At Her Feet

So... this is an interesting meme. I don't lead in my family. I have desires, opinions, wants, needs. But it's my husband who leads. This isn't a female led marriage. That actually sounds ridiculous to me. I'm not saying he comes in and tells me what to do! Bitch! He just... LEADS. He leads our family. He doesn't tell me what to do, he just... LEADS. He's the MAN in the family. Plans the shit out and does the work. He listens to me, and I do my own things, and he does his own things. He handles the finances, but we both know what's going on at all times.

Anyway, someone mentioned reality it earlier in a message to me, and I posted about it. Here though, is another example of REALITY in our relationship.

Now... I'm exploring my wants and needs more. Like when I get home, I demand a footrub and a back rub. I demand breakfast. I control sex, when and if, which recently is him watching me masturbate.

He's caged because he wants to be, but he's also caged because I want him to me.

Alas, life sometimes gets in the way of all the games. Last weekend, Father's Day, we had a lot of stuff going on, and very little play time.

And alas, today, it's a business trip for me.

Of course hubby is locked, and if I'm leaving for a week, I'm sure he's wanting some intimacy, yes?

Of course! So last night we cuddled, kissed, and he initiated intimacy and it got hot, heavy, and he asked to be unlocked so he could fuck me.

I said, no, no no, we arne't doing that. He argued he wanted romance before I leave, so I decided to give him romance.

He was at 550 paddles to go, so let's work on that, shall we, since the number had grown to 600. He was surprised, why had it grown? Well, it's like grass. It just grows if you don't mow it. So we needed to do some mowing. He didn't like the it just grows idea, but there was nother he could do about it.

So instead of getting any more tits, ass, or even seeing me cum, he got 300 hard paddles that pushed his limits. And to make it more fun... I had him sing with me: "For Romance!" after he counted each 10s of his spanks.

After 200 he assumed it was over and clung to me, hugging me, and recomposing himself... but I decided we needed MORE romance. And so... I beat him 100 more times... always singing FOR ROMANCE!

We're coming up on 4 years now since she cut me off from penetrative sex with her and she's taken note of how well I'm coping with it. Aside from giving her head from time to time, my only other sexual contact now is with Men, most often Doms that she arranges me to see for discipline. So it's not surprising that she's encouraging me to look inward, and consider whether, as I get older, I'm moving on from being bisexual to completely gay.

One of my main goals when I took charge of the relationship was to find ways to increase the intimacy between my husband and I, and surprisingly, one of the largest contributors has been male chastity. When men think of intimacy, they naturally think of sex. For most guys, it's the same thing.

We've all been there, right ladies? When you're not in the mood for sex but you know he wants it. A cuddle, a few kisses and some loving touches would be nice, but you don't go there because it will encourage him to pester you for sex and at that moment you just want to be held.

So you keep him at arms length, and you both lose out on intimacy just so you can avoid having unwanted sex. You end up feeling a bit guilty for holding him off and he feels rejected. It just sucks for both of you.

Enter male chastity. Why lock up his cock? Well, while he's wearing it, it removes the pressure on you to have sex when you not in the mood for it yourself. By keeping him on a fairly rigid release schedule, he knows it isn't going to happen for him that day.

One of the amazing things about male chastity is it teaches him that while sex and intimacy can be intricately linked, they aren't necessarily the same thing. He learns that, most of the time, he doesn't need to put his penis into you to feel loved and wanted.

While he can't have penetrative sex, he will still crave other types of intimacy, and he learns that most of the time, cuddling, kissing, and touching can be enough for him to feel desired and validated, even though he remains horny.

For me persomally, once the pressure to have sex is removed, I find myself being intimate with him more often than ever before, as the reason to hold him off is eliminated. Funny thing is, random loving kisses and caresses will often put me in playful mood, while knowing things won't escalate any further than I want them to at the time.

Feeling his lust for me, tends to fuel my own desire, and I find myself teasing him to distraction while he is so helplessly locked up. Even though he is still locked in chastity and will remain so, he can't help but want to touch and caress me back, and I begin to welcome his advances.. In his lust fueled state, sexual attention in any form is better than none at all, and he concentrates on my pleasure, giving me a wonderful orgasm that I didn't think I even wanted initially.