GANGSTA RAP MADE ME DO IT

He immediately turn to look at me & stared. I was kinda weirded out- but in way also kinda drawn to this moid. Idk - it’s like he was a male version of myself- he approached me & we seem to connect.

I’m bi but more attracted to women- so idk what to make of this- is that a “twin flame”?

Sorry for my schizo rambling

With a twin flame, there will almost always be an instant connection and recognition, as if you've already met that person before, perhaps in a past life. You will, indeed, share a lot of similarities with your twin flame, but the key trait of this connection is that there will always be a number of irreconcilable differences between you two, making the relationship unstable and unfeasible long-term. It is precisely those differences and the conflict that arises from them that are supposed to make you learn from that connection, and a twin flame will always find their way back into your life until those lessons are learned.

I think that watching videos of other people rubbing their genitals is an unintelligent and uninspired activity regardless. Besides, I cannot imagine wasting my energy on someone I am not with because it would take away from the experience.

I don't believe that people with mental issues should be discouraged from getting into a relationship per se, primarily because I understand that relationships happen for a reason and that a relationship like that would be a valuable learning experience for both parties, albeit a difficult one. I believe that people get drawn to things for a reason and that suppression rarely leads to anything productive.

It depends on the context and what you mean by "thinking badly". If you are talking about situations where, for example, a person is constantly being late and clearly does not respect your time, then you being internally critical of that behavior is just you exercising your boundaries and expressing your discomfort. It is a reasonable response that can never be classified as evil, and neither is it evil energetically.

The reason I bring up it depending on the context is because it is not always safe to call out those in a position of authority, and I wouldn't necessarily recommend calling out a boss, parental figure or teacher without knowing all the details, even if someone's resentment is eating them from the inside. If you are talking about disliking a peer or acquaintance of a similar social status, then it isn't morally wrong to call them out on their behavior or tell them what you think about them as long as it is not intentionally cruel; moreover, it could be the interaction your soul subconsciously wants to go through for its own development. I actually prefer to keep things to myself, but that is because I tend to process things internally and don't feel the need to externalize everything. When I sense that I don't get along with someone, I quietly disengage from the situation and process my emotions in private.

Most people being dysfunctional and self-destructive is probably one of the most important realizations you can come to in life. The world will try to tell you that it is just your egotism and desire for attention compelling you to believe this, but you need to persevere because your survival and success will entirely depend on your ability to perceive people for what they are.

I understand precisely what you mean when you say that you prefer to focus on people's individual qualities and not their gender. Like many radical feminists, I initially committed to prioritizing music, books and visual media created by women because I was quite put off by men's misogyny at the time and wanted to support works made by female creators. Ironically, it would later turn out to be one of the very things that made me disillusioned with women because, after encountering countless stories and music tracks that were permeated by women's deranged fetishes and unbridled dedication to maintaining the status quo, I could no longer deny the extent of female degeneracy. Nowadays, I simply engage with the media that I enjoy without overthinking the implications because there truly is no ethical gender.

I know a boy in my friend group who honestly stated that he wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a girl who has a history of sleeping around, he didn't say anything judgemental about those who do, simply didn't align with his own sexual boundaries & the kind of views on intimacy he wishes to find in a partner (he is choosing to not have sex until he's in an established relationship - ideally married- he is an atheist and is a virgin by choice, I know it's by choice because I happen to know he's had sexual offers before). The thing is: he got absolutely burned alive by most of the girls in my circle for slut shaming and caring about "body count" because according to them a man who cares about it is a misogynist. I don't mean to come to your blog and cry about poor men but it is not the first time I hear this sort of thing coming from some women, would I be wrong to assume it's some shade of female hypocrisy on the dating scene? Or maybe you think they had a point?

Women absolutely are just as hypocritical when it comes to dating as men and, dare I say, just as sexually coercive. You don't need to respect men as people to understand that women trying to impose on other people's sexual boundaries signals an overall lack of character that would eventually impact said women's relationship with other women in a negative way. Thinking that most women are capable of proper compartmentalization, as in "I only hurt men and not women", is the biggest mistake one can make.

The first thing I'm noticing is that the phrasing of your last sentence is fairly specific, "I don't feel as good about my values". I understand that it could just be a figure of speech, but to me it comes off as you being more preoccupied with the morality of your outlook and not how said outlook makes you feel, which could be preventing you from understanding your boundaries better in itself. It isn't morally wrong to want to consider every possible perspective (even if you believe that some of those perspectives are overzealous) or have a cautious approach towards sex because it is an inherently hazardous activity with plenty of pitfalls.

In my opinion, sex really is that serious, especially for women, given that it has the capacity to result in a pregnancy or STD and those are not exactly the states you want to be flippant and irresponsible about. Even if we disregard religious conditioning and the bonding element of sex, it seems quite strange to suggest that sex is just a fun and frivolous activity that doesn't require a thorough examination precisely because of its medical implications. I grew up in a secular environment and still ended up developing an attitude that is closer to the one you describe in the first part of your message, so you are right for pointing out that religious upbringing is not the common denominator here.

Regarding your fear of missing out on things, I, frankly, think that it is quite unfounded because there is no shortage of sexual opportunities for women regardless of age group and sexual orientation; I suspect that your friends expect themselves to marry and become mothers in the future and want to make sure that they properly indulge in promiscuity before this sort of lifestyle becomes difficult to access for them, which is why I, personally, wouldn't take their hastiness to heart. I'll be entering my late twenties soon and I absolutely do not regret my decision to not sleep around in my youth, primarily because I didn't quite understand what my boundaries were at the time; I'm glad it was the kind of decision I made, if anything.

This is an interesting question. Intelligence, or lack thereof, is most definitely karmic because it, just like financial status, determines a person's capacity to freely navigate this world. If we define intelligence as one's ability to store, analyze and cross-reference large quantities of information, then it wouldn't be a stretch to claim that people with lower levels of intelligence have it harder by default because they are a lot less effective at navigating their lives.