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Can I find such a top somewhere?

24F here, I saw this pic and thought this top looks cute. Does anybody know what its called or where can i find it if it exists. <3

Some notable replies:

Flohara: Any bodycon long sleeve, a pair or scissors, a lot of bodytape and double sided clothing tape.

AlphaFoxZankee: r/findfashion could be a more useful place to post this I think

That_girl_4321: Look up long sleeve mini crop or long sleeve ultra crop. 😊

Roxy175: You’d probably have more luck finding a top like this in a sex shop.

JustWantToSignUp: Ask Megan thee stallion, Idk where she gets her fire crop tops or how she makes them hold like this lol

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Lady Jeyne Arryn :> I want to be her concubine as a transgirl

What people had to say on Reddit:

SatanicPeach_666: While it’s not confirmed in the book she is rumored to be a lesbian, and she is a lesbian in the CK3 mod

Faithfulservantofbug: trans girl is two words if you feel the need to specify. it’s a type of girl not a different thing

Kat8844: I really like her but Visenya will always be my number one 🥰.

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Friendship with fellow lesbos

Hey I'm from India and ibh it is tabbo in my state about the lgbtq+ rights and there character ,so its hard to find any friends and I have been lonely for many years but through reddit I'm trying to find some real friends from any country or state it doesn't matter to me tho

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i LOVE my girlfriend and i LOVE eating box but i have suchhhhh a bad gag reflex. last night i went down on her and she was prettyyyyy wet. i got a mouthful of her juices and gagged (this happened twice). i played it off pretty well and i dont think she noticed. she doesnt taste or smell bad or anything like that, i just gag so easily. how do i stop this from happening?? i dont wanna make her insecure

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Hello! I'm curious what queer music you've discovered and loved as you've gone through the process of accepting your queerness? Music has been such a joyful part of this experience for me, and I'd love to know what songs have accompanied you on your journey.

Some of the songs that have helped me have either been about religion and queerness or late blooming. My favorites in this category have been You Might Not Like Her by Maddie Zahm, Normal by Katie Pruitt, Lesbian of the Year by The Beaches, push me over by Maren Morris, and Late Bloomer by Semler.

The other category of songs I've loved are ones that feel like they encapsulate the joys of loving women! My favorites include Lunch by Billie Eilish, girls girls girls by Fletcher, Galway Girl by Madilyn Bailey (I've been loving covers where a woman sings lyrics a man sings in the original without changing the pronouns so it becomes a wlw song), Kiss It Kiss It by Reneé Rapp, and for the girls by Hayley Kiyoko. I've also been really enjoying the new Muna album Dancing On The Wall this summer.

What are your favorite queer songs?

Some comments that stood out:

Gatheringground: Basic af answer, but as a late bloomer due to my crazy, religious upbringing, Chappel Roan really speaks to me 💕

Theoriginalcw: Janelle Monae! Muna! Syd! Arlo Parks! Joy Oladokun! Allison Russell! Chika!

Xixihime: A lot of t.A.T.u (puts me back in the teenager questioning phase of my life), Lily Rose, Orville Peck

Lollycrocket: Here are a few of my favorites, not already mentioned: Cat Burns - GIRLS! Chloe Moriondo- I Want to Be With You Jill Sobule - I Kissed a Girl Tegan and Sara - Closer King Princess- 1950 Covers where men originally sang the lyrics: Six Pence None the Richer -There She Goes Indigo Girls - Romeo and Juliet These two songs aren’t queer specifically but really helped me when deciding to date women/come out: Sia - Courage to Change Wicked - Defying Gravity “It's time to trust my instincts Close my eyes and leap” *These all come from my latebloomer playlist 😁

GullibleTone5744: Its less songs and more the artists themselves but recently I have been listening very heavily to Lauren Sanderson, G Flip, Beth McCarthy, and Fox Gunn. All of their discographies have something that appeals. (Beth's latest Hey Handsome is really nice)

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This jacket does some heavy lifting for most of my fits

No matter what combination of top or bottom I wear (unless they're white), this jacket jeans jacket always elevates the outfit and makes it feel much more gay. If you happen to know other pieces, which are similar, I'm happy about recommendations, as I want to switch things up from time to time.

Also, wanted to dump a few of my recent impressions with this post, since I would love to hear general feedback or advice on how you think I could further improve my wardrobe/outfits, hair, etc.

Some standout replies:

Cheoldyke: i’m of the opinion that everyone needs at least one good short sleeve button up for layering purposes in warm weather.

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Some standout replies:

TasteSalt4809: Fisting

Local-Section-9190: i just wanna be dominated so bad my gfs a sub so im always dom😭

Elegant_pun: Golden shower.

Busy-Hurry-9482: I want to be dominated so bad brooo but my girl is a sub and I do like domming like all or most of the time because I really like the control. Sometimes I let her try but I can't take it seriously when she tries because I know in my heart she's not domming because she wants to but only because i want her to. I'd like to try it that way really and I've tried talking to her and she's admitted she likes subbing way more. Ofc I get it but I just wanna try it that way to maybe get it out my system.

Sambadosoho: voyerism

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Was chatting with this girl on her and one of the things she asked me was how long I was on the app.

I thought it was odd but I was honest at like 6 months.

I guess that's way too long cause she said. "Wow and you haven't found your person yet?"

So I got curious and asked why she wanted to know and she said.

"There must be something wrong with you if you have been single for 6 months"

Then she blocked me.

I'm absolutely baffled. 6 months is not a long time to me.

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So yesterday I ate a girl for the first time, we had sex a few days in a row and she pleased me so good but she is on her period so I didn’t do anything to her but I really wanted to. So yesterday I figured that if she would wear a tampon there wouldn’t be much of a problem and I really wanted to please her back. So I did it yesterday ( loved it) but there was definitely a smell, is that something that would be gone if her period is done? It wasn’t a bad smell but it also wasn’t the best. Maybe I just have to get used to it. It was my first time 🥹 i loved everything about it, she is absolutely amazing.

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Dizzy-Captain7422: Yes, there's going to be a smell if she's on her period. No one smells like that if they're not on it, don't worry. But also, vaginas are always going to smell like vaginas.

Pussym0bile: While every body is different, i can tell you that my partner has mentioned that she can tell when i’m about to start my period due to a change in both smell and taste

Meetcuteat13k: So… it is something you both have to get used to, but it can be amazing once you do. There is a metallic sort of iron taste to blood, so that’s definitely something you’d need to expect. Beyond the normal benefits of intimacy, it can also help with any menstrual cramps your partner typically experiences. In terms of options for the how, tampons are a good way to ease into it. Dental dams are a good option as well if you have trouble getting used to the taste. My wife and I tend to simply shower first to remove any excess blood and then place a towel down, but that’s more of something to work up to if you are both comfortable with it. Helpful hint (assuming you are of drinking age), start drinking IPAs. Bitter IPAs can often taste a bit like you popped some pennies in your mouth, and will desensitize you to metallic tastes 😅. Good luck and have fun!

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I am a lesbian woman with asd (diagnosed), and I just want to read more about people with similar experiences. It isn't very common in fiction; I have only read "Smash or Pass" and "Kiss Quotient" since it is THAT lacking. So recommendations are very appreciated 😂

Some notable replies:

Wisprow: I think one of the characters in Cleat Cute by Meryl Wilsner is implied to be autistic

Lesbianic09: It’s not explicit but some people see Isabel from The Safekeep as autistic.

East-Penalty-5160: Emily Austin has some great books with neurodivergent MCs. Can't recall the specifics but worth looking into!

CaoimheThreeva: I loooooooooved Reality Check by Lizzie Huxley Jones. I wasn’t 100% going into it because I know very little and have little interest in reality tv, but I enjoyed a previous book by the author so I gave it a go and I am so glad I did.

Dreamingofrain: Late Bloomer by Mazey Eddings. It’s not entirely explicitly spelt out but it’s really obvious that one of the MC is autistic and the other is dealing with ADHD

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The title is a sentiment I keep stumbling across online, a big example is of that video of the one girl asking "why do lesbians date super masculine women when you could just date a guy?" that was circulating. For my feed a lot of lesbians were rightfully being like... mascs are not men that's why.

In the comments section of the og video I was unsurprised by straight women being like "I don't get it 🙄" (like shut tf up) but seeing other lesbians in the comments being like "I'm a lesbian and I don't get it either😔 " and people boasting about being fem4fem drove me insane. Being pick mes so that the og creator was like "yeah see that makes sense" 💀

I've been coming across this for a while online, where a certain brand of queer women will shit on mascs and act like they're so much better for being fem4fem. Or we see new lesbian media come out and I'm surprised to see comments be like "I'm happy there's not a masculine/butch one"... (this happened for a bratz lesbian pride post I saw) They act as if fem4fem is not the most represented pairing in media.

Obviously: nothing wrong with being fem4fem. There are also unique challenges faced by being fem4fem, but that doesn't excuse shitting on mascs. Some people in that crowd will complain about fems only wanting mascs, when girl... if you have no game just say that. Maybe I'm crazy but I feel like there's a lot of queer women who like both fem and mascs (maybe it's because I'm that way lol) And fems are majority of the dating pool!! And like after trying and failing to find other mascs into mascs... I need them to shut the fuck up.

I just hate randomly seeing hatred towards butches/mascs which are veiled as "why must there be heteronormativity... why must there be a man?" motherfucker we are not men!!! There doesn't always have to be a masc and fem one... but the few times butches are represented it's usually with a fem. Ask them about masc4masc rep and they're silent.

And the whole "if I wanted to date a girl I'd date someone who actually looks like one"... go do that. Just say you like feminine women it's okay. You don't have to basically imply that dating mascs defeats the point of dating a girl.

You don't have to be attracted to mascs/butches to not treat them like shit. I know most fem4fems aren't like this, trust. It's just something I've been seeing a lot more which bothers me.

Highlights from the comments:

TransCapybara: There is way too much in-community hate slung around nowadays. It's pretty awful to witness.

SleepySloth286: It's heteronormativity plain and simple. Some women like fitting into society and looking like "normal" women and then they look down on those of us who don't. Just as bad as straight people when it comes to gender non-conformity. Actually I think this also points to a specific issue - Butch and masc women are way more often targeted by homophobes. We're the ones who get most of the mean stares and rude people. We're the ones who are more likely to be unsafe in certain places. I think a lot of fem4fems are that way because they're afraid of looking Too Gay if they're seen with a masc woman. The same way some gay men want both partners to be masculine and shy away from feminine partners.

Orchidpop: Idk but my masc ex said I was the first partner to treat her like the woman she is. I was so fucking into her. We broke up because I am not putting myself in a situation where someone else's narcissistic, enmeshed family controls MY life, but it opened my eyes to how the masc lass community gets treated. Really bizarre. I stay off social media aside from reddit. It helps me avoid a lot of toxic rhetoric. Reddit obviously isn't perfect either, but I find it easier to filter out a bit of the toxicity.

Alaykitty: More hot masculine dykes for me 🤷🏻‍♀️ But yeah as a butch(4butch) the masculinity hate is rough out there.

Honmer: i love butches

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Here's a story I'm going to overshare. So in 2012, my girlfriend was visiting and I was going down on her for an hour and could NOT get her off. I SWEAR to you I'm good at eating pussy. Later, she said it was because of my playlist. If you can't get down to Missy Elliot, I don't need your energy in my life first of all. Anyway, she hadn't shaved, which is fine. But the hair was super thick and course. About part way through, I started to notice my face was hurting, but I powered through until she finally made me stop, because what would Melissa Etheridge do? So I go in the bathroom, look in the mirror, and I have TWO DEEP open wound gashes down both sides of my mouth all the way down to my chin. You know, IN THE SHAPE OF A PUSSY. There was NOTHING I could do to cover it. I can't remember why I didn't just wear a huge bandage on my chin. Oh, to go back in time. Just a warning that if your face starts to hurt when you're going down, it's time to stop. Oh and this is the same girl I posted about who put me on the revenge porn website and later got arrested for driving to meet a 14 year old girl who turned out to be a cop and busted for drugs. Bye

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When your bi-bff sleeps with another woman...

I'm not in love with my best friend... 💀

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So i (F20) met a girl (MTF21) off of hinge last week.

We instantly connected and have been fucking like bunnies over the course of said week.

She did so well that the handcuffs broke.

As well as the crazy good sex, she's so nice to me and caring and looks like a real life vampire (my dream as a Goth).

No other words just needed to let the world know 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

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I (35F) have a friend, let’s call her Sasha, who was my closest friend for many years. At that time I had no idea that I was a lesbian, so I always saw my feelings for her as a friendship. Looking back, I can see that I was in love with her. I remember spending countless nights thinking about how I would never be able to find a man who I love as much as I love her, and who has all of her amazing traits. I used to feel so upset knowing that no romantic relationship could be as fulfilling. At that time, it hadn’t even occurred to me that you can have a romantic relationship with a woman! (I grew up in a rural place where I had never encountered a lesbian or even seen one on TV). I remember disliking every guy she dated because they were never good enough for her. I was very protective of her, and could never understand how men weren’t seeing that she is the most beautiful, intelligent, hilarious vibrant woman to exist.

She works as a nurse, and she moved away to another continent to work. Years go by and we lose touch. I then find out that she is in a relationship with a woman. I felt so unbelievably angry when I found out. I remember thinking “wait, this has been an option this whole time?!?!”. I was so jealous of her new gf and devastated that I hadn’t recognised how I felt about her years ago. They seemed happy, and they even worked together in the same hospital.

Anyway, we reconnected 10 days ago, and it’s been playing on my mind ever since. After we met, I was crying because she is still in a relationship with this woman and they were speaking about buying a home together, and starting a family. I realise how much I love her and it made me really emotional. The worst part was that she told me that her partner has hit her on two occasions, and has been emotionally abusive. She is questioning their relationship, but is clearly still in love with her.

Although it hurts, I could accept her marrying this woman and being with her if it’s what makes her happy. However, the thought of her being with someone who treats her like this makes me physically sick. She deserves the world, and I can’t help imagining what our life would be like together and wanting to care for her in the way she deserves.

Anyway, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation?

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Just a quick thought I had a few days ago.

It is broadly stated, that "men like lesbians". We all know, this is absolutely not true. "Men" don't like and never liked lesbians at all. "Men" like the idea of feminine women, who "like to play with each other" to tease the man, but as soon, as a cock steps in, focus their activity entirely on him.

This is literally the definition of heteroflexibility: Being open to have some same sex activities in sexual settings, but having no interest in actual same sex relationships. It is literally the mildes form of bisexuality, and there is nothing wrong with it. It is a totally valid sexual orientation. But this has nothing to do with being lesbian.

(I know that almost all conventional porn has this problem and is made for the male gaze.)

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Mythical thrift store find

I found this suit at value village, and the red shirt at another thrift store!! I dyed bits of my hair red today and decided to mess around with my makeup for the first time in awhile and felt so cool 😁

The weird stance in the first picture is to show my boots 😭😭

But honestly I think i wanna wear this to my prom!

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