watch how you talk to yourself and how you talk about yourself.
and i say this because many people talk badly about themselves as if they are not the operant power of their life. if you are on this journey long enough, you know that words are powerful, even as a joke. and if they are so powerful, why not use them in more powerful ways?
"watch your conversations carefully; are they from premises of fulfilled ideas? if they’re not, go back and make them and make them actually correspond to the ideal you want to embody in this world."
♱ the coin of heaven, neville goddard
how you talk to yourself and about yourself comes down to your belief about yourself. that inner knowing that you have or are that "negative trait." even if you don't say it to yourself, if you have that belief, you will unconsciously downplay yourself when talking to others.
i am not saying you have to boast and egotistically look down on others. you can think highly of yourself and talk highly about yourself without doing that. you don't have to constantly tell people that you are this and that because your energy alone can tell it. otherwise, you are just simply disguising your confidence with narcissistic behaviors to seek validation from others.
how i changed my conversations.
as i have been working on my self-concept over the years, i realized one thing: if i want to be the person i desire to be, i cannot talk badly about myself and to myself. so, what i did is i actively catch myself when i am about to say something that doesn't align with me. i changed it to a more uplifting and powerful statement.
whenever i am having a conversation with others and i have the urge to downplay and talk badly about myself to appear "humble," i choose to stay silent or say something that people would not find boastful. (i say this because i am typically not surrounded by people who think highly of themselves yet, so they might find me boastful or arrogant.)
i understand that in order to talk highly about myself, i have to
know that my natural self is divine
love myself unconditionally
these are the things that i realized as i work on myself. i am aware that if i change my inner beliefs and conversations about myself, it means i am deciding to choose to be the person who i desire to be. things come easily to me as i love myself more and more every single day of my life.
and it is so important to be surrounded by people who actually like themselves and think highly of themselves because if you are already that kind of person, you would not see each other as arrogant or boastful. instead, you will uplift each other more.
