A-Lad-Insane

bunlith and her vices ☕🌿

The first time I dated a bear he had such a difficult time believing I could be attracted to him because he was fat and hairy and attractive people are not usually represented as fat and hairy. When we would talk about characters that we enjoyed in the various media we consumed together, no matter who I picked it would be a person that didn’t look like him. Either because people who looked like him were flat out not present within the story, or because those that did were always disgusting, mean-spirited, unlikeable, etc.

I love how people reblogged this with tags saying nice things about bears because all of the bears I’ve spoken to or dated have told me repeatedly that despite the assumed obsession with bears in the community... when it comes to actual romance and intimacy, many of them have given up finding anything even remotely close to long-term because no one seems to be willing to actually pursue them like that.

back to the drawing board (studying mml expressions)