Darker Side Of Me

50 Reasons Why I Wear a Chastity Device

To stop masturbating and stay pure for my wife when she will be ready to make love.

To surrender control of my penis to my wife and to reassure her I do not cheat (including by playing with myself) when away for work.

To heighten awareness of denied sexual relief and pleasure.

To stop me masturbating and to be very attentive to my wife. I always came too quickly and now I satisfy my wife most days by giving her an orgasm or two, she loves it.

To stop masturbating excessively. Also, it makes me feel very horny all the time, as you are always aware of your penis.

Despite being unable to get an erection I’m incredibly turned on by the sight, feel and physical act of being locked in!

To satisfy my wife sexually and to remain in a continuous state of arousal for her and serve her every wish. I love the teasing that wearing a chastity device brings especially after the first few days of not being released and having to satisfy my wife sexually through other ways other than penetration.

To please my wife and be a better husband. My attention and time were going everywhere but to who and what was important. Now as my wife says’“ my mind is in the right place.”

To increase sexual tension, to avoid masturbation, saving all my sexual energy for my beloved key holder.

I believe a male should be kept chaste and denied until such time as the Domme sees fit to allow release.

To experience extreme frustration and as a sign of my devotion to me wife.

To be easier to control and learn to be a nicer boyfriend. Also to feel controlled.

The thrill of chastity / being the slave of a woman.

Stop masturbating, being fully given over to my wife and give my attention and energy to her.

Stimulating and I am aware of my manhood and the inability to get aroused.

Spice up sex life, demonstrate love for wife.

Some fantasy and some physical self control.

To give over my need for pleasure to my partner so that she gets all the attention she deserves.

So I can serve my mistress and pay her all my attention. It is also incredibly erotic being continuously turned on and semi erect without even trying.

Serving my wife better and wasting no energy for my pleasure.

Refocus my sexual behavior exclusively toward intercourse with my wife (and not masturbation), and to increase my thinking about having sex relative to thoughts about work and other responsibilities which tend to diminish my sex drive.

Prevent masturbation and increase attentiveness through sexual frustration.

My wife likes the control of our sexual relationship.

Longer term bondage. Keyholder focus is very intense, incredible sense of belonging and being under someone’s control for indefinite period. Brilliant for maintaining relationship. A couple of weeks ‘out of service’ and it’s great when released.

Like the idea of being forced to please someone while I’m teased and get no relief. Let the build up last and last until release.

Keyholder feels the longer I wear it the more sexual and erotic I am in serving her.

It makes our sex greater, and she knows that I am not fucking around anyone.

It makes me really conscious of how much and how often I enjoy sex, plus solves my problem of needing permission to attempt initiating sexual activities.

It makes every night erotic even when my wife isn’t in the mood for sex.

It is my Mistress/Wife’s wishes. It’s Her property

It helps to keep my masturbation and pornography habits in check.

It excites me. I like the humiliation I feel and the control it gives my wife.

Incredible horny and submissive feeling, plays with my mind.

Increased sexual excitement. A form of bondage.

I love to experimenting with new ways to enhance our relationship.

I love my spouse and want to devote my life to being the best, most loyal mate I can be.

I am more caring and devoted to my partner while wearing the device.

Heighten prolonged sexual pleasure, when I do get release it is more intense. Not knowing if I will get to cum adds to the excitement.

Fun. Frustration and I like her to “take control”.

Fulfillment of a personal fantasy. I enjoy the sensation of handing total control over my sexual needs to my wife and to be denied until it suits her.

For the excruciating pleasure of not being in control; to be able to concentrate on pleasuring my keyholder.

Focusing on Her. Controlling my masturbating habits. Greater orgasms, when eventually getting one.

Experience more powerful sex and to be more loving to my Keyholder

Because my wife wants me for her sexual gratification. The main and only reason I am wearing one (I would never have agreed to it) is that I woke up one morning almost seven months ago and found it on me. The main reason I am wearing it from her prospective is that she noticed that when there were occasions when we didn’t have sex I was a better lover and the longer the time the better. Therefore, she felt if I wore one permanently by attention to her would get better and better the longer the time goes on. She was definitely right on this matter, unfortunately for me because I don’t know if she will ever take it off.

Because it turns us both on. She loves being in control and I love it that she is.

Because I’m told to and can’t be trusted.

Attitude adjustment, encourage my submission, encourage the growth of her dominance.

Adding new sides to our relationship, get closer to my wife, the feeling of not being in my own control.

A concrete expression of my total devotion to the source of joy in my life, My Goddess/Wife.

Then when you’re already at your edge I’m going to wrap my legs around you and press my body up against yours, giving you marks down your neck and torso with my tongue and teeth. You’re mine to use and consume. I own every part of your body.

If I back off you immediately starting whining with desperation. You want more. You didn’t want it to stop, you never want it to stop. I love how needy you are. So needy for a toy. You have to promise me that you won’t come unless I say you can. That you’re nothing more than my dildo, here to make me come over and over.

You promise and I sit my pussy down onto your aching, still vibrating cock. I’m not going to fuck you. I just want your cock inside me while I get my clit up against that vibrator around the base of you. I want you inside while my pussy contracts in waves of pleasure around your cock until I’ve come as many times as it takes to satisfy me.

I've had a lot of questions about a previous blog post - Low Key(holding). It seems many couples out there are working to figure out the best, most practical way of working male orgasm control into their relationships.

Most of the questions related to the 'Default Locked' system, where the male is locked unless there is a clear exception in the form of agreed instances where he can be unlocked. As mentioned in that post, this is the easiest, most practical system for the female as there is very limited involvement in the practicalities of the lockup. Her effort is limited towards granting permission (or not) should the male ask to be unlocked for a particular occasion or reason.

As time has gone on, this Default system is the one that my husband and I employ. While I haven't gone so far as to list a set of rules and regulations, this is typically how I go about things:

LOCKING

He is expected to be locked, unless I am explicitly aware of it.

There is no 'time frame' or schedule.

Unlocking does not mean 'orgasm'.

COMMUNICATION

He is not allowed to talk about it, unless I ask him or in case of emergency.

He can message me in advance should he wish to request an unlock.

PERMISSIONS

YES: This is quite fluid, but the main reason why I would grant permission to unlock is if there is a doctor's visit, TSA security at airports or something similar. The expectation is that he will unlock just prior to this, and relock immediately after.

SOMETIMES: Showering and maintenance once every few weeks will permit an unlock as I like him to be completely shaved. If he is unlocking for a shower, I do insist that he wears a tight speedo at all times. This minimizes / prevents erections and touching. Sometimes he requests to unlock for a shower and I will say 'no'. He can use a brush / get creative.

NO: He has in the past asked to be unlocked for exercise, swim training / cycling. initially I used to agree to this, but as the device has become more comfortable and a perfect fit over time, I don't see this as necessary. I love it when he wears running tights or his swim speedo in public - his cage is very discreet, but he gets all shy and bashful which I find adorable.

If I feel like having sex with him, I unlock him. Afterwards, there is an immediate relock.

Once these types of permissions have been established, there is very little work to do. After all, how often does he have a doctor visit, for example ? He knows the answer to most of them, and it's a short message checking in when he wants to request an unlock.