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i really do think the boxes of Good People and Bad People are rotted through and through. thats not how that works, at all. calling yourself an Objectively Good Person separates yourself from any negative or harmful action you could ever take- after all, you would never! youre a good person!

on the other side, the box of Bad Person removes the chance for ACCOUNTABILITY, which is. the fucking Point. it designates a person or an entire group of people as subhuman, incapable of change, and once again takes the importance away from ACTIONS and DECISIONS.

as an example, you cannot Kill All Racists because you are racist. you Just Are. you, yes you, do racist things all the fuckin time by complete accident. and i would say you are deserving of the chance to take accountability and make better decisions. Good Person, Bad Person, thats fake. its bullshit. it tells me nothing about Your Actions and Decisions.

if someone continues to make racist decisions, you dont stick them into the box of Bad Person and call it a day. theyre not a sim. they dont have the character trait of Racist. they have FREE WILL. this free will CAN BE USED TO MAKE BETTER DECISIONS. its not my job as a person of color to make sure it happens, thats the whiteys job, but it CAN HAPPEN REGARDLESS. and then what? did that person become good? where is the line? who gets to define that? Good Person and Bad Person is not a useful or productive framework to define complex human beings who make thousands of decisions a day!

“Freedom always has a price.”

This is Linda, 60

Alexis, 64

Helena, 63

Kendrah, 72 (!!)

Tasha, 65

Jousting at the festival to impress your lady love!!!

Plenty of transphobic cis folks are green. Virtually every trans-positivity account is red except for the ones who are unapologetically transphobic to at least part of the community. Countless trans women who vocally uses the term transandrophobia are marked red. Several trans women who dont even use the term but have at least on one occasion defended or sympathized with trans men are red. Several trans women who are bigender/NB/Etc with inclusion of any "male" or masc terms are red regardless of whether they seem to have anything to say about trans men.

It is BLEAK. I've been trying to remove reds and greens as I assess, but it is really really gross that it was a pretty well-known soft rule a decade plus ago that you didn't mark trans people red at all even if they were shitheads, unless they were actual proud terfs, because the flagging was guaranteed to isolate them from community.

Inability to assess risk and a total aversion to narratives that contradict what you assume to be the case for others is getting people into a lot of trouble.

Like this. And it’s beautiful. It’s beautiful to hear a soliloquy I loved so much already, and have it come to life in a way it never, ever, did before. I feel like I grasp his motivations, his twists and turns, no longer on an academic level but on a visceral, instinctive one. Because he’s presenting his mental and emotional journey in a way that speaks honestly, like a real person.

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have

you can have nothing and retain sexual function, even! it's called nerve-preserving nullification. similarly to other bottom surgeries, they use the most sensitive tissue (glans/clit) to create a subdermal pseudoclitoris

yes you can pee like normal. urethral reroute leaves a small hole at the perineum (taint)

all the advice about scars from OP applies here too!! take care of yourself well and it can heal well