A la mode de Lisa

-It’s the treatment of pregnant prisoners -It’s the forced sterilization of women of colour and getting the paperwork signed by sneaking the paperwork into other forms while the person is in labour and medicated from that -It’s the inability for white women to get sterilized at all when they ask repeatedly, even when it will kill them if they do not, even if they’re already sterile and the procedure would only remove pain, not the ability to give birth as a result -It’s the inaccessibility to healthcare for low-income families -It’s the inaccessibility to birth control for low-income people -It’s the inaccessibility to comprehensive sex-ed -It’s the likelihood that a woc will not receive pain medication of any kind while giving birth, or will receive it later in the delivery process than a white person -It’s the doctor after doctor who will ignore what the pregnant person wants for their own care during the labour process, even in cases where the doctor decides something that is not medically necessary (No, not all c-sections are medically necessary, neither are all episiotomies) -It’s the huge number of people who suffer from post birt trauma, who are treated so poorly by their doctors that they suffer actual PTSD symptoms from giving birth.

I don’t think people realise how easy it is to feel ugly when you’re South East Asian.

I know so many popular East Asian bloggers, who always get so many notes because of how elegant and refined and. Pale. They are. Those are standards most of us can never achieve. I’ve never seen a selfie set of a southeast Asian girl break 1k: but I’ve seen plenty, and I mean plenty of pale East Asians break 3k easy.

I know East Asian bloggers who go on about racism against East Asians and act like it’s universal. I know some who will talk about East Asian racism but never breathe a word about racism against southeast Asians.

I know East Asian bloggers who literally don’t follow any South East Asians. The ones who say that it doesn’t matter because “we’re all East Asian!” Technically. Or those who act like we’re a different breed and a different species.

I wonder if most East Asians know that their beauty standards get passed down to our countries. I wonder if they know how it hurts a lot of us.

So I’m giving a shoutout to every southeast Asian girl. Every one of you,if us, deserves to feel pretty.

I’m talking about the Indonesian gals with broad noses. The Malay girls who wear Tudung and are mocked. Chinese Singaporeans who are still not “Chinese enough” for mainlanders. Filipino girls who feel guilty about their curly or frizzy hair. Indian Singaporeans who are feel like they need to be pale to be worth something ( you don’t). Thai girls who are told their country is only good for farming rice. Myanmar girls who get asked mockingly if they’re domestic workers. Even if you are, there is no shame in that. Every Cambodian girl who felt bad about having thick lips. I know I left a lot of people out, and I’m sorry. But if you’re reading this and haven’t seen yourself here - you are just as worthy and my spirit and strength and good wishes are with you