I was getting crushes or romantic feelings but it wasn't really romantic, I guess I was just experiencing what people call "friend crushes"...like wanting to be someone's friend so badly that it feels almost like romantic desire, haha. when I heard that there are actually people who don't feel romantic or sexual attraction I took a bit of a step back from those feelings and realizing I was forcing myself to have inauthentic romantic or sexual feelings so I felt normal -- there wasn't any option for me to be different before then, I guess. and that took a lot of the pressure off, so once I kind of accepted that those feelings weren't natural for me to have, I didn't miss them. and having someone like archie who understood how I was feeling (or at least accepted it and wanted to understand better) made me feel way better than I would've if I'd spent more time trying to feel "normal" things.
