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Neurotypical people having their shit together is like having all their shit in a basket. Different people’s baskets are organized differently, and sometimes things fall out or get mixed up when they get bumped, and some people have overflowing baskets that makes it hard to keep track of everything, but everyone has a basket to keep their shit in, and when they need something they can find it in their basket. What’s more, they generally have a sense of how much stuff is too much for their basket.

ADHD people having their shit together is taking all the stuff in the basket, but we don’t have a basket. So we use any other method of keeping the shit together, no matter how messy. So we very quickly end up with this ball of twine and duct tape and staples that’s connecting as much as we can. And sometimes some of us find far less… reasonable methods of keeping our shit together. And basically none of these methods work as well as just having a basket, but they’re much better than nothing. Without a basket, we lose stuff much more easily, and it’s a lot of effort to formally organize it. There’s usually some kind of method to the madness, but it’s not always a method we can explain. And because we don’t have a defined container with a load limit, our stuff keeps expanding like a spiderweb and tends to grow beyond a size we could reasonably fit in a basket.

“Girls’ night,” “Atta girl!” “Girl on girl,” “Baby girl,” “Good morning, girls,” “girl talk,” “I’ve missed my girls,” etc etc

It’s to the point where women actually shy away from the word “women” and prefer to be called girls, probably because to no longer be a girl is to be old, tired, useless, homely, motherly, boring, nagging, serious, etc.

On the flip side, you rarely hear men being referred to as “boys” outside of maybe pop music and tumblr’s “soft boi” memes. And I have never heard men ask to be called boys instead of men. That’s because being a man is something to aspire to and something to be proud of.

Another side effect is that by calling all females “girls,” it obscures her age. If you hear, “a girl was attacked last night” you assume it was an adult unless an age is mentioned. Versus if you said “boy” there would be almost no question.

But, I think at least part of the problem (definitely not all of it!) is that there aren't any great in between words between "girl" (which should represent a child) and "woman" (an adult), whereas guys have, well, "guys" and "dude" that fit between "boy" and "man." And there's probably some deeper linguistic and sociological stuff you could pull from that, but I think it's something to consider; I'm a college graduate guy, and I feel really uncomfortable when someone refers to me as a "man" in most cases, though it's hard to exactly articulate why. Calling someone around my age a "man" or "woman" feels unusual, unless they've hit certain life milestones (I usually think of a married couple I know with "adult" pronouns, for example).

i just graduated in June 2017, during my grade 12 year I was diagnosed with ADHD and put on medication. My marks in English went from the 45-60% average up to 80-90% average.

the reason why I didn’t talk to a doctor about it sooner- i thought ADHD was just being hyper. i had no idea that it could also have the “inattentive” side to it.