you should have kissed your girlfriend

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Evan "Buck" Buckley in 9-1-1 S01E08 ~ Karma's a Bitch

if you’re at a gathering and you see someone not eating, no you don’t

there are dozens of reasons why someone might not be eating - allergies, intolerances, medical conditions, preferences just to name a few

the why doesn’t matter and is not your business

your curiosity and/or well-meaning pushing people to eat when they aren’t wanting or ready to can do a whole lot of harm