I neeeeed people to stop conflating femme with “gender-conforming lesbian.” Both butch and femme are inherently gender nonconforming because they’re based in redefining masculinity and femininity in ways that don’t involve men. That’s like half the definition. Some of us have all of our body hair. Some of us have short hair. Some of us don’t wear a lot of makeup, or any at all. Some of us feel more comfortable in a suit than a dress. Some of us are loud, angry, and protective. Some of us aren’t women. Femmes are not a monolith of soft and delicate cis girls and I really need to see more recognition of that on this site before I go insane.

growing old with a femme. watching her hair slowly fade into a mix of the most beautiful grays and silvers. going out dancing with her even though our muscles ache for days afterwards. bringing her to our old favorite bars and restaurants just so i can see the light in her eyes shine brighter. getting choked up realizing how far we've made it. loving her more and more with each passing day.