Hello Sugar...

Someone I know (who I haven’t seen properly for...I dunno 6 years?) messaged me and asked if I’d listen to a song they’ve written and give some critical feedback. I really don’t want to do this and also I’ve got a lot on right now so I politely said “Look, you can send it to me but I really don’t know when I’ve got time to listen to it because I’m back-to-back with patients and work today and then over the weekend I’ve got loads of stuff to do and a deadline to meet next week” and they messaged back saying “Oh but it’ll only take three minutes”

Okay but it won’t take three minutes; first I have to endure listening to something I know will make me cringe (which will feel longer than just three minutes) and then I have to take time to analyse it and give critical feedback. And whilst you could still argue it won’t take long, it’s still giving free emotional labour and is taking time out when all I want to do this weekend is prioritise myself and my wellbeing because I broke down in tears in supervision this week.