TAURUS, Cancer, Virgo, Pisces, Capricorn, Scorpio

(Check ur rising)

1. Know what you want: It doesn’t have to be super specific but it can be! Define the experience you want as much (or as little) as you want. This is just a mental activity, you can create a list if you want but it’s just to know what you want. Take it as a brainstorming session.

(Optional but in the long run will make things easier)

1.2 What’s holding you back?: Write every single reason why it couldn’t work, let it all out. Now realize this are stories, try to find their source (did your mother tell you so? Or maybe it’s because things like that don’t happen to people like you?) either way, it’s bullshit. Turn every limiting belief into an affirmation. Write them down, keep them on your phone and read them twice per day for a week (minimum). As you read them make sure to feel what you’re saying. This will help you to create new thought patterns.

2. Speak it into existence!: Now comes the fun part. How do you want to manifest it? Maybe script everything as you want it to happen, visualize your outcome, say “wouldn’t it be nice if…” and forget about it, play and pretend you already have it, do the 55x5 method or maybe the 2 cup method, create a vision board…the possibilities are endless and everything works as good! Choose the one that calls to you right now and put all your focus and energy into it. Make it fun, make it easy, there’s no way you can mess it up.

3. Let it come to you: As a lovely follower said the other day, your order is on its way! There’s no need to stress about when or how it will come. Just know that you said what you wanted and now it will find its way towards you. Think of it as an amazon package. When you keep refreshing the tracking page seems like it never arrives but if you keep doing your own things an enjoy your life then seems like that package came super quickly.

My dreams are becoming reality.

Things are being put in front of me that are clear signs, and I can see them.

My intuition is so strong. I’m having premonitions and feelings I can recognize as true, that are true.

Nothing is a coincidence.

Things are just falling into place right in front of me. I feel so powerful.

Looking in his eyes and feeling so comfortable & content just laying next to him. Other times feeling like the silence between us is a flashing neon sign telling me to break up with him. I understand adult relationships are hard. They require patience, effort and sacrifice. But honestly how much am I suppose to sacrifice? I can’t wrap my head around being with someone who consistently makes me feel like I’m the only one who cares, the only one who tries. It’s not like I think he’s blatant asshole, I truly just think he’s that oblivious and honestly a little selfish. I think it also comes down to the fact that our needs are so vastly different. It seems like he’s okay with the most minimal barely recognizable form of an intimate & loving relationship. We could probably go 24 hours being in the same space, not saying a word to each other or even looking at each other & I don’t think it would faze him at all.

I don’t & have never before considered myself “needy” until the last couple of months. I started to think that was the problem, it was me being “needy”. I was just asking for too much of him, I was being overwhelming & unreasonable but that’s BS. I finally had the guts to ask friends (both male & female) & the resounding answer was that I was expecting what the majority of other humans want from a relationship. Intimacy, passion, an unspoken agreement that we would take each other’s feelings into consideration. I’m not crazy, I’m not needy, I’m fucking human & just asking of him what any other fucking human would of a romantic partner. So why?!?! WHYYYY?? Is that so hard to get from him. Don’t get me wrong he’s not some cold, unfeeling monster. He has his moments, times where he does things that make me so happy. Like getting me water anytime my cup is low, helping me make breakfast even though he hates cooking & if he’s at a store 8/10 times he’ll get me my favorite snacks whether or not I’ve asked or need anything. It’s small things but they mean a lot to me & I think that the little things matter a lot.

On the flip side though how am I supposed to quantify the importance of all these little things and all the big stuff which he’s not doing? Like the fact that I feel like I have to force him to carve time out to talk to me. Or the fact that he’s too tired and disinterested in going out just the two of us but the second his friends call & ask to go out he’s immediately on board. How about the fact that we haven’t had sex in over two months or even more heartbreaking and completely demoralizing to me as a woman the fact that we haven’t had a kiss that last longer than 5 seconds in months. How am I supposed to live with that? I make it a point to tell him that I love him or that I think he’s attractive several times a week. I feel like his responses are just given so that he has something to say back, they lack sincerity or thought. Is this just a slump, is this what happens after a year of being/living together? Am I just in this naively hoping things will get better?

Sometimes, showering is a lot harder than people say. This is why dry shampoo, deodorant, and body spray are great.

Everyone else is too caught up in their own insecurities to notice yours.

(But sometimes people will take out their own insecurities on you, and they’ll be able to notice your insecurities and they’ll berate you for them. These people are huge jerks, but totally not the majority)

Some people (primarily girls) in highschool get up two hours early to do their makeup, and that’s good for them if they genuinely enjoy it!

Most people roll out of bed with no makeup at all, or they quickly slap on foundation and chapstick. These are both totally normal and no one will care.

Relationships (romantic, platonic, familial, etc.) shouldn’t bring more negativity and stress into your life than they bring good. Don’t put “the loyalty you owe them” or “being kind” above your own wellbeing. 

Unless you’re a naturally very oily/sweaty person, you can totally get away with wearing clothes more than once for everyday wear.

Relationships can be really hard, it’s fine to focus on yourself instead of seeking out romantic partners.

You know yourself a lot better than a lot of adults give you credit for. If you feel something is a strong, integral part of your character, it’ll probably stick around.

That being said, phases aren’t inherently bad. Don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary things you might later regret, but “going through phases” is a normal, healthy part of development.

If someone creeps you out, trust your gut. It might be nothing, it might be a life or death thing, but why have a friendship with someone who gives you bad energy, anyways?

No one truly experiences their gender and sexuality the exact same way. It’s fine to not relate 100% to the mainstream depiction of a label, but have it be “close enough”. Don’t stress too much.

Life can suck sometimes, but living shouldn’t be painful.

If you’re always sad and exhausted, or shaky and panicky, or have severe “teenage mood swings” making it hard to function, that isn’t normal. You are entitled to help for this, and there’s people who want to help you.  

If something is threatening your friend’s life, you need to tell someone. Your friend might be mad, they might hate you for it, but if it keeps them safe, please tell an authority that you can trust to help them.

Menstruation isn’t supposed to hurt so bad that you have to stay home from school, or that you throw up anything you eat. There’s help for this. This doesn’t have to be something that your body is just “cursed with”.

There’s tons of people out there who will love you. Even if you feel isolated in your current circumstances, you’re not an unlikeable person who will only ever have friends online. You’re going to meet people just as weird as you are.

1. this might seem obvious, but wash your pants too. if ur like me and rewear those same leggings for 3-4 days in a row AND wear thongs or lace undies or bikini cut or really any underwear… just fucking wash your jeans trust me.

2. seriously just use moisturizer. ik ur reading this and just had a thought starting with “but…” girl there is no excuse for you not to. i’m a greasy ass italian bitch who sweats every fucking day and the right moisturizer changed the game for me.

3. be patient with skin products/regimes. shit doesn’t change overnight, but it works. although if you do experience redness or dryness stop using that product immediately.

4. just go to the doctor. if you have insurance or are still on a parent’s insurance, visit the doctor any time there’s even the slightest issue. they can help with mental health as well as physical health fyi.

5. treat the doctor like your best friend. don’t hold back. if your pussy hurts, speak the fuck up. if you’re smoking hella weed and it’s causing u issues, just tell them. some of them can be assholes but generally speaking they’re really there to help and will appreciate the honesty.

6. don’t freak out over a pimple. this isn’t just a “ohh ur still beautiful!!” thing it’s also a “the more u think about it, the more you’ll subconsciously touch it, the more it’ll get irritated” thing.

7. excercise. walk. get out in the air. offer to go grocery shopping with ur parents. walk around the block. exert yourself just a tiny bit every day, you’ll sleep better.

8. if your sleep schedule is off, don’t try to pull an all nighter to fix it. you will fail. work it back up to a normal time hour by hour daily.

9. busty ladies, invest in a nice bralette or other wireless bra from an online vendor. i’m a size 38F so finding them in stores can be tricky but they’re worth it. on days where i wanna just be casual and comfy but like yaknow in a cute sexy way, they’re perfect.

10. be confident & be unique! don’t sweat it if u are or aren’t atm, just find the things about yourself that make you YOU and go fucking HARD on that one thing (or few things). don’t be afraid to stand out, but also don’t be afraid to be misunderstood.

11. soap. cleanser. exfoliator (twice a week MAX). toner. moisturizer. in that order.

12. go to a movie alone. pretend nobody else is in the theater. react like you would at home watching a movie on netflix (with your parents or roommates home so that u don’t talk loudly in a theater).

13. go vegan. even if you don’t care about animals (lord knows i don’t), it’ll encourage you to eat better by boxing out bad foods. somebody brings in cookies to work? tell them you can’t have any cause you’re vegan. they’ll respect it or fear you’ll start ranting to them if they push you anymore.

14. go a little while without shaving your pussy, see what happens. if you don’t like it, shave it again and you’ll have a smoother-than-normal downstairs :)

15. have a go-to mindfullness place. an image in your head that doesn’t remind you of anything that causes worry. mine is an imaginary field in the middle of a forest, and i pretend i’m a big grizzly bear feeling the grass on my back. try to really make this image come to life in your mind. think of this when you’re suffering from insomnia, when you’re panicking, when you’re sad, when you’re alone.

16. speaking of depression tips! go buy a journal right now. when you’re having a meltdown, open up the journal and start listing things you love. this includes (but is definitely not limited to) mundane things like socks or hardwood floors. it forces you to be in a mindset that thinks positively about things and simultaneously reminds you of the good in the world.

17. are you sad? put on fun/goofy music and deep clean your room.

18. wash your pillowcases you dirty bitch. i know you drool in your sleep. and your nasty face is rubbing all on it all the food you ate today is just rubbing all over that motherfucker ew just wash your pillowcase.

19. hate prepping for extended-family holiday visits? ask for lush spa giftcards for christmas. and if they think that’s too impersonal, just tell them to order whatever at all from their website. you can’t really go wrong with lush products.

20. make a playlist that makes you feel sexy and put it on. listen, dance and wiggle in your bed or chair, and then masturbate for the best nut of your life!

21. do rituals. something that makes you feel like you’re in control of the universe. it can be as simple as lighting a candle and thinking really hard about the same sentence over and over. it’s hella empowering.

22. binge watch 2 shows at once. one for comedy/lighthearted fun and another that’s maybe more serious but something you’ve wanted to see for a while. switch them out as you see fit.

23. listen to audiobooks! find a use for them, whether it’s sleeping, walking around, or just mindless daily tasks.

24. don’t over caffeinate if you are prone to anxiety. if your absolute maximum is 4 cups of coffee per diem, start replacing your regular daily coffee intake (let’s say it’s two cups) with 4 cups of black tea. don’t drink any caffeine after 6 unless it’s a special occasion.