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Question for the aces... is it an asexual experience to frequently be horny and experience some sort of physical arousal, but simultaneously not want to even bother dealing with it because it's purely a bodily feeling? Like it's irritating to need, but the satisfaction of orgasming isn't good enough to warrant the effort needed to take care of it, y'know what I mean? It's just like. Idk. Maybe that's just some sort of dysfunction but I was curious if anyone else experiences this because it's frustrating!! 😭😭 and it's not like I'm gonna go look for a partner or anything because I don't want that either and it does even less for me.

(I do sincerely apologize if you don't take these sorts of asks, I'm just not sure who to talk to this about haha. Please disregard if that is the case!)

hmm, you could be aegosexual/autochorrisexual but alloromantic? Not that you need a specific label, you can just call yourself aspec if you want! BUT if you experience arousal but just not in the context of other people that could be a huge sign of being aegosexual!

So before I answer your actual question I wanna acknowledge your no discourse comment — ALL asexual or aromantic spectrum identities are 100% queer by default. When I say no discourse, what I mean is I don’t want anyone coming in to my inbox with Aphobia or trying to argue with me over whether or not a certain orientation is queer enough or not. Like, I’m here to validate aspec people’s queerness, but I’m not here to argue about it with exclusionists. So to answer that…yes, aceflux is queer and if you do feel you might be aceflux, that’s just as queer as you being pan and nb is!

To answer your actual question, I’ll get right to the point of saying there’s nothing wrong whatsoever with identifying as aceflux if you even SOMEWHAT possibly relate to the label. Even if you end up being “wrong” and it’s “just your sex drive” — you haven’t, like, harmed or appropriated actual ace-specs, you know?

but I would say you sound like you could hypothetically be aceflux. While “sometimes fully allo” and “sometimes fully ace” absolutely counts as aceflux, a lot of aceflux ppl will flux ALL around the spectrum — having allo days, ace days, demi days, lith days, gray days, cupio days, aego days, so many things I am forgetting! Is that also a thing for you? I would definitely do some internal searching to see if “fully ace” and “fully allo” are the only things you experience. If there’s more, you can almost definitely claim aceflux. Even if there’s not more, and you truly just switch between ace and allo, you still can call yourself aceflux of course, I just wanted to give more context!!

Non-aro people often say stuff like, "Oh, I have a crush on them, but I'm also okay with us just being friends." Or "We're not dating, we're just friends!" and similar things along these lines. Without even meaning to, they're implying that friendships/platonic relationships are less meaningful than relationships with a romantic element.

Both types of relationships are equally important! By saying that platonic relationships are less than romantic/sexual relationships, you're throwing aroace-spec people under the bus, without even meaning to.