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I most of the time feel very angry towards him and I’m afraid I’ll think bad about him/do something bad which will cause me to go to Hell.. When I know he is not being unjust then I don’t feel angry towards him and I think of the good in him. So I don’t know, what can I do? [2]

Wa Alaykum Selam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,

Sister, I will keep this short and simple, as I have looked for an answer for this issue for a very long time now since my situation is much worse than yours.

What you need to do is to keep treating your father with respect. If he asks of you to do something that goes against the laws of Allah you are free to disobey him. But in all other instances, continue to be kind, respectful, and caring.

Always treat him good and be careful not to hurt his feelings or disobey him, for this is a great sin and good treatment of parents is extremely important in Islam, I cannot stress this enough.

I hope this message reaches all of you in the best of health and imaan.

When I had first reverted to Islam, my mom was strongly against my decision and tried at times to put many barriers between our relationship, so a friend recommended I read Surat Luqmān. After reading it I felt much better, so in-sha'Allah the same will happen for you. http://quran.com/31#0

Your relationship and the problem itself will still not be resolved if/ and when you decide to "get married and leave the house" and because of this, I recommend doing whatever you can through your power to reconcile this before you get married, because it will not go away. 

This is a reminder to myself before anyone else, as my tongue is closest to my own heart; when things happen in life or people mistreat us, it is important to remember that Allah (swt) will not question us about the actions of the other person, but He (swt) will ask us about our own actions. What other people does is beyond the scope of our control, we just have to react the best way we can through what the Sunnah and Qur'an has taught us. 

I will keep you in my dua'as! By the qadr of Allah, I hope your relationship will improve. 

“My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and (also) from my offspring. Our Lord, and accept my supplication.”

Walid Siti, drawings from the series Precious Stones, 1997-2010 (source).

In 2008, Siti wrote: “Throughout world history and in many different societies, stone objects have served as focal points, their wealth of symbolic meaning drawing people together and reinforcing social codes. Over the last ten years I have worked on Precious Stones, a series of drawings on paper in which I have tried to explore stones from this perspective.

Prehistoric stones and natural rocks as well as carved stones in buildings have profound meanings that occasionally surpass original purpose. They become metaphors with political or spiritual associations, such as black stone of Mecca, the pyramids, various monuments and memorials, tombs, triumphal arches, and so on. The stone is universal in its symbolic role, which crosses cultures, time and place.

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Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

Be not sad, surely Allah is with us.

{Surah At-Tawbah 9:40}