I use to struggle with this because I deeply value my relationships with people and I use to think that time spent with a person meant devotion and loyalty

Oftentimes I really hurt myself and stay in situations for a lot longer than I should've

That I've learnt as I've evolved is that I can still love them but from a distance in which is a healthy boundary

Sometimes people can become very emotionally codependent and I don't mind it for the most part but when the love you give, time and investment in them becomes like a doormat

That's when politely say no. I want to see change and grow and in doing so

Sometimes you gotta let go of their hand and let them figure out the answers for themselves

They'll either come back as a better version of themselves to come into alignment with you or you'll elevate higher that they will just be a memory of your a time in your life

— Apprehensions, Sylvia Plath