When you were younger, were you told to always walk with your car keys in your hand?
This isn't really lesbian exclusive, but this is one of the better places to get a response.
First off, if you don't, then start doing that immediately.
When I was in high school, one thing that they always pushed in drivers education was to walk with keys in your hand. That way if someone is following you, you don't need to fumble in your purse or your bag for them.
Ideally, your car should be unlocked BEFORE you get to it.
My mom has a new car and it has one of those moronic features where you can unlock it by being in close proximity with the key fob by just placing your hand on the handle.
Problem with that is that it unlocks the driver side door and the vehicle needs to be manually unlocked from that side. And it often takes multiple tries and multiple seconds to accomplish.
When I told her that she needed to have the car unlocked before she got to it, she laughed and told me I was overreacting.
I love my mom, but she's an idiot. Women's safety should NEVER be taken lightly.
Some comments that stood out:
GlowingEmberSkull: I was told I had to have my keys in my hand so I could slash the hands and faces of anyone who accosted me in the parking lot. But yes, it's also important to get quickly into your car and lock all the doors, even if you don't drive away immediately. That said I also don't want all my car doors unlocked. I don't want a stranger able to get into my car as I'm approaching. But your mom DOES need the ability to get into her car without delays.
Wolfstar_Forever_: My younger sister is like that. I walked her to a school show in the dark once at maybe 15 and 12 or something. I was on sort of alert, not going by thr little alleyway paths, wary of anyone near us and the particularly shadowy spots. She thought that was silly. Some people don't get it.
Confirm_restart: I wasn't told, but I always did because I just used my imagination and thought about stuff like that. I was always looking for "failure points" and figuring out how to deal with them while they were still theoretical. Not out of paranoia, but just because I liked the challenge of finding unorthodox solutions and being prepared for whatever random shit life might throw at me (and it paid off more than once over the years). My current vehicle senses the fob, so my keys rarely leave my purse, however it hasn't failed me in the near decade I've had it, so I'm not too concerned about that aspect. I do carry pepper gel within easy reach, and I could always walk with that in my hand if I felt it was necessary. Failing that, if things really go sideways I've other options as well. Biggest and most important thing, IME, is remaining conspicuously aware of your surroundings and do your best to "own your space" in public. Those two things alone will usually deter anyone looking for an easy target. Definitely do those other things as well, but psychologically "beating" a potential attacker before they've settled on you as a target is often the best and most effective defense there is.
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Originally shared by NoYak8654 on r/actuallesbians on July 3rd, 2026 at 12:20 AM UTC.
