a lot of tme trans people use “wanting to be feminine like a trans woman” as a shorthand for the experience of wanting your gender identity to be recognized visually as un-cis/expansive/nonnormative without having to significantly adopt masculinity or seek medical transition which is like. obviously deeply insensitive to tma trans people because you’re essentially yearning for a type of gendered oppression you don’t experience and many people on here have talked about that at length. but what I want to add to the conversation is to challenge the idea that your gender needs to be easily legible to cis people to be legitimate. because your people will know who you are.
like most cis people read me as also being cis but my trans friends all recognize me immediately and innately for what I am. you need to find your people your people will know who you are!!! why do you give a shit what the Blue Job Pink Job people think about your identity!!!!
desiring violence as a readout for legitimacy is just not healthy or sustainable and I am imploring everyone to trust and love themselves and their community more than that
