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Please rate me 0/10 , be honest.

A few notable replies:

MomoMir: 10 but I think you’re fishing for compliments so 9

XGentian_violet: I rate all “rate me” posts 0

Nastylittlewhoree: why are we still rating women :(

GlowInTheDarkSpaces: You’re my type and if you’re tall too well then you get a 9.

Draqo_haven: 11 lowkeyyy my goodness u are gorgeous

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Hey Ladies,

So sometimes I'm not in the mood for books, but just for a good fanfic. Lesbian of course. Please recommend your favorite ones that match the below criteria. A few lines why you love it and a direct link would be most appreciated ❤️

A must:

✅ Good writing

✅ Good story

✅ Decent Grammar

✅ Slow burn

✅ (eventual) smut

✅ Sexual tension (not a must but very much preferable lol)

✅ 50k+ words

No-Nos:

🚫 Sub/dom

🚫 Violence towards women or rape. (sport injuries or violence related to the main character's job like police/detective/doctor work is fine as long as it's not in excessive amounts).

🚫 Significant age gap

🚫 Useless lesbians trope

🚫 Threesomes, men, or GP

🚫 Way too much fluff. I love a good balance of angst and fluff, not a syrup lol

I'm open to all lesbian ships but my favorite are: FreenBecky Rizzles Korrasami Ann Lister/Anne Walker Carol/Zosya

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Literally the cutest thing that i've read in a while

Title- We Are Expecting

Synopsis-

Eve and Ame are a married couple who live together and have their daily routine, but one day, they decided to change things by planning for their future as mothers. With this idea in mind, they begin preparing for the arrival of a future baby, paving the way before making such an important decision. Along the way, we get to see how they got to this point in their journey.

And, you can read it on Webtoon😊😊

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My potato🫂♥️

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I (29F- very high libido) and my wife, (31F- very low libido) have been together for about 3.5 years, married for almost 1.

We had a lot of good sex in the beginning, but it started to dwindle before we were engaged and there was what I would say was a fair reason for that, so I tried to not think too much about it, thinking it would pass. Well it hasn’t, almost 2.5 years later.

I could probably have sex everyday. It was a very hot topic of discussion for what I would say was about a year. I would try to initiate, would be shot down. Try to plan it in advance, too tired. Tried to shoot for a bit more in the evening, no dice. Within the past year, I just stopped. I got tired of being turned down and not being desired in the way I desire her. So I decided to let her come to me and I think that was a bit of a mistake, as I have now been going a month, two months without any sex. On our honeymoon that was almost two weeks, we had sex the first two days and that was it. We’re currently going on about a month and a half.

If I’m remembering correctly (which is difficult, sadly) I think we’ve had sex about 6 times this year. Maybe give a couple, but definitely no more than two hands.

This also includes just straight up making out, without sex involved. We don’t makeout, unless sex is involved. Just pecks throughout the day. I also just stopped trying to initiate a makeout. As when it would potentially seem it would be going in that direction, I couldn’t quite tell so I would give it a pause to gauge whether or not she seemed into it, as I’m not going to force it if that’s not what she wants. Body language would say otherwise (not being pulled back in, etc) so I would stop.

I have asked if she’s asexual. To which that answer was no.

We have discussed this multiple times and it feels like beating a dead horse so I stopped talking about it altogether. My wife knows I have a very high libido and could have sex with her everyday. My wife knows I enjoy making out. She says she doesn’t want it to feel like a chore, and I don’t want it to feel like a chore for her, so okay. But even we do have sex, vibes are typically involved (which, I’m down for toys and all, but it seems she wants it to speed it up, get it over with). It lasts about 10 minutes. It’s bland.

Our relationship at the moment is…interesting. We don’t fight, we don’t really argue. I’m very laid back. We’re just kind of coexisting with one another.

There were things she asked if I could do in return to want to make her have sex with me (I have a pretty taxing job, so I lacked in some areas due to being burnt out, exhausted mentally and physically) but I would work on them, be more attentive and that would go unnoticed I feel. I cook almost every night. I mow. I do the grocery shopping. I’m what you could say the bread winner in this instance. I contribute in ways that I think are large, and ways that she seems to think are small.

I just want to have sex with my wife. To feel desired. Aside from wanting to make my wife feel good, sex makes me feel close and is an important aspect of my marriage. I also just really enjoy sex.

Anyone who has been through something similar, what helped? I love my wife, but I’m still the ripe age of 29 and don’t know how much longer I can go on like this.

Also, I hope I don’t seem like an ass. I promise I’m a pretty decent person. I’m just lost.

Any advice, words of wisdom, would be greatly appreciated.

Much love 🤞🏼

What people had to say on Reddit:

Gothelemon: This is probably above Reddit’s pay grade. It sounds like - based on how long it’s been going on - that it may be time to consider counseling, if opening up the relationship is not viable.

Key_Bench3759: As someone who dated a girl who would not touch me or initiate anything. Thinking making out is a chore and she doesn’t like it, it just turned out that she just wasn’t into me . I am a f(21) and she was f(22). Its a real issue for u so i would sit down and have a conversation with her instead of going insane on ur own and make up scenarios

Spruker: Has she expressed this same lack of desire in her previous relationships? I think that's a key piece of information because it helps to identify if it's this relationship or her. Is she generally pretty open with sex or quite normal/closed/vanilla ? I only ask as it might help identify that she has or hasn't really discovered her personal niche or kinks or whatever. I'm 32F, quite open, and still feel like there's immense "unlock' to do in terms of turn-on discovery. My suggestion is maybe to switch things up a little bit. Obviously whatever approach has been happening doesn't work, so maybe some new ways to turn her on. And I don't mean the way you turn her on by touching her, I mean the way she is turned on mentally. Some people touching/looking is enough. I'm jealous of those people, but it's definitely not everyone. I find that to have good sex / feel turned on that I need to personally be feeling quite sexy, you know, confident, sometimes a little don'e up, looking after myself. If I feel like a slob then usually my libido follows. I think we need to shift the focus away from you two having sex to you two exploring what really turns her on. Watching porn together? Reading smut? Sexual fantasy story telling? Just naked "play" rather than the pressure of sex? People have some very interesting kinks, so start exploring!

Dooblehh: going to give a different perspective here as someone who thought they had a low libido but turned out they were asexual and has been in this situation before but on the other side. the worst thing you can do in a situation like this is put pressure on the person who has a low libido. it sounds like she knows very much that you want sex every day. so put it into terms of something you enjoy, but not everyday. example, change sex to eating a burger. how do you think it would feel for her to suggest eating burgers every single night when you don't necessarily want burgers? and then how do you think it would feel to, even when you she doesn't suggest it, have it in the back of your mind that she really wants you and her to be eating burgers right now? and then think, if you're eating a starter (making out) and you know the next course if a burger, you might not want to even suggest eating a starter, right? it's a very reductionist way of looking at it, but the truth is, she doesn't want sex as much as you do, but in you making it clear that you want sex more than she wants it, that pressure builds up to the point where the only sense of control she has is in saying no. based on your other comments, it sounds like you also aren't exactly meeting her needs. in a reply you mentioned that when you've spoken about this before, she's given you xyz to work on, you work on it, and then when she doesn't give you sex, you start slacking on the xyz. well then she doesn't feel like she's getting her needs met does she? because she knows that there are strings attached to those needs. she wants to genuinely and completely feel like those needs are met, with no strings attached. the things that have worked for me (before i realised i was asexual) in this situation come in 2 steps: 1. take sex off the table completely for both of you. you're not allowed to have sex for the next 1-3 months. or longer. whatever timeframe you decide. and use the opportunity to reconnect with your partner and yourself without sex at the forefront. whenever i've done this in the past, this has ALWAYS brought back some feelings of sexual connection with my partner, and it took all of the pressure away from the idea of sex. 2. if your partner goes the entire period where you've taken sex off the table without problem and claims 'she didn't miss it', it's time for her to sit down and research into if she actually is asexual. i swore up and down for YEARS that i wasn't asexual, i just had a low libido. and it wasn't until i met my current partner, who helped me figure it out through their openness to a different kind of sexual relationship, that i figured it out. she may genuinely believe that she isn't, but that doesn't mean she isn't. if you get to step 2 then you need to have a whole separate conversation on if you can make the relationship work still.

TwoTrucksPayingTaxes: I really recommend couple's counseling. My wife and I went to a sex specific relationship lady and it was extremely helpful. Having a third party makes it easier to navigate all the roadblocks to good sex. If you want this marriage to stick around, you have to accept that it's a slow process. It won't be magically different over night, but it can change over time.

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I love you, no matter what anyone says or thinks of you, the overall lesbian community is for you <3

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Batastrophe: shame on the xenophobic downvoters

Sushi_Queen_95: I am. Hi y'all 👋

No-Presence-9971: I hope there are, they deserve to be in this space and feel loved in it

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Your gay awakenings pt.2 because i forgot to add some on mine

Audrey as a villan made younger me go crazy

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Have y’all seen this video? What are your thoughts?

I’m familiar with the person being interviewed, ER Fightmaster and loved watching them on grey’s anatomy, they’re also a great musician. But to me, this take is just all kinds of wrong. I don’t think womanhood for trans women and cis women can be compared in this way. They’re very different experiences, one is not “more beautiful” than the other. To me, this is just an invalidating opinion to all women.

BTW, this is not a space to be transphobic. Trans women are women, their experiences matter, that is not up for debate. Please be respectful!

Here are some replies:

LilacPerson: I agree with you. To say that trans women have a “more beautiful” understanding of womanhood because they don’t worry about things that cis woman worry about is stupid. I feel like it also disregards some very real issues that trans women may face that cis women will never understand. To try to compare these experiences is pointless. Dumb ass take.

AccomplishedRoom3887: I would have liked it if the video didn't cut off in order to get the full context of their comments. But I don't find this invalidating to either experience. Just that from ER's perspective, cis women have been placed in the role of "women" in a patriarchal system and how that means "(cis) womanhood" becomes a role and a status. It's important to note they're specifically talking about the trans bathroom debates here, and how the cis population is reacting based on fear of sexual violence and putting the blame of that on trans women. Cis womanhood is so often bogged down with the expectations, threats, and proximity to the patriarchy. And not that trans women escape all of that baggage, but that they often are embracing womanhood in a different way altogether. As a slight aside, I highly recommend the book Whipping Girl by Julia Serano. It really delves into transmisogyny and really made me think about how similar many trans women's experiences actually are to cis women's and anyone else who has experienced misogyny.

AshasSa1tWife: tbh trans women are only allowed to talk about the positive parts of womanhood. If a trans woman is the victim of a misogynistic crime or is SA'd or sexually harassed and wants sympathy for it the response from cis women is usually "welcome to being a woman!" or "you asked for this!"

Newt-snoot: Liked ER Fightmaster a lot in Grey's. But everytime I hear them in podcasts I find they have very wild takes, and for some things bordering on cruel in a way that isnt funny to me. I've hit a point I just skip their content now bc the algorithm flooded me with it and I just cant anymore. I think this take is kind of similar to others we end up adopting on the left where we take a minoritized group and inadvertantly romanticize their experience in a way, or assign uniquely superior wisdom that may just tokenize people. In particular, the non binary (in my experience as NB), has a bad habit of talking over trans folks. So this might be the opposite extreme of that, inclusion with assumed superior experience. Shrug.

Smilingfruitz: seems pretty clear to me they are saying what womanhood CAN be/OFTEN is for cis women and they're pretty right.

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Hookup had to be rescheduled but anyway here's the best picture of my outfit for today.

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how many lesbians here actually read yuri manga?

Some comments that stood out:

UniqueHeart8309: Yes 🙌

DMSinclair: All day everyday day

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Is it just me or has lesbophobia really have gone rampant these last few months? I saw a reel yesterday, of a girl complaining about how hard lesbian relationships are, and the comments are FULLLLLLLL of straight men spewing vile shit about women/lesbians. You know, that feck ass misinterpreted DV and divorce they love to parrot.

Like do they honestly believe that the gender who rapes and murders their wives at an alarming rate, is less abusive than lesbians?

They really really hate women. These men should go date other men.

Here are some replies:

Sixchambr: For some reason Instagram tends to breed some pretty toxic comment sections

MothashipQ: To answer your question, yes. We are absolutely talking about people who read a headline of a study and immediately add that to their superiority complex.

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do i look lesbian?

i know i do i just gotta ask lol

Some replies worth sharing:

Ash_Cat_13: Yes, or just really edgy

Different_Bee_8732: Yes you are beautiful

More-Swordfish-471: Y E S

FewAnimator6427: Yes a really pretty one

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this is an attendance check for the femmes who r also into femmes <333 🙋‍♀️🫦💅

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How to stop feeling like this w my gf no glue no borax

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I’ve seen 100 posts like this and I know there isn’t really an answer. I’m just going through it right now and needed and be sad somewhere where hopefully someone who gets it can be like “yep.”

I’m turning 40 next year and I don’t have any lesbian friends. I just came out this year and I actually don’t have any offline friends at all (which feels pathetic to say as someone as old as I am.) I’ve been trying to find community online, but people drop off super quickly out of nowhere every time. I’m not trying to make romantic connections, just friends. Nobody even seems interested in talking beyond basic platitudes.

I had a breakdown in the shower earlier thinking about how I’m about to have another big birthday where nobody is going to reach out to me to say “happy birthday” or even be aware that I exist. I can’t hold a traditional job because of medical conditions so I’m super isolated and basically don’t exist to anyone besides my family, most of whom I haven’t spoken to since 2016.

I emailed some queer groups in my area this week but haven’t heard back yet. I’m really trying. I’ll probably be fine in the morning but tonight is very “I don’t even want to try anymore.”

Some comments that stood out:

Harvestmoon66: Hi! 👋 I’m a queer ace person.31. Into anime,manga,reading and writing:)

That_girl_4321: I’m a lesbian. I’m happy to be your friend 😊

Quirkyquipsters: I'm also turning 40 next year and don't have any friends. Feel free to message me

GermanDeathReggae1: Yo! I feel ya. Real life connections are hard to hold down in an age everyone is so scattered and digital. Are you an Earper(re your username)? What region are you in?

OkAcanthocephala311: I'm in NY.

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I just returned from attending the 2026 Golden Crown Literary Society Awards (this year it was held in Orlando) and I wanted to share the link to the 2026 Goldie Awards List of lesbian/queer authors from in category. I admire how hard the Golden Crown Lit Society team works to pull off the multi-day conference. As an author, it was a great experience to network with other writers; plus for passionate readers of sapphic works, its a fun way to meet and chat with favorite authors.

You can also stay current on their awards and other programs through their socials. My book Pearl Bound was nominated as a finalist in two categories (Debut Novel and Paranormal/Occult/Horror) and it won in the Debut Category, which took me completely by surprise as the category was loaded with some really fantastic books. And finally, they are a non-profit and can always use some donations and financial support for those folks who have the wherewithal to help.

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today, i was making myself chocolate milk (i am 24 for the record lmao). then for the first time in a long time, i decided to stir it up myself rather than using the milk frother because i felt lazy. as i was doing that, i realized how it got mixed partially and some of the powder was on the surface.

suddenly, i remembered how a girl i dated before never stirred her chocolate milk fully because for some reason she liked the taste of the powder and thought it tasted better as it dissolved itself.

it's like... it's a very small thing that you'd never know unless you spend enough time with them so that they decide to show their little weird quirks.

it made me feel like... different? i felt lucky to have witnessed that, if that makes sense?

like we broke up bad. we had many issues. and i wouldn't wanna see her again, even as friends probably. that being said, we were each other's other half for a long time, and i was able to witness these.

so, i guess the takeaway is the title i put. i really feel privileged.

**the timing is terrible as i am trying to pull myself away from the dating scene and the idea fully, now i miss having someone. fml.*

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