Constellation Collective

Let's distract with a question. If you had all the time in the world to do what you want what would you do with it?

Singlets should be allowed to form opinions on things in the system community, the real thing they shouldn't do is speak over systems, regardless of opinion.

A lot of the people studying CDDs (and systems without) ARE singlets. So, why not allow singlets to look at what the community provides and go "oh, yeah this makes sense to me"

If youre a singlet in syscourse i urge you to please, take a look at information provided, and form your own opinion on it. That is okay, we encourage that!

I did feel guilty about how they left the server only because I wasn't online to be there for them when the last conversation happened. I felt I had failed them as a friend by not being there to defend them when they may have needed help even though that was not reasonable and we have worked through that in therapy. We never had a problem with them leaving or tried to get them to come back. We were fine with them leaving.

It also felt weird because we had no context for it. There was no discussion about it they just disappeared. Whenever we reached out to check in they didn't respond. There was no this is a mental health break or anything. We were not aware that is why they left until recently especially since they still responded to us positively in public. From what happened in the server it just seemed they got annoyed by being respectfully told not to be a bigot and that people didn't agree with their bigoted take(we didn't either for clarity we just were able to understand the not bigoted parts better than others in the conversation seemed to).

Then the diacourse stuff happened(like a year after they left the server for outside observers). We made one bad post while triggered that SAS called us on and we acknowledged the problems with the post and agreed with them to their face. Post was quickly revised to remove the offensive part after we realized it was made in a triggered state because the people intentionally triggering us in DMs were being held up as saints. We do not condone our own actions here and accept they are wrong and should never have happened. We work to try to not post when we are triggered like this and we have put even more precautions in place after this event to prevent it from happening in the future as it was unacceptable behavior.

The only other interaction we had with them was us calling them out for turning the diacourse thing into an anyone who acknowledges they are an alcoholic is using it as an excuse thing. We grew up around (sober) alcoholics. We are very in tune with how important acknowledgement of having a SUD is to recovery and accountability for ones actions while under the influence and found the way the simple idea of that was being attacked to be not only very damaging for many people who struggle with said disorders but also very triggering with how close to home it was. Again a conversation that ended on a good note so I thought things were fine at that point.

Next thing I know SAS is screaming "Dia stole my friends" left right and center and isn't listening to anyone who isn't bowing down to say they are 100% right about their opinion on everything. Similar to what Clover had just done while repeatedly breaking my boundaries which I had briefly discussed with SAS publicly so they knew what was going on, and this was obviously very triggering for me.

I recently made a comment mocking the idea that anyone stole SAS' friends from they as they claimed. Because obviously thats stupid and if someone was to blame it the person having fingers pointed at it wouldn't be at the top of the list by a long shot. First candidate obviously SAS shooting themselves in the own foot and running off his own friends. Pushing them to the side when they respectfully encouraged them not to do an ableism. They have eaten the forbidden fruit of uncensored posting and destroyed any chance of friendship with the people they thought of as friends in the process.

I am not angry at SAS just disappointed in their behavior. I hope they get the healing they need and are able to resolve their issues with others and take accountability for their actions in the future. Just as I wish for every other syscourser that has gone down a similar path. I am more startled and confused in their public treatment of me now dispite us always having a positive relationship in the past and how much their public behavior has gotten worse.

I love you alters who are trans in headspace but functionally cis due to the body and find that uncomfortable

I love you alters who are so different from the body in headspace that you can't front comfortably

I love you alters with "weird" dysphoria over things most people wouldn't think of

I love you trans hosts who still don't like the body even if it is "yours"

I love you alters with different athletic abilities who feel dysphoric about the body's mobility

I love you alters who don't care about the body and see it as a vessel

Once again, I explained to my boss, mentors and peers at work about my history with DID and how I now operate with very detailed and defined facets each with names and everything

And now my CEO (small company) is in semi-public team meetings going "Yeah we need XIV" and shit

Apparently he thought it was the coolest shit he heard in a while and raved about it to my direct mentor

Literally 30-50 year old Christian professionals and business owners know what Im talking about when I say "Oh I'm in XIV brain lol" or "Yeah XIV wrote that" and genuinely respect it, get it, and are genuinely super normal about it.

Like, Ive seen people in the DID community and plural community be weirder about it.

Also, just a reminder that anti-lies is SophieinWonderland