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Lesbian Love <3

Teehee Couldn't figure out who exactly made this exact piece of art. I was only able to find this being posted a few times on pinterest and tiktok and nowhere else. Sorry. Arf arf awruff 🐶 ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

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Currently we are long distance (different countries same timezone) and it's been hard. We are both overworked and the heat and humidity of summer is getting to us plus some changes to our plans means we had to cancel a trip together. So you can imagine how shitty we both feel.

Nevertheless I spent some of my office time today crafting a list of reasons why I love her and sent it along with a message letting her know I'm aware of how stressed she is and that I hope whatever I wrote will help making the day easier. Y'all she was in the middle of a bank crying! She took a screenshot and set it up as her background screen so she can look at it whenever she looks at the hour (only 1/4th of the reasons fit on that screenshot lol).

I love this woman.

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It’s rough out here

Is there any other masc having a hard time finding femme lesbians out in the wild? Half the time i can’t even tell if they’re lesbians or not. I usually shoot my shot but damn shits rough out here. Some either take the compliment and respectfully deny or some woman are just straight up rude. Then it’s like is it me? 🤣 it can’t be me. Maybe it is who fucking know. I have dated or tried talking to someone in over 7 years.

Some replies worth sharing:

TheLuckiestClover_03: I BELIEVE IN YOU 🥳🥳 You're hot as hell!!! Just for the record 💅🌸

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New covers for Truth and Measure duology! Definitely going to be rereading😭

I’m swooning so hard rn🫠🫠How did she make Vivian even hotter!! This art is pure gold. I’m so excited for my reread

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I’m 28 and I have had my fair share of relationships, but this is the longest I’ve been without one. It’s been over two years of me having a relationship. I’ve had hookups and situationships since, but I never really felt them going anywhere so I just took a break all together.

I’m okay being single and alone because I have good friends, great family, fun hobbies, but yet… I still desire a romantic connection, but then I also don’t feel that pull to get into something if it doesn’t better my life in a way. I used to be such a big lover girl, but I guess being single for a while now, I just can’t see myself dating anymore. I’ve tried, but I want something substantial, not superficial.

I guess deep down I do want a romantic connection, but as I get older, I do fear that I may not find a profound or deep connection with someone. I’ve met most of the people I’ve dated through dating apps, but I just can’t seem to bring myself to put in effort on an app. Can anyone else relate?

Some standout replies:

AischriAi: 28 here too. I relate insofar as that I have a deep desire for a romantic relationship. Oftentimes I wish I was aroace so I could get over that feeling. But I've kinda just given up on any sort of dating because it always ends up bad for me. I'm kinda just becoming a hermit with my cat and working on my hobbies, which isn't so bad. I still just wish I could rip out this part of me which craves human connection and burn it.

Usernames_suck_ok: You must not spend much time here.

Jealous_Bread0420: 34 f masc here and it’s been rough out in the wild. And for myself i feel it’s hard finding femme lesbians in the wild. Most woman either look at me all crazy or just laugh. Sometimes im just being nice and complimenting thems. It’s like fuck this then. Half the time idk on app who’s real or not.

Ill-Green8678: 31F. I can relate. For a year+ after I broke up with my ex I felt pretty bored by the concept of dating to the extent that I had no sex drive even. I met people but was put off by their behaviour (pushiness, a lot of emotional ups and downs even at date 2) or just experienced mutually no chemistry. It's early days now (only weeks in) but I've met someone who seems to be really compatible with me and lots in common. She seems very secure and perhaps in the past I would have thought of this as boring or a lack of chemistry. Well, I'm dating intentionally, and felt really safe around her and decided to let things play out. And I'm glad I did because we have so much in common, we've built chemistry and closeness, we're moving at a healthy pace (not too fast, but still affectionate and concrete) and I feel like I can breathe. I was not expecting that. So I suppose my questions for you would be around - What are you looking for? How's your attachment? Who are you going on dates with and are they the types of people you'd see yourself in a relationship with? Also, maybe you're just happy right now being single! That's actually a beautiful place to be in and just as legitimate! Life has different seasons and you've gotta make the choices that fit your needs at that time.

InfinitePhotograph61: I completely relate to everything you just said. I’m 35, and I can tell you from experience that what you are feeling is incredibly normal as you grow into yourself. I spent a lot of my 20s going through those exact same situationships and hookups, and it honestly gets so exhausting when you realize they aren't going anywhere. As I've gotten older, I’ve realized that a relationship needs to genuinely better my life, not my better my night, or as in situationships better the time pass of being single until one of us finds a relationship. Otherwise, being single is way more fulfilling. Don't let the fear of not finding a deep connection yet have you think something is wrong with you. You've just outgrown the superficial stuff, and that is a healthy place to be.

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Finally feeling like me.

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Went to a luau

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I just wanna hear other peoples stories. I’ll type mine in the comments.

A few replies that stood out:

Holldo91: Work; boss sort of introduced us after listening to us gush over each other for almost a year. Both assumed the other straight. Went out as a work group once and she made her move. I was smitten. That was almost five years ago now.

StoneColdDyke: We met through mutual friends. Things were messy and drama filled at first but we kept choosing each other. Four years together and we're common-law married.

FilterlessMomma: I was recently single and got on good ole Craigslist looking to see what was going on that night…. Spicy wise. Met a guy that wanted a girlfriend and that his wife was bi. So we all met. The three of us dated for about three months and then she and I figured out we were in love that fast. We just clicked. With everything. 12 years later, raised 4 kids together…. And to think I didn’t even know I wanted to date a woman until I saw her.

TrainingNail: In the officialstickreviews instagram page. She posted a stick and I got in her DMs

MsCardeno: We were both servers at a restaurant when we were in college.

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Which haircut would suit my face better?

as much as I hate AI, it came really in handy here. the 1st and 4th are very similar but I think the mullet would also look cool if it had less volume on top. The 3rd one is just bad, so don’t look at it. Personally I really like the 4th one, as I think it would suit my personality…

the next image is my current one: as a comparison, right now I have really, really long, brown, slightly curly hair that I always keep in a ponytail and the top is completely flat, without volume and my forehead is quite big. that’s why I’m looking at something that will hopefully hide it a bit 😅😅

any help is deeply appreciated cuz I really need to change my hairstyle 😭

Here are some replies:

Fickle-Ear-4875: 4 is the best imo

Both-Huckleberry-293: Mullet

ShayJayLee: Either 1 or 4. Side shaves look really good for your hair texture and face shape!

Mikripetra: Honestly I’m a big mullet fan, they 1 and 4 are really good but I love 2.

Katamaribabe: I like the mullet

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no one could possibly treat me better than the way I treat myself

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There were signs...

this was like 6 or like 5th i forgot what grade and im way too lazy to count i think it was 7th

Anyways i came out today and lwk found this in my sketchbook so 😹

Genuinely giggled at ts

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What‘s your favorite position to do? I always like it when my gf sits on my face and I can finger myself while eating her out

From the comments:

Firm-Eye8189: Scissoring but kissing also

Smolpokegirl2: scissoring with her tongue in my mouth or everything strap-on related, mostly cowgirl and missionary 🫠

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People are completely out of their minds and they don’t even realize it, really. The dating scene is criminal everywhere.

I (27) was talking to this girl (also 27) for a couple of weeks and she was pretty open to me about never dating girls before and asked me if we could take it slowly, that she never kissed on first dates and all of that. Honestly? Fine with me and I told her that - chemistry is important but there’s so much to know about each other first… and I like to take it all slowly too! I’m autistic and there’s nothing I like more than putting boundaries and to know where I stand.

One week in and the girl starts flirting madly and talking about sex and making sex jokes in completely random contexts. And okay, she’s bi, but what the fuck? You asked me about my favorite food and you have to insert a sex joke in that while making fun of me not liking men?! And 2 minutes later you’re talking about meeting my family???? And then some crazy love bombing. GIRL I DON’T KNOW YOU!? Not even mentioning how she’ll text even in the middle of the work, all day, no pauses. And if I didn’t reply in 1-2 hours “woow you’re so busy”.

I couldn’t take 3 weeks of this and just ended it.

And I swear to God, it’s not even the first time something like this happened. We met due to a couple of friends in common playing together online and I thought it would be cool to talk even if nothing came out of it.

I have no words about how frustrating it’s been trying to meet new people, and it’s even harder to meet other women that are compatible with me, and I’m not proud of this but my standards aren’t that high - mutual attraction, a few hobbies in common (I have lots of them), someone patient that gives me some space and common sense. I swear that’s it.

I’ll occupy my mind with something for a bit but I’m sending my sympathies to any other lesbian going through the same. It’s tough!!

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hi fellow wlw folks <3 i(26) was looking to get some opinions on a situation im in, in my first wlw dating trajectory.

i am on a trajectory to enter a relationship with a girl im really attracted to, she’s attracted to me as well, and we clearly like each other. i haven’t felt these things before with anyone else 🙈 in all but the label we are dating, but we’ve known each other since end of june so we’re trying to take things slow..🤭

i’ve liked everything ive learned about her so far. she’s empathetic, on track to being a therapist, volunteers in lgbtq+ organizations…

but there are 2 things she’s said that i was hoping for some perspective on - 1. “you’re definitely more into the queer stuff than i am” - she’s known she was only into girls since age 6ish and her parents have always been very accepting so for her it’s never been something to either hide or learn to embrace, not really. my experience has been the opposite, #comphet😓 so i looove being part of pride events and such, now that im out to myself 🌈❤️‍🩹✨ she’s never been to a pride parade though?? which is odd to me?? idk how normal that is, she said she’s just never had someone invite her, so maybe i’m overthinking this but it just feels like she’s not proud to be gay?? ahahahaa idk if that’s the norm for gold star lesbians or if it means something else im not seeing so i’d love some perspective <3

2. and the bigger question - she seems to think that if people wanted to stop being poor they’d just have to work harder…… which sounds like the conservative bull i used to spout back in high school 😓 it sounds like she’d be willing to listen to what i have to say on the topic and such, and the only reason i learned better and actually educated myself on marxism and the class struggle was through people and partners who were patient enough to talk to me about it and gently correct me or provide me evidence on the contrary……. so i’m just not sure if i can/should be that person? i can give in pretty easily sometimes and worry i’ll just agree to keep the peace/not fight but like… i just haven’t been able to stop thinking about her comment about poor people. i’m honestly not sure what to do. she’s not MAGA-esque or anything, but i am very pro-marxism and so this felt like quite the bomb drop (the blaming the person for the material conditions they inherited).

has anyone faced any situation akin to this or have any thoughts? i would really truly appreciate more perspectives, im open to answering any questions, there’s more nuance but this is the gist of it. thank you in advance 🌈🦄✨

Some standout replies:

Constant_Poem_1938: These aren't major hindrances but the statement she made about poor people may be a bit indicative of something else, like maybe a lack of empathy or life experience so I'd keep that at the back of my mind. Her viewpoints really say more about her as a person so if you like her as a person there shouldn't be any issue!

HamakazeKai: Not going to Pride isn’t a huge issue, I don’t go to pride events and it doesn’t make me any less Queer. On the face of it, her comments about poor people are terrible and it makes me wonder what the context of that conversation was?

StoneColdDyke: Not going to Pride isn't a huge issue, I've never attended in my life because I hate crowds and loud spaces but her comments about poor people are.

Mommy2maeve: Yeah, that sounds like a massive lack of empathy for people with different life experiences, which is often indicative that they will fail to empathize with you when things are tough. Don't ask me how I know. It's also victim blaming ("poors just are lazy"), and that will come home to roost in your relationship. You're an adult and can make your own choices, and I sincerely wish you good luck.

Brave-Climate-6800: Eu já passei por isso nos meus dois últimos namoros, o que me levou a acreditar que a diferença entre elas era simplesmente querer ouvir ou não. Com a minha ex que namorei em 2013 por exemplo, eu não tinha abertura pra discutir assuntos sociais ou políticos porque ela preferia se isentar e anular voto. Acabamos por outros motivos e hoje em dia ela é bem ativista. Talvez ela não estivesse pronta na época. Mas com minha última ex, conversávamos horas, tínhamos um diálogo, ela nunca foi mente fechada e era uma pessoa que me fazia pensar também. Ela me disse que mudou algumas concepções sociais e eu posso dizer q mudei comportamentos meus q eu nao percebia q eram descuidados.

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I feel like in dating, I’m almost always the one initiating. If I see a girl I find really attractive, I’ll approach her, message her first, ask her out, suggest plans, keep the conversation going, etc. And sometimes it works and I’ll get dates out of it.

I honestly can’t remember the last time a girl I was really attracted to just clearly pursued me first. It feels like if I’m not actively creating the opportunity, nothing happens.

And I think part of what messes with my head is that I tend to be attracted to very pretty/feminine girls who a lot of the times are also dating men so they’re socialized to be the ones who are getting chased/pampered to. But then I can’t tell if I’m experiencing mutual attraction or if I’m just good at pushing things forward. I genuinely think I would have no dating life whatsoever if I never took initiative because of my type in women. For context, I’m also fem presenting but not as fem as the girls I’m interested in.

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Me ♥

Im a transgender girl from mexico

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Guys i dyed my hair finally!

After multiple years of wanting to dye it red, i finally did it! Its still a bit purple because thats the undertone but after i wash it for the first time it should be a deep red. The dye i used was: Rage Red by Attitude.

Do you guys think it looks good as purple?

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