would you mind your gf being virgin?
I'm a 23 years old lesbian and I have never done it before, I already had a gf once but at this time I used to take some psychiatric medication and I had zero interest into sex bc of it, it was a side effects of my meds, but I was still 19 that time so it was ok being virgin at 19, but now I'm already 23 and I don't had a new gf yet, and I'm afraid of, bc when I got to have a new gf she'll expected me to not be be, and she'll expected to know what to do, I'm so nervous about it, I'm not even close to get one right now, but I'm so ashamed about it, mostly girls are not virgin at this age and feel a little bit ridiculous, but at time since I already waited so long I'll not do It with any girl, I need to be in love with her
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Visual_Aside_8929: Short answer: no one who actually likes you would care. No need to be nervous, it’s a dumb thing to be judged by anyways
Hisosih: I'm in my early 30s and a lot of women I have been with (mostly bi women) have been with men but not with women, whether it's due to comphet or whatever else, I've recently been with women 30-40 who are technically having their first wlw experience. And that has been the case since I came out in my teens - I typically feel that my experience and lack of judgement allows them to feel safe and comfortable to explore themselves, and that to me will always be the most important thing.
Ayls_x: Personally, I actually like virgins. I think it’s because it shows me that their first time really matters to them and that they aren't just jumping at the first opportunity that comes along. I find it incredibly beautiful and flattering when a woman wants to share her first time with me, and I really put in the effort. Personally, I find it more of a turn-off if someone has had a lot of partners - though everyone sees that differently. So, don't worry about it too much. If you meet a woman you like, just tell her and see how she reacts to get a sense of where she stands. If she’s really into you, it won’t be a problem 😊
Pj_kirb: If it makes u feel any better, I’m also 23 and a lesbian and never had sex before either. And I think for me, if a girl actually liked me and wanted to be with me, and told me she was a virgin, I wouldn’t mind at all, and it wouldn’t bother me personally. But then again, some other women might feel some type of way about it, and there’s like nothing u can do with how they react. I had to accept that for myself too as a virgin, that some women might be turned off about it. So it’s kind of just luck, that you find and meet a women that wants to be with you and doesn’t mind. But in my case, I would not care, as I would be in the same boat anyways, but I don’t know for other women. It just depends on the individual you are dating. And hopefully u meet a women that is the right fit for you, and things go well in the future. Good luck!
Mommy2maeve: Nope. I'd care about her being curious, wanting to learn her own body and mine, and her being dedicated to giving pleasure as good as she gets it. I'm 45. My body count is incredibly low (like...maybe 20?), and my partner is 43. Her body count is so high, she doesn't know it. However, she says I'm the most skilled and satisfying lover she's ever been with. I pay attention to her body when we're together. I notice what elicits the little moans and delights of pleasure. And it's not even anything special, nor that hard to pull off. Every time we have sex, I try two or three new things. Now, I don't mean new toys, involved bondage techniques, nor anything else complicated, though you toss those in the sauce every once in a while,. I just mean varying the angle of my wrist or the curling of my fingers as I'm pleasuring her with my hand. Maybe the pattern and pressure I'm rubbing her cl1t with. Something different with my tongue as we kiss. Little things. And every time she moans, squeals, or gasps for air, I notice. And I use it to make her scream and her entire body seize every time I make her climax. I've made her orgasm so hard she passed out on multiple occasions. It's all as simple as paying attention, being curious and learning what gives your partner pleasure. Will your first time be the best time you ever have? Definitely not. Go into it and approach it from the perspective of being curious, wanting to pleasure your partner, and wanting yourself to be pleasured, and it will still be so memorable and special. You're in for a real treat. I hope you enjoy it <3
Originally shared by Imlovelymin on r/WLW on August 16th, 2026 at 2:04 PM UTC.
