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I think I should start by mentioning that I’m not sponsored or anything like that. I just wanted to share what I’ve found while looking for books to listen to for myself. Seems like with pride month just barely behind us they brought out a lot more audiobooks to enjoy. I do think it’s important to mention that a lot of these are book 1s to try to get you to buy more on the series. I have enjoyed getting to check out the authors a bit tho and always peak into the series for free.

Anyway, I will also add at the bottom of this the post I made before with 21 other audiobooks which last I checked are still available for free. Hope everyone enjoys this list. Please feel free to share some ratings of your own on some of these. I obviously haven’t read many of these and would love to hear some insight from others.

More - ✅Welcome to paradise- Lise Gold (A) - Northern Lights- Lise Gold - Innocent hearts- Radclyffe - Fire in the sky- Radclyffe & Julie Cannon - Shattered- Lee Winter - Heart of gold- L. Dreamer - Love is just camouflage- Sabrina Blaum - ✅Not in the script- K.E. Morrison (A-) - A kiss of the siren’s song- E.A.M. Trofimenkoff - Destiny- Cara Malone - The origins of heartbreak- Cara Malone - Sleepwalking- Cara Malone - The complete rulebook series- Cara Malone - ✅Iron & Velvet- Alexis Hall (A+) (I feel I should perhaps mention that I was not as impressed with book 2, which I read on Libby, and stopped part way thru book 3) - Once upon a galactic time- N.D. Shar (a pen name used by Natalie Debraandere) - ✅Bitter fruit- Cloarec Hart (A) - ✅Out of the flames- Stacey Lynn Miller (A+) - The trophy wives club- Ali Spooner - Six strings and a dream- Ali Spooner - Sugarland- Ali Spooner - The mountain whispers- Ali Spooner

✅=I’ve read

For the books I have read I went ahead and put down my ratings. In case anyone is curious this is how my ratings convert into stars:

C/C-= ⭐️ B-/C+=⭐️⭐️ B+/B= ⭐️⭐️⭐️ A/A-= ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ A+= ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Also I found 2 other audiobooks in Italian if anyone is interested feel free to comment and I will drop them below.

Note- I did not include any books with a virtual narrator.

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What are some of your favorite national parks?

I'm guessing I'm not alone in loving nature in all its grandeur. My wife and I try to visit a new park once a year (budget willing). Our most recent trip was to Acadia in Maine.

Sharing some pics I snapped on my phone (Google Pixel).

Some notable replies:

Rain_apple23: Yellowstone, Zion, Grand Canyon, Yosemite, and Sequoia. Absolutely wonderful and breath taking sites. Amazing what’s on this earth.

Consistent_Good_848: Mount Rainier national park

Forward-Wallaby-1809: Acadia is amazing. My wife and I live in southern Maine and go hiking up there sometimes

Queer-scout: Acadia is beautiful. A friend and I went there in March a few years back. We were woefully unprepared (no crampons) but had an amazing time. Definitely one of my favorite. If you ever make your way to Pinnacles, enjoy that the rough cut of one of the newest trails was done by a half queer crew including myself. Of the parks I've been to, I think Pinnacles has some of the most unique landscape. Some of the other big ones out west have overlapping features with each other, but Pinnacles is truly different from the rest.

Homucifer666: I forget the name of it, but there's one near Hood River, OR that's absolutely gorgeous.

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Happy Sunday and thank you all for Existing!

I was really feeling myself yesterday with my cut sailor moon shirt and sailor moon vans. I enjoy loving myself and allowing people into my life that make me feel so normal and seen. I hope everyone has a gentle day and upcoming week!

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Only men seem to be attracted to me

Im Just curious if I look like I “lean one way only” since only men seem to talk to me and compliment me. I know I dress more feminine which makes it more difficult but sadly I don’t know anything I can do to catch women’s attention and put myself out there more :/

From the comments:

Beebob420: Then call me a man because IM ATTRACTED TO YOU

Ivygrows8: Idk how to help unless you wanna wear a lesbian flag lol

ButterfliesInSpace: Unfortunately, a lot of queer women just aren’t comfortable approaching other women, even if they’re sure they’re also gay. So, it probably isn’t that women aren’t attracted to you, they just aren’t approaching.

Wonton_Agamic: AND you play bass guitar! I'm very sorry for the lack of action from the part of the lesbian counsel, I'm sending messages to all the single agents in the field to ask you out as soon as possible. Your application for state founded gf must have gotten lost. Again, very sorry!

Beary_beom: straight men have absolutely no gaydar and also no shame, perfect combo for hitting on lesbians 🫠 you def don’t look like you’d be straight lol, ur really pretty too!! i think women are just more shy abt coming up to to other women but that doesn’t mean they don’t want to talk to you \^\^

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Is this photo appropriate to put on a dating app?

Hi, Do I look ugly and stupid in this photo, or is it okay? The photo gives an impression of arrogance.

Highlights from the comments:

Smileverydaybcwhynot: This photo wouldn't dissuade me, but I don't think it's a good showcase of you. A more candid one of you smiling or something might be a better choice if choosing between this and another one.

Beautiful_House1: I dont see why not. You look good

Powerful_Sun26: I'd swipe right if that helps!

Majestic_Pizza_8494: I think it gives the impression of a total baddie. I’d 100% swipe right on you!

Cryberborg_westerner: you look electric. I’d swipe right!

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When you leave an unhealthy relationship, you start to glow 🌟 (New femme here) 37

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It’s too damn hot to have hair 🥵💇🏻

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Happy Sunday yall 🩷🩷

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I’ve recently gotten into watching Thai gl series and I enjoyed them a lot. I’ve seen 5 so far and loved them so much. I’m really happy that this kind of representation exists and I think in general Thai shows handle sapphic relationships better in many ways than American or western shows do.

That said, I noticed that all the sexual scenes tend to be fully or mostly clothed. I didn’t mind it too much since many of the scenes were still well done but I did kind of wish there was more realism and that it was less sanitized. It felt filtered and a bit fake. I heard that it’s because Thai shows don’t allow nudity but when I looked at some bl sex scenes they were far more explicit than any scenes I’ve seen in gl shows.

I started looking around to see if anyone was commenting on it and saw a lot of people praising the lack of nudity for being focused on the “female gaze” and I honestly find that lesbophobic and misogynistic. It reeks of purity culture too. I would completely understand a lack of nudity being the result of the actresses not wanting to show themselves like that, but if the only reason is catering to the “female gaze” I find issue with that.

First off, women are sexual beings too. Lesbians experiencing sexual attraction and desiring sex isn’t a dirty or gross thing. The “female gaze” doesn’t have to be defined conservatively or lean into purity culture so much. I hate this idea that lesbian or sapphic love is better the less sexual it is. Think about it, do you ever see people policing men’s sexuality in this way?? You don’t see that with gay men or with straight men. I think the answer to why that is is blatantly obvious.

Trying to push the idea that it’s impure or less “female gazey” to portray lesbian nudity or sexuality isn’t being enlightened, it’s plain misogyny and lesbophobia. We seriously need to stop shaming lesbians or hiding their sexuality in media. I also don’t think that having fully clothed sex scenes in any sapphic media should be praised as better representation. If actual lesbians were making those scenes they probably wouldn’t have been so fully clothed and the scenes would have been more true to actual lesbian intimacy.

I’m not a pervert or creep for liking intimate scenes that are actually realistic especially when gay scenes are granted that treatment while lesbian ones are held to a different and stricter standard. It’s normal to have sexual feelings and desires and it isn’t less womanly or less representative of the female gaze to portray that or to have those feelings. I’m not even necessarily asking for more nudity, just that the very idea of including it not be stigmatized in the way it is.

I don’t want to criticize differences of culture, but I do think it’s worth scrutinizing anytime men are granted more freedom in certain things than women. If the male gaze is allowed sexuality, but the female gaze isn’t, is that actually true to differences between the two or might it be based around a society that routinely shames women for having sexuality?

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I’m slightly covering my eyes, so you can’t see the sadness.

Is it working?

What people on Reddit said:

Alive_Criticism_1651: I am unable to look at your eyes

Chains_And_Lilith: You have beautiful eyes, but ma'm your chest appears to be a fold-out mattress💀

Weoweowoeoweo: I can still see it 😔 luckily I can see other things too though

CinnaminChaos1208: Girl why you sadd

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Sapphic/Queer Movie recommendations?

I just want to watch more queer movies, so what’s your personal favorite? I’ll try my best to find it and watch it.

Some replies worth sharing:

TraditionalTree249: Jennifer's Body is a classic Nightmare on Elm Street 2: ignoring most of the rules from the first movie that uses Freddy as an metaphor for repressed homosexuality and anger.

Lizzie_burntout: Imagine me and you, saving face, bottoms, a portrait of a lady on fire, d.e.b.s., and but I’m a cheerleader

Consistent_Ad2558: Watermelon Woman!

Cola__st: Portrait of a Lady on Fire ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

TotallyLegitEstoc: The duke of burgundy. Lesbian. Bdsm. No nudity (some implied nudity.) It gets a little into horror territory at times, but it was a great watch.

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So, I have zero experience in this and I was wandering how am I supposed to know how to do that? I mean, between a woman and a man it is quite logical, fingering I can learn on myself (I think it's similar?) but eating a girl? did you learn with some videos? or your first partner taught you? I’m not even texting/dating anyone yet but this is already stressing me out that I have no idea what to do 👀

A few replies that stood out:

FotizxRaidd: at first I didn't see the name of the community and i was hella confused 😂 im sorry I can't answer your question since i never ate a woman unfortunately 😔

Emelsifoo: same way you get to Carnegie Hall practice

IndependentPaint2108: I just do what I'd enjoy being done to me

Radioactivebaby: You ever licked an ice cream cone? Drank through a straw? Can you follow directions? Congratulations, you know how to perform cunnilingus. Tip: Breathe through your mouth, exhaling especially. Your breath is warmer and softer that way.

Pussyjuicerecycler: she’ll help you figure it out

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Hi! Long time lurker, first time posting. I’m 44/f, married to a wonderful man (46) for 10 years, been together for 15. We have two kids together (7 & 11) and I have an older daughter (23).

Long story short, I fell in love with my best friend of over 30 years in 2022. Realized I am most likely gay. I have known for a long time that I wasn’t straight, but this was a new revelation and understanding of myself and my sexuality. I told my husband in 2023 that thought I was gay. He nearly had a nervous breakdown as did I and cue my fear of abandonment. I went back in the closets and “decided” I was bi, but very sapphic leaning. Ruined the friendship with my best friend. She is now married to a woman and seems to be very happy. We went no contact for the last couple of years, but have recently spoken. Oh, and my mom passed away suddenly in September. Needless to say, I’m struggling. I don’t really have anyone I can talk to about this, so just hoping to connect with others who may understand. Thank you 💖🌈

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Happy Sunday to everyone on this amazing page. 🩷

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Romance display at B&N's has mlm but no wlw

seriously??? i know society hates lesbians but damn

Some replies that stood out:

Ravenluna114: I made sure to talk to staff at my local library when the pride display had zero sapphic books (and i do make a habit of checking out whatever yuri i find so it's not like they didn't have any) It's abhorrent how overlooked we are

EnyoFembyCat: B&N also had entire displays of Harry Potter crap up during pride this year. They aren't allies. They're just doing whatever they think will turn a better profit.

Ashjya: BOOOOOO!!!! i work at a small indie bookstore and we make it a point to include equal wlw and mlm

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I’ve been single for almost two years! I just want a wife ;-;

Dear god, I swear that whenever I see two women holding hands or flirting, an evil voice boils up inside me and says, “tHaT COuLD be you!”

BUT IT ISNT!! IT ISNT ME!! I’M WIFELESS

As soon as I turn the corner and they can’t see me, I just start SHADOW BOXING until the gay jealousy recedes back to wherever it came from

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LORD 🤣🤣🤣 y’all I just got a “warning” from Reddit stating I’m promoting violence because of my comment on the post talking about how us lesbians (cis or not) feel harassed by men in spaces that we are supposed to feel SAFE!

I made a comment mentioning 🥊 men who continue to disrespect women. And I got a damn warning for “violating rules”.

Reddit is fucking whack sometimes. Yes I WILL FIGHT FOR OUR PROTECTION AND SAFETY IN PLACES THAT ARE SPECIFICALLY MENT FOR US!!!

The flare is not it, but I don’t know.

Basically we should NOT be silenced for defending ourselves and our “safe” spaces that are becoming not safe at all.

Rant over.

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