on the dancing places they are dancing shining

imo if you want to have your noble character be cool with their servants or a 'good boss' my advice would just be that you can't. it's just inherently an uncomfortable situation & class dynamic & you have to reckon with that

#or not. you can just ignore it also. but that's a sort of a comment on your values in itself isn't it (via @fluentisonus)

there are a lot of female characters where you can say that lesbian sex would fix them but it's kind of even more fun when it wouldn't. like clearly she wants to be having it but it would make everything worse and ruin her life. and i would like to see it.

if as a transmasc you want to be tall, then say you want to be tall. if you want to be feminine then be feminine. if you want to be thin say you want to be thin. if you want to be alt then be alt. if you want to have a penis say you want to have a penis. just say which physical traits you want to have (preferably on your own post) and stop saying you want to “have the gender” of whichever trans woman’s selfies you’re commenting on. her gender is female and you would explode if you had to deal with even a fraction of the things she’s dealing with

i’m sure i’ve said it before but i really think that when transmascs say they “want the gender” of whichever woman they’re looking at what they really mean is that they want to be a feminine person with a penis, which is both achievable and should be achieved, but projecting this desire onto trans women is pretty disgusting actually, considering those aren’t what qualifies her gender, she might not even enjoy having whichever traits you’re pining after, and you will not have and do not want her gender anyway

man sometimes friendship really is just "I saw this and knew it would give you psychic damage. please respond with agony" and then they do. and it's great

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sometimes i talk about how awful it was to feel trapped by my daily makeup routine and how i couldn’t leave the house without putting on a full face and it played a major role in the misery of my high school experience because i had to spend so much extra time getting ready in the mornings and that followed me into my early 20s as well and it was hell and it was so incredibly liberating to go through the slow and uncomfortable but ultimately essential process of getting my bare face back and having makeup be an optional accessory instead of a mandatory uniform. and the response always tends to be ah yes of course, because of your trans and your masculine. and it’s like aha so close! actually! I think if I ended up being a feminine cis woman I also still would not deserve even a second of that shit! I think trans women and nonbinary people and every human alive should have the option to leave the house without a single cosmetic product ever touching their face! but thanks for playing!

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