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Girlfriend finally proposed!!

We’ve been together five and a half years and I couldn’t be more excited!!!

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Here are some replies:

Transbianpomegranate: ...is like asking I am the only one who likes to drink water when I am thirsty ;)

Student-bored8: I think most people do. Boobs are an erogenous zone

AinaLove: I like my boobs played with, as does my wife.

RedHeadHashira: Like randomly? No. But if you ask and I like you yeah you get a squeeze.

Therarebird: It depends. During sex, yes. In the middle of a serious conversation, no

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Genre doesn’t matter. I would love to know why it is your favorite too.

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I’ve been very hiperfocused on my own late bloomer lesbian agenda. Reading about comphet a lot of things made sense, but still lacked some nuances for my personal experience. Just found out liking men were a part of the masking thing for me too. 😆 Specially makes sense because I used to identify as bisexual. So comphet and masking overlap for me. But in general, I just wanna know some autistic experiences.

Some standout replies:

J_eronimo: I still vascillate between I’m for sure a lesbian and I can’t claim that label, so I just use “queer” rn bc I think myself into a headache every day otherwise. But 100% autistic masking and alexythemia played a huge role in me not figuring out I only want to date women until I was 32 (only got diagnosed with autism at 28 as well) and I knew I was into women as early as 14 and openly identified as bi by 18. It’s a really weird subtype of late bloomer, I feel like, but glad I’m not alone lol

Rose_petals98: I’m not sure if I can chime in here as I am not autistic. I recently got diagnosed with cptsd and for a while I suspected I was on the spectrum before knowing. I thought I was bisexual in my younger years then pansexual but turns out I’m 100% gay lol. I performed heteronormativity for a while and didn’t even process the kind of genuine connection I had wth women…. I simply substituted that with pretty looking guys 🥲

ExactPanda: I’m questioning everything lately. I right I was straight, then asexual, then bi. I haven’t been formally tested yet, but I suspect I have autism and ADHD. I’m leaning towards the lesbian label. I feel like a fraud all the time lol

Freeakish: Yes!!! I’m autistic and formerly bisexual-identified. Being with men felt like something I had to do and didn’t have the social skills to do otherwise. A couple guys never even asked me to be their girlfriend, they just assumed, so I ended up in relationships without consent. My relationships with women have been completely different, they’ve felt natural and proactive and enthusiastic.

Sammynourpig: I feel this so much. I have AuDHD and I’m late diagnosed in my 30’s. Part of taking off the mask was letting my straight-passing bisexual facade fade away. I do use the term “queer” and not lesbian because I realize there’s a sexual side of me that can enjoy a man’s company, but my romantic feelings lie solely with women. It was always meant to be women and I wasted a lot of time chasing this weird idea that I needed a man to support me or I’d never make it on my own? It’s just social conditioning but I truly gave into for a while masking for my life. It took a lot for me to get away from that mindset, but I did, and now I feel way more authentically myself 🖤

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Remembering Stonewall

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In my (21F) previous relationship, my ex would tell me finds me very cute whenever I told her something regarding the fact that I want to feel sexy to her. Every time this conversation was brought up she would tell me something along the lines of she just doesnt find people sexy and its more of a cute feeling. She really enjoyed topping me in the first year of our relationship and then things stated fizzling out. She didnt want to receive anymore , saying she just doesnt like it, which is understandable, but I am a giver so it wasnt working. Our sex drives started to mismatch, flirting disappeared and then she told me that she thinks shes on the asexual spectrum. This ended our relationship, I understood that we just weren't aligned anymore but it was hard to not feel like maybe something was wrong with me and she lost attraction or something.

It's been about a year now and I recently started dating a new woman. Things are going really good and we had our 3rd date a couple of days ago. After the first or second round of sex , I looked at her and said "you're so pretty", she immediately responded, so quick it actually caught me off guard, "you're so sexy". I stg i did a double take, like that sentence hit me hard and I wasnt expecting it. I think maybe I thought I just wasn't sexy and im just a cute looking person and I had given up on the idea of "trying to be sexy" because it felt like im just not that person. So for her to think im sexy without me trying , just me in my natural state , was wild for me. I just didnt expect it to shake me up so much, I think maybe the lesson here is that everyone perceives you differently? Maybe you'll be cute to some people and sexy to others , im just happy to know i havent been kicked out of the sexy category

Some replies that stood out:

BeAPetRock: you have always been sexy, just not for your ex. happy that you found someone who finds you attractive and isn’t afraid to express it!! yay 🥳

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I feel like such a baby gay ya’ll. I just finished Lnattc and I absolutely loved it. Sobbed at the end bc of how beautiful. LOVE LOVE LOVE KATH AND LILY. Let me know if you’ve read it! I need more books like this that I could possibly find at my local library like this book.

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I'm at a women's only beach, it is heaven. I love women soo much!!

found this large sea shell!

make drinking water fun by imagining the impurities dwelling within your innards being drowned by a divine deluge

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Here's a new sci-fi sapphic comic that i found

Title- Can a Containment Object Be a Savior Too?

The story is fine and the art is quite good. It's still ongoing with 7 chapters translated. Dm me if you can't find it😊😊

Thanks

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my girlfriend is exactly 1 year and 10 months younger than me. I’m 19 and she’s still 17. we’re both virgins. age of consent in our country is 16. I know she will say yes if i brought this up because we already regularly sex text and make out whenever we get the chance. but even if she said yes to the next step, i’m not sure if it’s really okay for me to do this with a 17yr old. but i still crave her and want her so much it’s getting harder to control. is this something i should feel guilty about? I know this question sounds stupid but i just think i will feel like a creep if i did it without any societal acceptance

Some comments that stood out:

Fedginator: 17 and 19 really is not a problematic age gap.

NikolaTesla2: its really not a big deal

Affectionate_Fox8113: If she also wants to do it then go for it. You are both over the age of consent. A 1 year age difference is really not that big of a deal.

Lyssaly: A 17 year old and a 19 year old could both be college freshman at the same time depending on where their birthdays fell. While it’s true that smaller age gaps matter for younger people, 17 to 19 is really not one I’d be worried about.

YuliyaVolkova: This isn’t somethign you should feel guilty about if there is consent present. In fact, no matter the laws in a country, if you are doing something that you are sure isn’t unethical and only brings love and peace into this world, not harm, there is no reason to feel bad about it.

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I got a lesbian belt on for my company's pride event! And matching bracelet

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Hellooo, okay so this is confusing but my partner doesnt like getting penetrated and I also don’t, however I really like going through the motions of penetrating and she likes to be on the receiving end of this.

Now I’m wondering if anyone else has this and perhaps has some reccomendations🥺

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Does anyone feel the same way? I've read 50+ wlw books this year, and I want to diversify my reading (by not only reading wlw), but it's like I would still enjoy a bad wlw book more than a decent... any other book.

From the comments:

SufficientReader4964: Same. Also, there is such a wonderful variety now that you probably don’t need to ready non sapphic books anymore. We are so lucky

Kibblesmoothie: I still enjoy reading books without romance(Like Project Hail Mary) but I'll only read WLW romance books. I'm a "late bloomer" and books with straight romance plots made me uncomfortable even before I figured out what was up, especially if they were spicy.

Enkundae: A good story is a good story and I can get invested in them regardless of it being wlw or even queer at all. Having said that though, I went so long in my life never getting to see overtly queer characters and stories that I do prefer to read them these days. feels a bit like making up for lost time. And with the way things are in real life at the moment.. I don’t want to take the availability of queer books of any kind for granted.

Traditional-Meat-782: I've spent my entire life consuming straight media. If I'm reading for fun, it's wlw now.

MermaidMotel14: I enjoy reading books with barely any romance too! But yes i have little to no interest in straight romances, and some you can read as queer if you squint

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I am losing my shits on what’s the socially accepted protocol for acknowledging a tit pic!

Current being a useless lesbian pondering hypothetical scenarios and now this came up…

Like actually can you be stupid and send things like:

“CHAT IS THIS REAL?” send voice message of me barking just send one back??

yeah my brain is so cooked

What would you girls say? Just wondering in case ever get one (DOUBT)

What people had to say on Reddit:

Poekeso: youre supposed to let her know how much you want her instead of joking and (probably) making her feel undesired

Vivirin: If anyone ever said that to me, I'd probably reconsider if they are emotionally mature enough to continue. I don't want someone acting like a 13-14 year old.

Flar71: Just hit her with one of these "waow 😳"

DemonicGirlcock: To quote a girl I'm currently dating and have been exchanging lewd pics with: "uuhhwwaga you're so fucking hot 🥵🥵🥵"

Batata-Sofi: I just told her she looks amazing (it's true) and we melted over each other

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Hi. Yesterday there was a post here from a hijabi woman who went to a lesbian cafe/bar event in London. The post is now locked, understandably, because there was a lot of Islamophobia. I wanted to reach out to her, and since I could not message her directly, I am writing this here in case she sees it.

I was actually at that same event with my girlfriend. The atmosphere already felt cold and cliquey, the lights were too bright, and the music was too loud. I can only imagine how isolating it must have felt for you. I grew up in a Muslim country as a lesbian and moved to London a few years ago, so I understand how heavy that kind of environment can feel.

My girlfriend kept nudging me to come talk to you (as you were the only hijabi in the space and we assumed you might be from a similar background like me), but I was overwhelmed and ended up leaving early. I was the one in a black corset, the only goth girl in the room, so maybe you saw us. We definitely stood out.

About all the arguments in the comments on your post: people need to understand that sexuality is not a choice. Anyone can be queer. The comments were genuinely disgusting. Instead of listening to a queer Muslim woman talk about wanting community, people attacked her identity. She is already a minority within a minority, and the response she got was cruel.

I know plenty of queer hijabis, both masc and femme, and wearing a hijab does not make anyone less gay. It does not mean they owe anyone an explanation or need to remove it to prove anything. And they’re not accountable for the actions of homophobic muslims when they are themselves are a victim of that homophobia.

If you are reading this, you were not alone in feeling out of place. You deserved so much better than the reaction you received. And there are so many people just like you. It is very tricky to find people like yourself, but we’re here and we see you. Please feel free to message me.

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The grief of modern dating by "Thesoftening_"

It's a post I saw on Instagram I of course asked the person who posted it I can post here she said of course and thank you for asking let me know your thoughts on it :)

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Lesbian loser came out of the closet

After 23 years of silence, I came out of the closet.

I am Mexican, specifically from a conservative town in Tamaulipas, which is not very acceptable here.

I'm cutting my hair to make a new change because now I'm ready to accept myself openly and not just online.

Now all I need is a cute girlfriend, or at least a friend. I've lived in the closet my whole life, so I don't know how to flirt or do anything stupid.

I'll die alone(? Lol

I am 23

Medicated to the max

ADHD and BPD

Mexican artist, still studying design

Virgin, why am I not attractive to the few lesbians in my town? :'(

Older sister with serious Mommy issues

Recovering drug addict

I smoke, a lot.

And I'm not pretty at all.

There are really no qualities to highlight xd

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