Hostile

i hope these are good. it's not really something im familiar with

- act like you didn’t say anything wrong and gaslight them

- loudly and dramatically self-flagellate and threaten to kill yourself until the trans person reassures you that you don’t have to treat them with respect to be a good person

- roll your eyes and joke with the other cis people “ugh I’m so bad at this! Lol.” bond with everyone over relatable humor about how new and confusing this trans stuff is

- immediately accuse the trans person of something so they have to defend themselves and the misgendering appears like the “lesser” aggression or maybe retroactively justified to others

- talk about how hard you’re trying to humor accommodate them, rationalize why your circumstances are unique, and make a show of pleading with the trans person for mercy, as if they are a judge and the room is a jury and correcting you is equivalent to leveling a cruel punishment

- simply correct yourself and move on like you would do if they were cis

every alternate week, her best friend would come to our house with a tupperware full of chicken spaghetti. they'd stick us in front of a tv with a stack of disney vhs tapes and go through each room, finding every dirty dish, and then spend the afternoon at the kitchen sink, washing each dish by hand while gossiping.

“If I have one message to give to the secular American people, it’s that the world is not divided into countries. The world is not divided between East and West. You are American, I am Iranian, we don’t know each other, but we talk together and we understand each other perfectly. The difference between you and your government is much bigger than the difference between you and me. And the difference between me and my government is much bigger than the difference between me and you. And our governments are very much the same.”

tapeworm

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