Purely Speculative

Being attracted to any kind of body is normal. Fat bodies. Trans bodies. Disabled bodies. All normal. Being extra attracted to a specific kind of body is normal too. Totally normal to have a type.

Not unlearning the societal stigma attached to those kinds of bodies, the people who inhabit those bodies, and the people who fuck them, to the point where you do any of the following:

Only want to date/fuck the person in secret.

Reduce the person to the feature that you desire and ignore the rest of who they are as a person.

Expect the person to be a walking porn fantasy instead of a real person with their own sexual preferences and boundaries.

Would no longer love the person if the stigmatized aspect of their body changed.

Consider yourself superior to the person, think the person should be 'grateful' that you love their body, etc.

See the person as a temporary adventure while planning to eventually settle down with someone whose body isn't stigmatized.

Is bad and harmful and you shouldn't be dating anyone until you've worked on your shit, because this makes you a very terrible partner. This doesn't mean you are a bad person with bad-fetishist-desires who can only desire people badly, it means you need to unlearn societal stigma so you can be a better partner to the people you desire.

The owner of the stigmatized body you're attracted to is going to have their own feelings about their body. They will probably not be at the same comfort level that you are. Neither of you are wrong for this. Neither of you is more or less confident/body positive for this.

Confidence is not a set value. It can change weekly, daily, and even multiple times per day. Do not expect improvement or assume improvement will happen. If you are chasing a 'happier and more confident' version of your partner you are harming the partner you have.

On the brighter side: confidence comes when you aren't chasing it. When you're looking back and seeing how far they've come, because you supported them as they were in all of those cumulative moments. That's when you've made a difference. They're choosing more self expression, you're supporting that choice.

If you've been living in a more conventional body your whole life, you're going to start getting stares. From strangers, from family members, and even some friends. Your partner is getting 200% more.

Duo I made up 👉😎👉

But character generation is done before one begins play (WTF 62)

And the character generation procedures for an RPG are commonly understood as part of the game rules [citation needed]

Also making this post was not needful. So legitimate or not, I didn't have need of the WTF rules because I didn't need to make the post.

Stoat in his winter coat, Kodiak, Alaska

A census can understand population level trends just fine without storing your assigned sex as part of your legal identity. They can ask for this information in the census. The census tracking population level data is not the same as your assigned sex being permanently part of your legal identity. (At least, the way my country does a census.)

Your doctor can know your anatomy by you communicating it to them if/when it is relevant. There is never a time when they might need to know something that could only be conveyed by your assigned sex being officially relayed to them via government documentation. You can just use your words. The same way you tell your doctor any other part of your medical history.

People respond to "the government doesn't need to store your assigned sex as part of your legal identity" as if they are hearing "no one should ever acknowledge gender or sex at all" but that's not what's being said.

Your birth certificate conveys important legal information about you. Your name, as a designation. Your parents, as they have a legal obligation to you. Your place of birth, as that place has a legal obligation to you. Date and time of birth, since age is important for application of some laws.

And sex. That's on there too. But what is the legal relevance? What laws is the government going to apply to you differently based on what sex is on your birth certificate? I can only think of one thing my government really uses that for, and that is to determine who has to sign up for the draft. And guess what, fuck that shit anyway. The government also used to use this to decide who is allowed to marry who. They don't do that anymore. For now.

Phoenix

A fiery dame...

The middle ages were one thousand years ago

I don't know if I need you to tell you this but Jesus was alive 2 thousand years ago during the Roman Empire

3 thousand years ago the Mediterranean and Middle East were recovering from the bronze age collapse. None of the philosophers of Western philosophy (or Eastern for that matter) were born yet

Earliest writing dates roughly to 5 thousand years ago.

Agriculture started roughly 10 thousand years ago

You need to lock in and give the world, and race, and character, a thousand years of pretty detailed history if you want to sell me your old fuckin elves. Instead, writers often find the "elves live really slowly and are fascinated with human advancements" worldbuilding trope. That's Tolkien bullshit. That's BACKWARDS. Intelligence is only one axis of species advancement. The other is lifespan. Too short, and even a species far smarter- and just as physically capable- is heavily stunted. There's not enough time in a single generation to make notable discoveries if the lifespan is too short, because a majority of advancement lies in not the discovery itself, but that discovery being taught. This is a double whammy because intelligent brains take longer to grow, and more energy to sustain. Without a sufficiently long lifespan that "brain growth time" is all the more exacerbated.

Remember that humans as a race have spent a vast majority of our time on Earth in the prehistoric. pre written history. Only the last ~10,000 years have contained an semblance of organization, and if you want to only consider modern human biology, the oldest known remains are still over 300,000 years old. Only, at best, have the last 0.033% of our years here been in a developing society. The learning curve is that brutal. As a longer living species of comparable intelligence, elven society would expeditiously outpace humans; and given how quickly technology does develop once that learning curve is passed, they would not be recognizable to humans as peers unless the human race is explained to be far older than the elves as a means to offset this inevitable issue.