— Natal Venus Retrograde.
The planet, Venus, goes retrograde every 19 months & only lasting for about 21-41 days. Which makes Venus the rarest planet to have retrograded in one’s natal chart—Consuming only about 8 to 10% of the population. This significant population undergoes a vast amount of karma, issues & impediments surrounding Venusian themes.
Venus is the planet of beauty, what you find beautiful, love, how you love & show affection, art, self-esteem, creativity, relationships & connections, money, socializing—Ruled by Libra & Taurus.
Struggling Self-Worth
Venus represents self-esteem, & how you make yourself feel good or beautiful. A common Venus direct (someone who doesn’t have a Venus Retrograde) might find it easier to find things to love about themselves, to feel good or beautiful about who they are. With a Venus retrograde—they can struggle with finding themselves lovable, beautiful & worthwhile. Feeling as if they are not deserving of what they want, that they are not deserving of beautiful things. Their trip to love is a much more harder one than Venus direct individuals’. Venus Retrograde women usually struggle with self-care as it makes them uncomfortable or it just doesn’t work for them. It is not so uncommon for these individuals to search outside of themselves or become addicted to something to attain their self-happiness or feel worthy & cared for. For example: getting into a lots of romantic relationships, attaining lots of friends they are not so emotionally attached to, overindulgence with food & money, or even vast amounts of plastic surgery in some extreme cases. They also tend to seek unrelieved validation from others. After they are completely validated, it’s like their reassurance meter immediately runs out, which constantly causes them to seek more of it. A venus retrograde individual can usually come in extremes:
Someone who feels as if they are not worthy enough for anyone or anything. So, they tend to become prideful & act as if they don’t need it anyways. They appear cold, detached & self-involved.
Someone who feels as if they are not worthy enough for anyone or anything. So they become desperate & create a habit of constantly needing to prove to others that they are worthy enough to keep around. They act selfless, & insecure.
These are the types of individuals who accept less than what they are worth. For instance—Accepting fewer payment at their workplace, immensely appreciating others for the bare minimum, & undermining their own achievements.
Self-Sabotage, & Ruined Relationships
Venus Retrograde in one’s chart can be extremely detrimental to their relationships & connections with others. It is all because of their underlying belief that they are not worthy of anything great that comes their way in regards to love, & connections. Which can lead to sabotage & negative thought patterns—which can also lead to a failed & disorganized relationship history. It is not so uncommon for Venus Retrograde individuals to undergo connections where they are cheated on, abandoned, treated less than, or put under extremely intense & consequential circumstances to their personal development. They tend to attract partners from their past lives they have unfinished karma with. It might seem as if “the same person with a different face” always comes along in their love life to constantly teach them the same lesson. Over and over again until it clicks—
Since Venus Retrograde comes into extremes. The individual might appear detached, cold, and self-involved in their relationships. It is ironic because no matter how much love these individuals hold & want to give, they might struggle to show it as they might have a fear of abandonment, judgement & rejection. They might be more on the independent side to a point where they are immensely prideful & can’t stand to have a partner who is too attached or gives too much to them. (The types to not want to accept gifts, and might feel the need to give something back in return) It is also possible for them to become codependent, & addictive to their relationships, which soon happens to these individuals as they get comfortable with their significant other. When they are attached & the relationship seems to be going great, they might start to have a negative self-sabotaging thought pattern lead from the fear of their partner leaving them for someone else better, something bad is going to happen, or their partners not truly loving them as much they say or show they do. This can cause them to push their partners away, not trust them easily, or provide for them unnecessary things to make them to stay. For instance: Leo Retrograde Venuses might spoil their partner with money to make sure they stay. Which can affect their financial health & possibly attract people who only want them for money.
These individuals can be extremely picky on who they allow into the lives. It almost seems like they are searching for “The One” they will spend the rest of their life with. This can lead to these individuals rejecting potential lovers, friends, just overall connections of all sorts. They can often be misunderstood by others very often, most of the time.
Internalized Venus & Eccentric Expression
People like to give Venus Retrogrades the reputation of being cold, & rude in the means of love. That is not really the case. It might appear that way, but Venus Retrograde individuals are actually much more Venusian than Venus directs. That is because so much of Venus energy is internalized in them, it causes Venus Retrogrades to feel more of a desire for beauty, love, & connection than others. They probably have bigger hearts than others. They just struggle to fully express it because of this RX. It can be stressful. Keep in mind, Natal Retrogrades can give the individual a stronger need for that specific planet energy. These individuals think about love, beauty & connections all the time. The types of people who very much dream about meeting their soulmate, getting married, having friends, being rich, or being beautiful but can’t take the action to letting it happen. If the energy inside of them becomes a bit overbearing, their energy might manifest in a unhealthy way, like becoming too intense in expressing their feelings & scaring others away. They are immensely caring, & they actually love very deeply & intensively. So intensively that they might constantly take care of their loved ones & be there for them in fear of losing them. (Venus Retrogrades are always losing people so soon) They usually love differently, have different thoughts & values when it comes to love & connections. The types to not believe in marriage, or finds having friends to be “overrated”. Since it is extremes, it is even possible for these individuals to value more superficial things in relationships (looks, money, & reputation might matter more to them because they might believe this is what can make them truly happy) or couldn’t care less about materialistic things in relationships. Their perceptions of values regarding love, & connections are extremely different from others. Which can make them feel misunderstood, or weird.
This retrograde usually creates individuals who feel the strong need to express through artistic abilities like music, painting, fashion, or makeup. Since their sense of beauty, love & pleasure is doubled yet internalized. But some might struggle to actually pursue this need—They might be insecure or embarrassed regarding their talents to make such pleasurable things. So this energy will build up & build up over time, which can lead to an explosive expression which can be a bit overbearing. They might have different perceptions or values when it comes to beauty, and art. The types of people to love dadaism (a type of an eccentric art) It might even create someone who has very, very low or very, very high standards. That one attractive friend who seems to go for guys way out of her league or is not the most conventionally attractive which can cause wandering, confused eyes amongst others? Yeah, that’s Venus Retrograde individuals. It is very different for every one of us but this is the tone of it.
The Childhood Of A Venus Retrograde
In the typical childhood of a Venus Retrograde, they were often the “anti-social kid” or the kid who were more kept to themselves. This retrograde usually gives someone social anxiety or social awkwardness. So maybe in school, it was more harder to make friends, socialize correctly, or developing long-lasting, emotional, fun connections with their family, or peers. This can often cause a feeling of disconnect from people & life. They might not feel “normal” or feel as if it is hard to be a decent human being. They might feel as if it is too much to establish confidence in connections with others. So it might seem as if it is best to isolate themselves from others. Being around others often felt constraining, or they felt as if they had to play some type of facade around others. They might’ve been the types to be afraid of making friends at school because of the constant fear of being rejected, judged, or talked about.
It is possible that these individuals might’ve not had parents who showed lots appreciation, attention, & affection towards them. Which can cause the underlying thought that they are not worthy of being loved. Maybe they even grew up in a distant, cold household. It is common for Venus Retrogrades to maybe have had a parent abandoned them, absent, or had a single parent in the household growing up. These individuals might have had family problems growing up or didn’t feel as connected to their family.
Venus Retrograde kids often were very optimistic about their future regarding their love life & finances. The types to set goals of becoming rich or getting married to a beautiful partner. This usually creates closeted hopeless romantics in childhood. But when they eventually get older, their perceptions & beliefs can change as they become more self-aware & insecure.
Venus Retrograde kids might fall victim to even being insecure in their physical appearance—more noticed in Venus Retrograde females but can be noticed in Venus Retrograde males too. This will lead through in young adulthood too, but more prominent as a teen since we are more conscious when it comes to our physical at this time. There are a few differences regarding between the male & female Venus Retrograde individuals.
- Female Venus Retrograde Kids: Since Venus is a feminine planet alone, the females might have struggled with their femininity. Not feeling pretty, girly, cute, or feminine enough. They couldn't express femininity because of their lack of self-confidence or not feeling as if they are doing it correctly. It could have made them immensely insecure in their appearance while growing up.
- Male Venus Retrograde Kids: Surprisingly, the males seem to be more in touch with their feminine side. They might attract women later in life with hypiing this retrograde energy, but males with this retrograde are very much in tune with their feminine, emotional side than their female counterpart. But they might struggle with not having the best relationships with women while growing up, which can somewhat cause abandonment or vulnerability issues.
Venus Retrograde is very depressing. So it is common for individuals to fall into episodes of depression, or loneliness.
It is also common for Venus Retrograde kids to have struggled with picking up Venusian-like hobbies, even if they wanted to pursue those specific hobbies. For example: A Venus Retrograde girl might have wanted to play with makeup, or try out clothes—but might have fallen short of confidence to do so.....A Venus Retrograde boy might have had an interest in writing music, rapping—but might have been too insecure of his abilities to start doing this. Venus Retrogrades most likely hasn't had their artistic, creative, feminine, or caring side exercised as a kid. It is highly recommended for parents to exercise their Venus Retrograde child's caring, loving & feminine side by letting them do such things like: Giving them a pet to learn natural compassion, allow them to expand to some form of self-expression (like drawing, or experimenting with clothes), or allowing them to participate in social activities to gain social confidence. Most importantly, allowing them to open up & make sure they know that they are loved unconditionally.
Being Happy with Yourself First
As I stated, Venus Retrograde individuals are constantly put into disappointing situations regarding love, friendships, money, or overall connections "over and over again until it clicks"—They need self-love. While Venus Directs mainly needs at least of bit self-love to maintain connections with others, Venus Retrogrades needs a lot of self-love to maintain a connection with themselves. Venus Directs might have the tendencies of not liking themselves, but Venus Retrogrades might have the tendencies of hating themselves. It is very sad to think about. The key advice to this retrograde is recognize your worth, express your femininity confidently & in your own way, stop self-sabotaging & know that you deserve the best (like everyone else). You deserve love. You're loved & cared for. You're beautiful in your own way. You are a good person. You ARE capable of being loved.
Venus Retrograde individuals are not going to get that soulmate they often desire until they learn how to get themselves. A bit of self-love can go a long way. Learning to be happy with yourself can create a strong foundation of "Even if I was alone, I wouldn't mind it because I am happy with myself already." All of these things you want besides yourself is just an addition. It all starts with you.
Loving yourself eventually opens doors to attracting more positive, long-lasting, healthy, & fulfilling connections, sense of inner-happiness & confidence, & living your life unapologetically the way you want to live it.
