Parker had no clue how he was supposed to let her know he was deaf before she got up to the alter so he just let her walk up. He smiled nervously as he watched her for just a moment, reaching out to shake her hand when she had offered it. He looked passed her for just a moment to see what his translator was signing and nodded as he signed back, the translator saying out loud what he was signing. âHi, Iâm Parker. Itâs nice to meet you too. Iâm deaf, this is my translator Mike. He comes along for special occasions.â He signed, waiting for Mike to finish talking and he looked at Andrea, hoping she wasnât freaked out or anything. He knew it could take someone off guard, especially if they knew nothing of deaf culture or how to interact with someone who was deaf and here she was about to be married to someone who couldnât hear a word she said. He watched her for a moment, looking up to the person doing the ceremony for a moment before he looked back to his bride.Â
The adrenaline was coursing through his veins as Parker cleared his throat, rocking slightly on his tip toes and heels. The officiant started the ceremony, Mike signing all the words and Parker watched, taking in every word. It became time for vows and Parker looked straight at Andrea, signing his vows to Mike could say them. âWow. What to say to the person you are to marry but have never met. There are so many things people say in these things but theyâve known each other for a long time. Iâm rambling, sorry, bad habit. I promise to take care of you, to learn, to show you the world and everything it has to offer. I promise to prove to you how good of a husband I can be. I promise to do my best to be good for you.â He finished. He had never been a good writer so he hoped that she liked the vows that he had managed to come up with having not known her before.
There was sincere shock that covered her features when it dawned on her that the man before her, the man she was supposed to be spending the rest of her life with, was deaf. She turned to look at the interpreter as he spoke, translating the signs that Parker was making before her eyes landed back on him. For a moment, panic welled inside of her. Communicating in a marriage was hard enough when both parties could speak to each other but how were her and Parker supposed to communicate when they couldnât understand each other? She didnât know ASL and he couldnât hear her. How was this supposed to work? But the panic lessened momentarily when she caught the eyes of her father, soft and patient and sure. She closed her eyes and took a deep breath. She had to trust that the experts had put them together for a reason, that Godâs hand was in all of this.They would figure it out. With a smile on her face, she opened her eyes and let them meet Parkerâs with a small nod, hoping to communicate silently that while yes, she was nervous, she was also okay with this. She wasnât going to run or back away. She was ready to figure this out with him.
The ceremony continued and Andrea paid close attention to each word being spoken, taking in everything that was being shared because this is was important. This was the marriage they were cementing. When it was time for the vows, Andie faced Parker. Though Mike was speaking, Andrea was giving Parker her full attention, watching his signs as he spoke to her and laughing at his comment about rambling. And as he finished, Andrea smiled at him and offered him her hands for him to grab. When it was her turn, she took a deep breath before starting to speak, keeping her focus on him even as she watched his gaze drift to see what his translator was signing. âIâve had vows in my head since I was old enough to understand the concept of love and marriage but that all seems so fantastical now that Iâm standing hereâŚready to marry a stranger. Marriage is hard and itâs going to be harder for us because we know nothing about each other, so I wonât promise you a fairy tale or anything of the sort. I do promise to stick by your side, through the hard times and the bad times. To learn with you and figure out how we can make this work. Supporting, caring, helping each other as we learn about each other, this marriage and where we fit in this crazy world. I promise to make you laugh, and I promise to make you cry. I promise to make you smile and make you ask yourself why you go into thisâ.â She chuckled, flashing him a grin at the poor joke she made before sobering up and looking sincerely and genuinely at him. âI promise to try my very best to be a good wife and your best friend.â She finished, hoping he had liked her vows as much as she had appreciated his.Â
As she finished, the officiant started speaking again, coming to the point where they exchanged rings. As per tradition, the officiant addressed Parker first, introducing the exchange of the rings that was about to happen. The nerves that had never quite left her were building in strength. She fidgeted, hoping that he wouldnât back out in the last seconds, that he wouldnât care that she didnât know his culture or his world or that they were going to have a hell of time communicating but would rather choose to stick through this and work on it together.Â