Gone fishing

To all the other wonderful gold star lesbians here: you are the ones keeping this crumbling society from falling apart. I for one, appreciate all of you immensely and your unique takes to the non-gold star "lesbians", bisexuals and heterosexuals.

I came here so angry and unreconcilable over the fact that no one seemed to understand my experience in the bihet world and would always seem to find excuses for others, rather than believing me. Forgiveness is not a fix-all. That is not something that I ever subscribed to.

You (I don't won't to @ anyone because I don't want others to target any of you) showed me that I was not the only one who was wronged by bisexuals in such a personal, specific way and the continuous dragging down of an entire movement meant to liberate women by heterosexual/het partnered women; that I am right to feel what I feel towards them and that I am not alone.

There was was an intrinsic curiosity to go deeper and analyse their patterns even closer, so I see that it is not a one time thing, that this has happened generation after generations and that they live in a loop. Ground-hog day style.

I don't want to be stuck with them.

I have more reasons than ever to avoid them, I've cleaned up my slate and started fresh. It helped me a lot to write here, so I can let out all the frustration.

I was finally heard, I can move on, I can move forward. Thank you for listening.

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(...Don't worry, I'll still lurk around from time to time. I have a limit of being around heterosexuals and bisexuals at work.

For starters, communism would be the dream of conservatives and republicans alike, not the other way around. Sex was only perceived to be designed for reproduction, therefore heterosexuality was seen as the only sexuality that was "healthy". On top of that, the gender expectations and life conditions where extremely rigid. Plus, the complete censorship of what was deemed as unfit; there was strict control when it came to one's private life.

That being said, I will focus my attention on how it all intruded on same-sex attraction.

Article 200

Homosexual relationships were considered to be a criminal offence and we're punished by law with 1 year up to 5 years in prison.

It was said that there is no such thing as being homosexual and communist, that it is a capitalistic idea. We were the enemies of the people, opposite to the communist values.

It was illegal to even search for someone of the same sex, you could end up taken by the militia/police for showing mere interest, sometimes just accusations were enough.

Everyone could be an informer, even your neighbour. If one got caught, and they caven in from all the physical and/mental abuse during their interrogation and ended up denouncing others, even under the promise of not ending up in jail, that leniency was not guaranteed.

There was a general fear of not getting caught by the militia. (They kept a file of morals with their names, photos and statements.)

After getting out of prison, they'd lose their jobs and they were marked for the reason they lost it, their family disowned them and everyone knew about it and now, especially, militia had their eyes on you to make sure they behaved.

Intelectuals had the biggest target on their heads, because the regime believed they were more prone to homosexuality, due to their contact with the outside world.

Under the threats imposed by the communist regime, some seeked asylum in foreign countries or just fled the country all together.

There were arrests done even in 1993, the last one was pardoned in 1998, Mariana Centiner spent 3 years in prison.

The article was barely repealed in 2001 at the insistence and pressure of international organisations.

Even after the regime had fallen, homosexuals continued to get harassed on the basis of the Article 200. The orthodox church had a hand in the constant railing up of the people, delaying it to be repealed.

Romania had the full extent of what happens when abortions are made illegal, there is no access to contraceptions and no sex ex, while at the same time pushing the propaganda that a woman's duty to her country and what will make her the most fulfilled is to have children (as many as she could).

All the gruesome details of how it affected women's lives at every level and the generational trauma that was left behind, is documented here:

Some examples: Two jobs ago at a company during lunch break, two feet away from me, my female teamleader said jokingly that she finds a woman attractive and she would date her and the male trainer (implied if anything else happens) to film it.

and as well, as told by her, in the past, that same male trainer made continuous racist jokes about her husband. She did nothing about it, just swallowed them.

It seems to me that she was higher in position than him, despite this, during work hours he was talking shit behind her back with another male colleague.

He followed the question by fucking debating about how "he does the same chores as women do" and "what do we do more than them?".

If the walking penis looked a bit at the history of women and what men did to them, he would've concluded that the fact we don't round them up and burn them at the stake in the current day, every year on Women's Day, to make up for the damage they've caused, is a blessing.

These men act so fucking entitled and without any self-awareness for Mother's Day as well: "Why don't fathers have a day? ", I'm sorry I'm not celebrating the high number of abusers and molesters of children.

Radical feminism proves that. No matter how many statistics they see and no matter how many years they go though horrible abuse at the hands of men, they will still run after a "better one" or even get cocky in believing that "they have the right tools now, therefore they can outsmart male depravity" .

No matter how misandrist they sound, they still want to be with their mediocre male and nothing will change their minds. They have absolutely no self-preservation or self-respect and that is why they are dangerous, because that is an indirect indication that they will throw you under the bus if the opportunity arises.

They cannot play the victim and blame it on female socialisation/brainwashing after they get to that point, but they still do, because they cannot take any accountability. They are making the choice to not only put themselves in danger, but other women around them as well.

These actions should not be embraces by a feminist movement or a society that seeks to further female rights.

You bind yourself to males, the ones who have the boot on your throat and pretend you still have the power to dictate if his boot is there or not.