no lesson learned

• Your abuser will never be able to take responsibility for anything they do i.e., YOU are the reason they are acting or speaking a certain way

• You will constantly find yourself apologizing even when every fiber of your being is telling you “I’ve done nothing wrong”

• In the rare circumstance they do you a favor, your abuser will continously make a point that you better “appreciate” what they’re doing for you. If it’s a big one, in the end, they’ll use it as a manipulation tactic.

“Do we have any frosting?”

“Can you do that again?”

“I just want to stay in bed all day. With you.”

“Have you met the new neighbors?”

“Did you send me those flowers?”

“I brought you something…”

“We could have a little fashion show.”

“Popcorn. Do we have popcorn?”

“Something came up and I have to go. Can I take a rain check?”

“Take a guess what’s in my hand.”

“I made dinner!”

“You look so cute in that.”

“I just want to run my fingers through your hair.”

“Can I get you something else? Tea? Medicine? Another blanket?”

“Just lay down and let me take care of everything.”

“I know what you need. Cartoons.”

“You look ridiculous. And adorable.”

“I was thinking of having a party.”

“You are looking tasteful but sexy.”

“You didn’t have to do that…”

“This tie is okay, right?”