Jay's Nest

the first step in my atheist journey was when i was like... 7 or 8 and the preacher at my church said that all the plants and animals of earth are lesser beings that were put here by god to serve man. and i just remember thinking. uh, no, birds are doing their own thing and also are better than us?

the respiratory system of birds? so much better than us. bird eyes? so much better than us. and they FLY. they FLY, Reverend Charles. with their own fucking wings. we have to build big metal tubes for that. peregrine falcons can reach speeds of 180 miles per hour in freefall, Reverend Charles. does that sound like a lesser being to you?

They should invent a method of asking for reassurance that nobody secretly hates you that doesn't make people secretly hate you.

I get the importance of the transfem community warnings but sometimes I see shit like girls talking other girls out of trying to get their teaching certificates because of the potential for harassment from conservative parents and idk that's very real but also at a certain point we are just doing preemptive hiring discrimination to ourselves

Like on the one hand it is very real that societal transphobia would like to see us all unemployed, forced to do survival sex work. But also that's not the only reality available to us at this point! And sometimes I worry that we are self policing in a way by flooding so many trans girls with this message of "your only options are to get super good at onlyfans or be Raytheon's strongest coder" when like, so many of the women I know are teachers, home care workers, nannies, day care workers, postal workers. Not glamorous, but like, idk the world of lower middle class pink collar jobs is available to us more or less at this point. Other girls have office jobs, some girls have to work food service and retail. But we get to exist in some form besides either NEETs or internet famous porn girls. And obvi hiring discrimination is real, and obvi disability issues come into play for a lot of us that makes a lot of the work I just mentioned inaccessible. I'm not saying things are sweet out there. But there is a world out there where you can live. Maybe not in the exact way you want, maybe not super easily, but you can live.

traumatized person thinking about setting a boundary: but isn't this unfair to the other person if I don't let them violate me since I let other people do it before :/ what if they feel left out :/ maybe I should just let it happen so I'm being fair :/

every day it just concerns me how little compassion people have. no compassion for those living in the global south. no compassion for immigrants. no compassion for disabled ppl. no compassion for addicts. no compassion for prisoners. no compassion for children. like holy shit ...

I need mentally ill trans girls out there to know they're loved, I need physically disabled trans girls out there to know they're loved. I know every day can feel like you're a burden and terrible, but you're loved and wanted, you are not a burden and even if you were we want to carry that burden.

given recent events, an important reminder

before tripping over today's tumblr dashboard controversy i had actually spent the morning chatting with a lovely trans girl i know on here who told me that she feels like her life was saved by another lovely trans girl on here who has told me she feels like i saved her life which i was only able to do because when i was too broken down to get by someone did the same thing for me so maybe actually the rest of us will be loving each other in a big web until every one of us makes it. i'm not sure what anyone's problem is with that.

is anyone here ready for fat transgender summer can we give it up for fat transgender summer

we do have to contend with the fact that the reason there is this like perpetual conflation funnel that turns aave and other black dialects into 'gen z slang' and memes and the reason non black performers keep putting on blaccents and the reason pictures of black people just existing gets turned into memes is the same and its because its all minstrelsy.