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Hello everyone Yesterday was my birthday:) I’m officially 24

Unfortunately today was a very hard day for me as I was very emotionally distressed over a work thing and had to take an emergency leave. My gf came to comfort me and celebrate it with me and we had an amazing time together

I felt loved and felt much better about work. However she confessed to me that she has been seeing me and another girl for the entirety of our relationship (9 months) she told me that she has been with this other girl on and off since 2024.

I asked her many questions but she told me she is long distance with her and they barely see each other and they haven’t been intimate for the 9 months we’ve been together

I asked her if she told her and she said no so i made her call the other girl infront of me and tell her and she did. That girl completely flipped out (reasonably so) she started cussing her out and asking “who’s this other girl” my now ex told her that we’ve been drifting apart and you keep asking me and this is why, that girl said so why did you keep reassuring me? And my ex didn’t know what to say and I felt so horrible and quiet disgusted w my ex and felt so bad for that girl as my ex wasn’t even apologetic.

I asked her many questions and got a lot of I didn’t know what to do I couldn’t and shit like that

She was sobbing and I couldn’t help but feel bad as our relationship was amazing we barely fight and we communicate fairly well and genuinely there wasn’t any red flags and until that last minute before she told me I had zero doubt in her loyalty

She said she didn’t want to leave my place and i told her she can stay as she wasn’t in a good place to drive for an hour

She eventually left and now I’m sitting in disbelief barely able to cry of the amount of headache i have rn

This rushed as i feel kinda lonely in this and wanted to vent

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Made these printable lesbian pride arcade machines free to download

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How’s the dating profile?

Context, I’m 28, trans, and in a pretty big queer city. Definitely haven’t gotten a lot of attention, so wondering what I can do!

Some replies that stood out:

OrionWork: Your profile looks so good I’d swipe right. But dating apps are such trash I’m sorry you are not able to find anyone

EasyExperience8463: I like the candid that shows you laughing. You have a beautiful smile, maybe add one of you smiling or laughing. Your dimples are adorable too lucky you

Stunning-Click5940: I wouldn't change a single thing about your profile. Great photos! Good luck!

RumorsGoldenStar: If you are in the northwestern city that I think you're in I swear on my life I have swiped right on you before

Enochian-Dreams: 2/8 is easily 90% better than the other pictures. I would recommend replacing all of them except that one. Despite what other people are saying, it’s most likely how you look not the algorithm. It might be a bit out of scope here, but I suspect part of the reason why that photo seems so much better is your hair is a more natural color.

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Something I crave for every single night. A warm hug, a deep kiss, that eye contact, a little tease with synced heartbeat and a safe heaven for by body to rest.

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story of my life

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ngl so shy ab posting this but not enough to not post it

girl kisser though no girl to kiss, any tips on how to hit on girls online? (in person i feel like it's easier

From the comments:

Nancy1508: Love ur haircut😍

ComfortableAcadia323: OMG I LOVE THE HAIRCUT

Ashacw: Youre like literally so cool💔 the vibes bro I really like your haircut and just thr overall vibes, great

Lucid_Flame: You look really cute, I wish you all the best!! :D

ProposalGrand959: cutesy

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Here are some replies:

FastTelephone2521: Domme chiming in, but Jesus, I could take her 15 times and if I need a water break and a banana before 16, it’s always “awwww, babe, did I wear you out? Probably time to get back to the gym” (said as I run marathons). She always gets her next rounds out of it though, and I get to parrot that line when she finally tells me no more. I’ll yank her hair and tell her to sit and look at me, and she will slip in a “What would people think about how you talk to me?” With her little grin. She has definitely inappropriately alluded to things I’ve done to her in public settings. One time around my friends kept alluding to how I had fucked her in the ass so hard it was hard for her to sit that day and waited for me to react. I didn’t respond at all, but she sure paid for it the second they left.

GCU_Heresiarch: My goto: Make me!

UServePrincess: Haha the "make me." The "do it" then. Play hitting knowing it'll get me in trouble. Tickling.

That_girl_4321: When the dom energy comes out I like: awwwww you’re so cute topping me like that 🥰

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Do you ever just CRAVE the attention and touch of a woman?

30(f) looking for mature women that like to talk about everything and nothing. Let me stimulate your mind and body 💋

What people had to say on Reddit:

Rudelucy: So much! 41f here. If you like, dm me

JRB710: Of course! 36f dm if you'd like.

Either_Tie979: . Children need attention of their mothers n fathers which is what u look for in ur partners

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When I say "gold star lesbian" this is what I'm talking about

Idc who you've fucked, if you're not spending at least $500 a year at Lowe's then what are we even doing here.

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So I wanna read a very well written ( not basic vocab, complex phrases, intellectual writing)wlw romance book. Could be enemies to lovers, dystopian, rich x poor I dont care as long as the plot makes sense and it doesn't feel like written by a 16 year old kid or AI. For example - I enjoyed Shaken to the Core Tryst Venom Six was ???? ( only read like 6 pages of it) My preference wouldnt be period books but if there's no option I can js read them

edit - also i havent read even mainstream classics like pride n prejudice, the great gatsby aggtm, 1984, murder in the family, HP series, Song of Achilles (wouldnt read it again tho) are few i can remember right off the bat

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For example I love it when:

* when she pulls me in closer while cuddling

* when she runs her fingers up and down my arms

* when she runs her hands through my hair

* when I'm vulnerable with her and she makes me laugh after crying

* remembering the little things about each other

* listening to each other's playlist

* reading each other's annotated books

* listening to each other talk about things we're passionate about

* just holding hands

* when I'm cooking and she wraps her hands around my waist

The list can go on but I wanna hear some of yours

What people had to say on Reddit:

FastTelephone2521: Ugh, the little hum she lets out when I come up behind her and put my head on her shoulder. Cuddling on the couch with our legs overlapping. Her being vulnerable enough to ask for comfort/for me to hold her. When she turns on music when I’m cooking and tries to twirl me. When she just looks me in the eyes. Like we sometimes settle into this quiet of a conversation, and just end up staring at eachother for what feels like forever. She also does this hella adorable “PULL ME AROUND” in our pool, and then I’m tugging my floating wife around while she giggles.

SlothZoomies: - Hugs from behind. Well honestly, any type of hug - Laying on their chest, hearing their heartbeat - Holding hands - Putting my hand on their lap on car rides (Or vice-versa) - Making any little moment like an adventure, even just a simple walk - If they bring out my inner child in some way... I'm very playful - Seperately doing our own thing, but still being together in the same room

AppropriateEar8115: When she understands me ♡

GlowingEmberSkull: Hugs from behind. When they wrap their arms around my waist and gently rest their cheek on my head (I'm short)

Ephme: When she boops my nose Rests her head on my shoulder. Or when she leans on me. When she adorably runs after me to hold my hand when I extended my hand out after briefly separating in a mall or wherever we are where there are crowds. A hug from behind. When we randomly dance after releasing a big sigh from a long day or just a stressful situation. When her toes are searching for my leg or foot when we're sleeping or when we're cuddling Oh, my favourite is when our playfulness comes out. Like, our inner children are just engaging with each other.

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.!.! Virtue of patience And the lust for abstract pleasures Grants me a view of a lifetime Visions that rival the stars A new love for hedonism The perfection of peace An appetite is satiated The most beauteous of gods Appears before me Femininity incarnate A fusion of bodies through a ritual of love and acceptance A soulful connection that merges into powers beyond We are all one Chasing the enlightenment of the dragon Oh what a blessing To hold the light of the sun in our hands To taste the godliness of the female body Dedication to the pleasure of another(s) I put forth my body As tribute to the sapphic hive mind We will all touch the sky together A light has been placed and burned into the eye of our minds I will forever see the art of writhing women And put my hands in prayer towards them all Oh how I love you dearly Feel my love and devotion till the end of time

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1. For a while I genuinely thought my attraction to women was because of the patriarchy.

Like, if I felt attracted to a woman, I'd be like, "wow, the patriarchy is so wild, they got me thinking women are attractive"

How did this logic go? I have no idea. Makes no sense to me now. But I was like, thinking wanting to have sex with someone equals objectifying them, so me being attracted to women was objectifying them and therefore, it was a result of the patriarchy because men objectify women so much, it had become normalized and I did it too.

And me not objectifying men was because men wouldnt like it, so I didnt do it.

Y'all, ion even know.

2. I thought every straight woman had to think of gross things after fantasizing about kissing women to condition themselves to not want to kiss women.

This idea actually ties to number one.

Women are always gonna want to kiss women. Because evryone wants to kiss women. Cuz the patriarchy.

But since im straight and not gay, im just being a bad person for wanting to kiss women, so I have to purge myself from those thoughts.

3. I thought it was normal for straight women to be disgusted by men's naked bodies.

Again, cuz of the patriarchy. (When I saw bc of the patriarchy, i am so serious. My mind was literally all the time like, "damn, isnt the patriarchy wild for this")

4. Goes with 3,

I was absolutely disgusted by the way men kiss. Even like, the most objectively attractive man. I'd never them to kiss me.

There was a disconnect there cuz I'd be like, hmm, i want to kiss someone, but I dont want a man to kiss me.

So then I'd blame feminism for making me think men were gross.

See we got two aspects there. It was a constant battle of is this cuz of the patriarchy or cuz of feminism.

5. I'd feel very left out when my friends were talking about out cute girls. And heres the thing, i could've pointed out cute guys. Some of my friends were bi.

But I didn't. Id just want to join in on the girls convo but I couldnt cuz I was straight, and id also have very real opinions. But my opinions on how cute girls were were cuz of the patriarchy.

6. I wanted to write books with romance but I absolutely didn't want to write a straight relationship. So i stopped writing because I didn't want to be the straight woman who's for some weird probably patriarchy driven reason writing wlw relationships. And I couldn't bring myself to write straight relationships as the focus. I tried very hard, but in my mind, it felt gross.

Okay, thats all for now.

That was a peek into my weird mind.

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What do you consider to be a “late in life” lesbian?

I came across a group for late in life lesbians and it said for 30+. I feel so old rn, I turn 30 this year and didn’t realize I was late into my life 😭 (I’m assuming they mean in general, not just coming out because I did that as a teen). I thought it was going to be for like 60+.

Some comments that stood out:

Clg19929: I think they mean coming out and living as a lesbian later in their lives. Not lesbians who are older in age.

Mint-star: 98

Some_Affect713: Oh don't even worry, 30 is not late at all. You've still most likely got most of your life ahead of you

Azzavinjo: Its late if it feels late. Which can be at 18 or 98. Its relative I suppose

PARADOXsquared: 30 feels late after forcing myself to date men for 10ish years and not realizing it wasn't working because I don't even like men like that. In the grand scheme of things, I have plenty of life left. It's just a different experience from knowing at the start of your dating life.

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Daria Kasatkina, Russian-born now Australian tennis player & Natalia Zabiiako, Estonian-Russian Olympic silver medalist figure skater just got married in Greece! 🎾⛸️ They left Russia, came out & started a vlog about their lives called 'What The...

Daria "Dasha" Kasatkina is more than just a famous tennis player, she is just an amazing person. In 2022, when she was still a Russian player, she condemned the war against Ukraine in an interview and also came out publicly as gay in it. It was released on the day Russia accepted a new anti-gay law (both are illegal in Russia). She lives and trains in Barcelona, but her parents are still in Russia. After the interview, the Russian police went to her empty Moscow apartment, many political and media officials attacked her, calling her traitor and pervert, one politician even attempted to officially name her a foreign agent. Her supportive dad has hip problems and he can't travel, which means she hasn't seen him in real life since 2022. She gave up a lot to liva an authentic life.

This year, she decided to officially play for a new country and move to Australia. They've been together with Natalia Zabiiako since late 2021. In 2022, they started a vlog about their lives in professional sport and travelling, which has become of the most popular online contents. And now they just got married in Greece. Many Russian and Ukrainian tennis players celebrated them together...

There is an entire subreddit about them, if you like sapphic vlogs, tennis, figure skating or all of those you can check out: r/NataDasha

If you want to see the vlog, you can watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/@What_The_Vlog

You can find them on IG here and here.

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Some comments that stood out:

ZealousidealDay6304: If you get pleasure from that it’s not weird everyone is different just enjoy

HerLadyshipOfCaos: Not weird at all hun <3

Swallowedoxygen: The clitoris has three major wings, only one of which is external (the head), and all three respond to pressure. It’s just that the head also responds to light touch and vibration and gets most of the publicity. But rhythmic pressure is actually the main thing the majority of the clit responds to, and is the main reason indirect stimulation is so good for so many women (e.g. tribbing). Very, very normal my dear!

Candid_Cucumber_2440: I do, and I’m very careful about how I explain it. I had a gf that would give the most tender squeeze and rubbing action, and it was to die for. She also had the ability to nibble ever so gently on my hood, and it was exhilarating. I made the mistake of mentioning the latter to someone else, and I thought I was gonna go through the roof, and straight to the ER.

ProJaywalkerBird: nah pressure can feel good. it’s not an uncommon thing, although more rough play would probably go into the clit torture kink category, which is also liked by some people but uh. less commonly lol

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Ever since my 6 year relationship ended, I’ve been trying to put myself back out there, and honestly, dating has been breaking my heart. I don’t understand people anymore. Everywhere I look, people talk about how much they want love, how they want a healthy relationship, and how badly they want to find their person. But when something real comes along, they seem to pull away. Or they tell you they’re still not over their ex. The most recent example really hurt. I had been talking to someone for about two weeks, and everything seemed to be going well. Then, out of nowhere, she told me she didn’t want to keep talking. She even said I wasn’t the problem and that I had done nothing wrong. She just wasn’t ready for a relationship. What confuses me is that she was always talking about wanting love and wanting to find her person. I just don’t understand how someone can want something so badly and then walk away when they have the chance to build it. To make things even harder, I live in Portugal in a very small town, and as a lesbian, the dating pool is incredibly small. Sometimes I genuinely catch myself wishing I had been born straight because at least it wouldn’t feel this impossible to meet someone. I’m just tired. I miss feeling hopeful about love, and lately it feels like every time I start believing in someone, it ends before it even has a chance to become something.

A few notable replies:

Glasscoaster: People want the fairytale and not the actual work to get to that point of relationship magic. Even to stay in relationship magic you have to work, I guess most people nowadays just want instant noodles instead of good homemade pasta if that makes sense. Lol it made in my head.

Over-Structure8569: Heya! I have similar experiences/feelings and if you dont mind, I could DM you

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