This spell is for anyone who worries their gender identity is not real/valid, maybe because of their own doubts or someone else’s. I felt the world needed more gender spells that work for all genders, not just the binary ones. Try to do this when you aren’t feeling particularly dysphoric or upset because of the way you are treated for your gender. You should be in a calm and confident state; this spell relies heavily on your confidence.
Note: This spell isn’t for cis people! I mean, you can do it, but your gender is accepted as valid by like… everyone. So it probably won’t do much. If you just want to do it because you like the idea of it and you like your gender, go ahead. But again it will be more for aesthetics than actual function.
jar or container with lid (a bottle with a cork works just fine)
basil leaf or slip of paper
pen and ink, marker, etc. (nothing erasable)
optional: objects, trinkets, poems, etc. that represent your gender
Come up with a sigil that you feel represents your gender; you can do this any way you like. It should be written on either the basil or paper. You can use an ink color that represents your gender to you, or your favorite color, or one that represents the emotion you want to give to this spell.
Drop the paper/leaf into the container, you can say an affirmation of some sort if you like. It should probably be about how your gender is real, your identity is valid, your existence matters, etc. At this point you can add any items that you feel represent your gender identity; these will help strengthen the spell and direct its energy for the right purpose.
Drop the lavender into the container. This represents protection of yourself and your identity. An affirmation about how no one else can tell you who you are would be appropriate.
Seal the jar as you say, “As I seal this (container), I protect my identity from those who wish to harm me.” Place the quartz on top of the lid. The weight of the quartz should be enough to keep the container from opening. The idea is that the protective energy of your affirmation will stay trapped inside the container, the sigil directs the energy, the lavender protects your identity from erasure or harm, and the quartz strengthens the spell. You can skip the quartz but it might not work as well.
Keep the container somewhere visible, but safe and permanent (i.e. don’t carry it in your pocket, but place it somewhere like your bedside table).
The container should not be opened for any reason; the exception being if you feel your gender has changed (you should burn the lavender and the sigil and start over). If you are genderfluid or any sort of polygender you don’t need to do this every time your gender changes; just include items to represent all of the genders you feel/ make sure the sigil is inclusive of all the genders you feel. (You could also just do “genderfluid”). You could even include a vial of water as it represents change and fluidity.
If the container opens for some reason, the spell will lose some of its energy. It is your choice how you wish to fix this; you could try charging it in the sun or moonlight, starting all over, adding more items and affirmations, etc.
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