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Trying out some new accessories ^w^

Def wanna wear this out and add a few things:

* Patterned fishnet leggings

* Black lipstick

* Winged eyeliner

Also thinking about starting to play around with white foundations but not sure if it looks good for my face shape and skin color.

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girls support girls 🌸

Community is all that matters, women find solace with women

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Finally more lesbian media🙌

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Happy Friday!

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Please read this, I’ll appreciate it, even though ik it sounds like the journal factory exploded. 😭

Tonight hit me really hard. I went to a club with one of my (femme) best friends. They recently broke up with their boyfriend, and this was the first time they’ve gone out and flirted with someone again. They met someone almost immediately (a fairly attractive masc that I was also super into), both of them clicked, and by the end of the night they were making out on the stairs. I was genuinely happy for them.

But I ended up sitting alone in a bathroom stall crying, not feeling like dancing anymore. Not because I “needed” that specific person or wanted to take their moment away—but I was also super into them. Yet, it felt like I was invisible (even if I was also putting myself out there). I want someone to look at me the way they looked at my friend.

I’m masc4masc, and most of the time it feels incredibly isolating. The people I’m attracted to rarely seem attracted to me, and sometimes I wonder how much heteronormative expectations shape who people imagine themselves with.

The people who actually approach me usually aren’t my type. For instance, tonight, a really sweet femme girl approached me, we talked, and even kissed. She was lovely. But I just didn’t feel that spark. And I know myself well enough to know I can’t change that or try to force it.

In general, I feel like masc4masc is such a tiny niche. Sometimes I feel “too gay” even within queer spaces. People ALWAYS assume I’m dating whichever femme friend I’m with. And the RARE times I do connect with another masc, it has felt like I’m their “first masc” or their exploration, rather than someone they intentionally wanted.

Moreover, if I’m being completely candid, I don’t think it’s about my looks or not putting work into myself. I’m confident, I’ve worked hard on my emotional intelligence, and I know I have a lot of love to give. I’m a lover at heart. I want to spoil someone. I just want someone who can match me and playfully challenge me. That’s why I’m drawn to other mascs, physically and emotionally.

To clarify, what hurt tonight wasn’t that my friend found someone—they absolutely deserve a good time and connection. It was how effortless it seemed, while I’ve spent years hoping for that same kind of mutual connection.

I’m not saying this is everyone’s experience. But I am wondering, If you’re masc4masc, have you felt this too?

A few notable replies:

Simbas_TexanDaughter: Absolutely. 100% have felt it too. I do a mix of femme/masc and it is incredibly isolating in the dating world. I don’t believe someone is really and truly attracted to me until they are attracted to me in both forms. I’ve had it happen way too many times that they are only attracted to me one way or the other. Which is CRAZY to me! It’s just clothing! My personality doesn’t change! My body is the same no matter what! It does feel very heteronormative to me at times too. I literally had the exact situation that happened to you tonight happen to me and a sweet femme friend last week. Masc I thought was cute went for her instead. (For context: I was wearing a crop top and men’s shorts). Which totally fine! But disappointing? Yes. I share your pain friend but we exist 🫶.

Sexyfish10887: Where are you from

Sexyfish10887: Mcr

Giovannisisland: Hahahahaa (crying)

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I am definitely soooo gay hahahah

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I'm currently writing lesbian polyamorous fiction for fun. This has lead me to trying to figure out petnames for everyone to call each other. So I figured I'd ask the people who know best, other lesbians.

A few notable replies:

Spikeszy: i call mine gummybear lol. anyway…….. allow us to read your fiction please 🙏🙏🙏

GayRoomba602: Not my wife, but I call her sunshine Aw, spikeszy, gummybear is adorable! And, yes, we need this fiction immediately

Im-ba: I concatenate the first two letters of her first name with the first two letters of her last name, e.g.: `Jill Johnson` would be: `Jijo`

Suuzgh: Honey girl is my favorite pet name for my partner. My partner often calls me princess lover girl, or just lover girl 😂 We’re grown, so I’m not sure why we both ended up as “girls,” but it’s what’s stuck.

Bluesond: Bug.

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Pride’s not over until I say so!!

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Literally I have 0 luck with relationships. Istfg everyone at my age already dated/is dating someone and only I have like 0 experience. What is so wrong with me? The only thing I ever had was some bi-curious bitch who decided to play with my feelings. Ugh...

Some replies worth sharing:

Idkythatsmypurse: I think we need more context. I'll chat with you if you'd like, see what we can figure out. I'm an honest auntie, so prepare for truths and work :)

ImABarbieWhirl: I didn’t even start dating until I was 21. I was married at 30, then swore off finding love forever when I got divorced. I’m now currently dating someone I was previously friends with. Life’s kinda funny. There’s hope out there

Berryy_05: Yep, I'm also tired of ppl gaslighting me with the "it'll happen when you least expect it" bs. I see sapphic couples all around me. Most queer people I know have multiple exes in fact. Why am I the only one seemingly not worthy of loving? The only thing that seems to make it less sucky is that I'm trying to not wallow in my misery and try to enjoy all other aspects of my life. Not because I think it will fix my love life (I honestly think some ppl just have shit luck in life), but because I need to find some source of enjoyment and distraction. Can't say anything smarter than that, as I'm also feeling the same, but I want you to know you're not the only one and I hope things will work out for you in the end :)

Evie_evs: I feel your pain…no one seems to want me on dating apps, in person, hell anywhere. I’m trying the “I’m better off alone” thing but damn it kinda hurts

Depression-gov-au: It's hard out there atm.

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Highlights from the comments:

Lazy_Incident8445: Entitlement.

AbsoluteBabyMonae: They think they have some magical peen. 😅

Icy_Dig_3691: I think it's porn that fetishizes us. We've become more fantasies than human beings :(

Sudden_Layer8176: Fr it’s scary that u nvr know who you’re talking to on here… i had some weird experiences

AspieAsshole: I got downvoted the last time I said this, but I really do believe a reasonably significant percentage of them are eggs not yet cracked. I married a girl who had considered herself a lesbian, and then it was years longer before we figured out the truth about me. This is not meant to invalidate your feelings about men invading spaces not meant for them, and I sincerely apologize if it comes off that way.

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Lesbian Artwork

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sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with me because of how much I want to be degraded by another woman😅

ive thought a lot about and i feel like a bad person sometimes because honestly if i woman treated me like shit I’d probably get off to it. I’ve had fantasys about being smacked or whipped,or idk like orgasm denial.I’d never be a house wife to a man but I would definitely do it for a woman . is that messed up??

Here are some replies:

Saarrrrr94: Everyone has their own fantasy. Nothing wrong with that girl

Helpful-Departure-27: No I think that's a normal fantasy to have. It's not that uncommon. Have fun 🔥👅

Worried-Rain-1532: No I can relate, consensual degredation is cute to me

Im-ba: If it's consensual and negotiated ahead of time and both are communicating well throughout it, then where's the problem? I've always been really big into the hucow dynamic (the softer side of it) and there's so much mental and physical fuckery that it can lead to. With the right dynamic it can be really beautiful and intimate.

AmyHeartsYou: As long as it's consensual on both sides, and you're getting the aftercare you need, I think you're good.

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Went to the club it was boring

Soooo I went to this club in Atlanta Hosted and run by queer black woman and I’m pretty bummed out because I didn’t find my dream girl there. I did talk to this one girl in the outside of club. The conversation was very eclectic and we had a lot of common but she wanted to go back in there and did not want talk to me just "vibe" she said whatever that means :/ but it was sooo lame and boring there just people smoking weed and drinking while standing with loud music playing. I release I’m not a club person more of cafe/bookstore/anime convention persons I’m wondering is there any other queer alternatives to find my dream girl that are not night life? I wanna form an emotional connection and have deep conversations with people.

Also im fem4fem how I do find a Dom fems in Atlanta?

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INNANE RAMBLINGS AHEAD BC A BICH NEED A SAFE PLACE TO PROCESS

I went on my first date in years as well as had sex for the first time in years (finally putting myself out there again after a traumatic break-up/ dv relationship, etc etc you get it), she made me cum effortlessly 3 times and I couldnt even get her to feel a little nice :(

Ive never had issue making a girl finish... i did what I normally did and of course stopped and asked for her input when I noticed something wasn't working. But nothing was working. I tried slow, I tried fast, I tried deep, I tried shallow, I tried tongue, no tongue, nipple play, no nipple play, I literally tried everything until she told me to stop and just cuddle her ... we both enjoyed the cuddle part. Me especially. I've always liked that more than sex, maybe I was just in too much of a rush to get to that part especially after having finished 3 times?? I admit there wasn't enough foreplay on my end ....

She didnt inherently seem upset by the fact she didnt finish, but I cant help but feel like she was quite disappointed seeing as there was a lot of build up over messages, I feel like she just isnt saying it in fear of making me feel bad.

I just asked her how shes doing hoping we can talk it through a bit more because I really like her and feel I have given a poor first impression. I think shes a sweetie with a a heart of gold, we have a lot of similar interests and outlooks on life, honestly the highlight of our date to me was just talking to her and looking into her eyes (when I could!! Miss lady was shy and didnt make much eye contact :')). I dont want sex to be the thing that stops me from getting closer to her

I just cant stop beating myself up. Like im struggling to get through today because its all I can think about. This is my first time having sex in forever and its very obvious im rusty!! What do I do :'))))))) I feel like ive ~ruined everythinggg~ how do you guys like to finish i need suggestions apparently on how to do better ahahaha

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felt super cute in this outfit!

i think every time i wear high heels, i just feel extra confident and prettier! and i also just love this sweater vest look!

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Yall I remember I came out to my mom at age 12 but she shoved me right back in the closet and i thought that it was just a phase until a four days ago I realised that I can’t do it with men 😭😭😭 I still call myself bi but ugh it’s tricky. Anyone...

Some replies worth sharing:

Zealousideal_Bet_248: Everyone's journeys different. As a bi person, it would be total okay of you want to keep call yourself that until you figure things out

Playful-Technology-1: You are you, and whoever the you that you are is a wonderful woman worthy of love and respect. Neither your mother's opinion on who you are not anyone else's but yours matter. If you feel bi, you can call yourself bi. If that ever changes, it'll be that the bi label was just a stop in your own self discovery journey. There are other labels that you may want to explore that are less deterministic like Saphic, WLW... Just remember, you weren't born wrong or broken. You're loveworthy and amazing.BThe journey to truly discover who you are will take you a lifetime and more.

Soulstrike2022: Be honest with yourself no matter what it may be and cut those who refuse to accept it out of your life or at the very least low contact if they won’t accept you as is they don’t deserve to have you maybe not no contact if that makes you uncomfortable especially if you’re not moved out don’t do this but don’t let them force you into conversations or go places where you don’t drive (again if you haven’t moved out don’t do this)

Tempeh4dinner: I had a very very similar experience. I went to come out to my mom at the same age and she was like let me guess youre gay? And her saying it before I could upset me so I said no and repressed it for years. Then i literally came out to myself in my dream and I woke up shocked that i never realized this or I did but then just pushed it to the side??

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I (24f) have ALWAYS struggled to finish with partners, like I have never had a partner in the past be able to make me cum without any help from myself or a toy. I’ve been with my current gf (23f) for like 4.5 months and fuck I love her so much and I know it makes her feel a bit insecure that she can’t make me cum bc she finishes 3-5 times every time we have sex. I’ve been working on changing my mindset more and last night I truly wasn’t even thinking about maybe what if I came I just wanted to be in the moment and enjoy bc no one has ever made me feel as good as she does. I’m realizing that I’m not even sure if I was fully ever attracted to anyone I’ve ever been with before after the way things with her are (literally 1000 times better than any sex I’ve ever had before)

Last night she made me cum all on her own (and only in like 10mins) and wow I was so shocked and happy and just like kind of in disbelief?? Not because I didn’t think she could do it but I honestly thought it would take way longer to happen. Usually it take about 4 months of regular sex to even feel mostly comfortable with someone but with her it was so immediate and wow the orgasm was so good

I’m so discombobulated and rambly typing this but I just wanted to celebrate with some sapphics bc I know so many people understand this and wow I’m just so happy and can’t wait for the next time.

Some comments that stood out:

TrainingNail: AHAahahha had the same experience a few months ago (made my partner cum when she had never cum with somebody else before, only alone and with a lot of struggle) though we had only been seeing each other for a bit, and discombobulated is the right word - she couldn't stop talking about it for days

No-Satisfaction-2308: YAYYYY im so happy for you

Blvaga: Yayyyy!!!!! <3

Cliticalthinking991: hell yeah!! May your days be even wetter & more orgasmic from here!

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