Beware of people who push on hard limits. These are not an invitation to apply pressure. It’s a boundary that should be respected until you hear otherwise. If that doesn’t work for you, find someone more compatible with your needs.

Beware of people who try to convince you that you’d do something kink related for them if you just loved them enough/were devoted enough. Kink is not in itself an act of self-sacrifice or self-harm. It should not rob you. It should fill your cup.

Beware of people who say your safeword has conditions or think someone doesn’t deserve one, top or bottom.

Kink should be enjoyable for all parties. Limits matter for all parties. No matter how “fun” and “exciting” someone seems on this site, they have limits. And they should. Saying you don’t have limits is either foolish or unhinged.