A Dom For Life

Due to my line of work, I often find myself coming home in a funk. The weight of the day and stress from adulting can be overwhelming. It’s times like these that I need a spank. I’m not talking about discipline, punishment, or an erotic prelude. I’m talking about spanking as a means of catharsis, healing, and stress relief. Receiving a spanking that isnt sexually or dynamically charged helpes me connect and center myself. It calms me down and puts my mind at ease. It has nothing to do with showing me who’s in charge, correcting an action, or as a start to some playtime. The spanking is a way my Dom and I grow closer on a primal level. I think that often times we ignore that side of ourselves and label it dark and dirty. Our primal instincts are purely about feelings on the most basic level. It helps set me back to my core and allows my Dom to see that deep often hidden space. I have come to realize that spanking immediately opens me up and helps me think about what lives inside me and my deepest desires. It brings my desires into the light and helps me focus on what really matters and what I really need. Things like the cathartic healing. Allowing genuine and complete catharsis. It allows me to break down and calm down. To cry it out and re-enter my state of being. It takes all of the broken parts and slowly fits them back into place. It gives purpose to the pain in my heart. It allows me complete release of the weight of the world. It gives me a chance to breathe. To lay down at my Doms feet all of my worries and concerns. With each slap a little weight comes off my shoulders. It turns frustration into peace.

It allows me the ability to be truly vulnerable with him. It’s cleansing to be totally broken infront of him in this way. It’s emotionally intense. It turns shame into openess.

Recently I reblogged and commented on an Ask that @theruleset answered in which an Anon worried that she ‘missed her chance’ to explore the kink scene because she might have grown too old.

She’s 25.

The reblogs continued, and those in the community who aren’t right out of their teens (nor looking for a partner who is) weighed in with such great feedback! It felt awesome to go through the replies, and to follow their blogs, and to feel something akin to actual representation and visibility on a website and its kink subculture that is overwhelmingly tilted toward the (sometimes uncomfortably, depending on what’s depicted) very young.  Especially when it comes to the women in it.

Got nothing but love for those younger (but legal, of course) in kink, too, and you all deserve an amazing journey as much as any of us, but this particular post is for 30 and up, soooooo:

Please like and reblog this if you’re a Dominant, submissive, or kinkster in your 30s, 40s or older so we can find and support each other, and most of all, increase our visibility on tumblr. :)

(And if you just want to support this post, please feel free to like and reblog, too!)

Nikita Gill (via thelovejournals)

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