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Women Empowerment: Ina ng tahanan

Ina, Nanay, Mama, Mommy, and there are so many names that we use to call the woman that made a big impact in our life and growth. The on who bathed us, changed our diapers, treated our wounds, our shoulder to cry on, our first childhood bestfriend, the super woman in our life. Mama, they are the ones that cleans our sh*ts when we are in the stage of just being a troubled teen. We even sometimes blame them for our mistakes and failures, but they endure all of the words that we have thrown at them, especially when we are angry at something. Mothers are strict and can be cruel sometimes, just so you know that is their only way to keep us away from doing a mistake and letting us know--through actions--that they care and love us.

If we look beyond all of the bad things that we thought about our mothers, we may then realize that they are the best super heros we have ever met. They have the world's toughest job, that we couldn't even imagine is possible, base on the video that the American Greetings and Cardstore made about moms, it is said that they have the toughest jobs because they work in exchange for nothing, no income. They work in unlimited hours, no break, constantly standing, can keep up with the needs of their associates (family/children) and everything. They woke up late at night when we are still in diapers, crying for milk. They also wake up early in the morning, that some og us may have the hard time to do so, just to cooked and prepared food for us. There are just so much things that they can do just for us and we sometimes don't appreciate those little things. For me the only thing that we could repay our super woman is by saying "Thank you Mom and I love you" the only words they want to hear from us.

THIS ALSO WORKS FOR ME TOO!

Leaders helps themselves and others to do the right things. They set direction, build an inspiring vision, and create something new. Its all about mapping out where you need to go to “WIN” as a team or an organization, and it is dynamic, exciting, and inspiring. A true leader knows who they are and what they stand for. They know their values and the rules they will abide, regardless of the circumstances they face. They allow their peaople to understand. True leaders work right. They are willing to hear what others have to say without rushing to judgement.

Everyone seem to be looking for romantic love. A prince charming, a queen, their other half, a man whom they can call “mine”. But for me, being present and that I’m still walking here on Earth is God’s Love. He let me live longer. Becasue He knows that somoene is waiting for me, my ‘equal’. LOL

My parents love for me, is the reason that I’m lively and healthy today. And that is love for me. Nurtured with love and care, not by material things

HOW I DEAL / MANAGE STRESS :

1. I WRITE IT DOWN. I owned a “JOURNAL”, (NOTE: there’s a big difference between a journal and a diary), and in my journal i write down what keeps me from being stress, KILIG, and all problems that I’ve encountered. But most of it is consist of all the things that’s stressing me out and foul languages. And I also put the date of all the events, just because.

2. I WELCOME HUMOR. A good belly laugh won’t do us any harm, right? So i just laugh it off and I let myself be surrounded with crazy people for a good laugh. Stay Crazy, Stay Crazy. GV always

3. TALK TO SOMEONE. I tell my friends and family, mostly my friends “ang mga baboy”, that I feel overwhelmed , and let them know how they can help me. I sometimes ask for some advice.

4. BE ACTIVE. I keep myself busy, because sometimes distraction helps the stress to....babyee Stress. Stress no more.

5. I DO SOMETHING THAT I ENJOY. I eat and eat and eat and eat and eat and eat. Every time I get stress, a mouth watering food is the best solution for me and also the main reason for my sexiness. And I also do stuff like dancing, I listen to Beyonce and everything goes blank.

“YOUR EMOTIONS MAKE YOU A MONSTER”

Most people reckon they know how to handle their emotions. It’s easy, right? You control them, you manage them (lest they manage you), you get on top of them. 

This is all advice that’s been touted loudly and long about how to ‘best’ your emotions.Well, guess what? It’s all wrong. There’s only 3 approaches to emotions, and none of them is about “management”.

David Rock has written the brilliant Your Brain at Work. He says you only have 3 choices once emotions kick in: You can express, suppress or transform the emotions.

Here’s how :

1. Express the emotions.This is what kids do. If they’re upset or frightened, they cry. If they’re happy, they laugh and run around. I’d landed at the Brisbane international airport and everyone was a bit grouchy and stiff from the long flight. A boy aged about 8 was running around the baggage carousel, laughing. First, I was a bit irritated (my grouchometer was pretty high at that point). Then I imagined what would happen if an adult was doing the exact same thing this boy was doing, and it made me laugh out loud. There we all were, stifling our emotions (and our knee joints). And there this young lad expressing himself. Who was the smart one?

2. Suppress the emotions. This requires holding the emotions down and attempting to keep them from being visible to others. This is the strategy that many people use, particularly in cubicle land. Don’t feel it – manage it! Don’t express it – control it!

3. Transform the emotions.

Rock calls this cognitive change. “Even after you have gotten yourself into a bad situation, you can still, at this late stage, think about it differently”. There are two ways you can transform emotions:

(a) Labelling — putting a label on the emotion. This works best when you are succinct — if you talk too much about or enter into a dialogue with your emotions, it tends to increase the level of painful emotions you experience. So short is better – sit with the emotion for a moment, give it a label, let it go. I was a conference call the other day and found myself getting agitated by what someone was saying. Instead of pushing that emotion down or trying to ignore it, I gave it a few seconds of attention, asking myself what is this emotion? When I found it – annoyed – I did a quick label “I’m feeling annoyed” then let it go – so much easier to do after I’d quickly labelled it. The other thing that works well with labelling is using a metaphor – “this emotion is like….” I’ve used this approach in corporate workshops for years and I can tell you it works. We did an exercise where we used metaphor cards to help identify emotions. This emotion is like a herd of zebras – there’s dark and light here. Or this emotion is like a garden path – it’s taking me somewhere. It doesn’t have to make logical sense (metaphors often don’t); your unconscious knows how it folds together. This is not a process you need to share – it is largely an internal process.

(b) Reframing — putting a different interpretation onto the same set of circumstances (or “facts”). This is an effective “braking” mechanism – it puts the kybosh on your strong emotional pain in smart order. It’s a version of Shakespeare’s tenet that “there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so”. How you sort and ‘file’ the event makes all the difference in the world to how you feel about it and how it affects you. You can label it horrible, bad, terrible….. Or you can print out a different label like “useful” or “I learned something important” or “the upside to this was…”. Even if you’re not sure if this possible or that there’ll be a single answer to those questions, try it. You’ll be amazed at how your unconscious will deliver an answer to you, if you only ask, be still, don’t judge and listen.

What’s your choice?

Suppressing your emotions

Expressing your emotions

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