Greetings, my love â So, youâve connected with the term âdelicate soul,â have you, now? Perhaps you are reflective and sensitive; someone who keeps to themselves or who feels naturally empathetic. These are wonderful traits to have, but even so; first and foremost, I feel it necessary to offer this gentle reminder: Being quiet, shy, introverted, or deeply-feeling does not equate to emotional weakness. In a world so big, itâs really easy to feel this way. But you are never any âlessâ than someone who embodies opposite traits. And so, here is a guide for those who may feel just a little out of place; a little âtooâ dreamy or emotional â Or so weâve been told. In actuality, we are simply observant. Moved and understanding. Feeling and sympathetic. Use these ideas as you will. âĄ
⢠When it comes to character, rememberâŚ
- Itâs okay to feel hurt by the words of someone else, even if their remark wasnât intentended to do such. But it is equally okay for you to express your discomfort, sharing with them how you feel about it.
- You have every right to stick close to the things you love, even if someone else thinks those things are âweirdâ or âsilly.â Let your heart be warmed by anything it is naturally drawn towards. Itâs a strong demonstration of character to show the world that youâre comfortable with the things that make you uniquely happy.
- To offer help when you are able. Recognize when someone needs it, and recognize when you can personally do something to help â Even if it is just offering solidarity or kind words.
- âŚLikewise, remember that you do not owe anybody anything. For as much as someone might become enraged + see you as rude for not doing something you strongly do not want to do, you can always deny with grace. It will be a much larger, more positive demonstrator of your own character than of theirs.
- To own up to the things that put you at fault. I know itâs scary and perhaps embarrassing, but acknowledging when you were in the wrong is nothing but strengthening, admirable, and mature.
⢠In social situations, rememberâŚ
- To always find your breath. Take the time that is necessary to excuse yourself and collect your thoughts. Remember that you know yourself the best of all, and if something doesnât sit with you right, trust that feeling.
- To work on putting a stop to apologizing for feeling nervous: You are a human being, and thatâs just how we get â Nobody likes to experience intense nerves, but there is also nothing wrong with such reactions. You truly have nothing to be sorry for: I promise.
- To make it a goal to find a healthy social anxiety coping mechanism; like purchasing one of those cute squeeze-toy stress-relievers, singing a comforting song + counting silently to yourself, or developing a personal deep-breathing pattern⌠Things that you can do when around othersâ and which privately satisfy the urge to release your own tension!
- Remember that other people have social anxieties, too â Sometimes, those who donât seem like they do may be struggling the most. If anything, there is comfort in recognizing that you are not alone.
- If you donât feel like you can handle a social gathering, never stay longer than you have to. Be proud for attending as long as you have, and thank everyone for their time. You are okay. Nobody will judge you as much as you may feel like they will if you simply head out early.
⢠Regarding your heart, rememberâŚ
- That there is just as much necessity in taking the time to give yourself an âenergy breakâ as there is in taking a nap if youâre sleepy. This goes for empaths, especially: Feeling drained from being around so many different things and/or people can take its toll, so be sure to maintain a mentally âsofteningâ routine to retreat towards when your soul and spirit need to do so.
- To try and be more open to new artistic endeavors, and to saying âyesâ more often (at your availability and comfort level, of course.) Youâll never know if you enjoy something unless you give it a try, and even if you do not end up liking that very something, now you know for sure! Take opportunities to water your creativity and let it bloom.
- That you know yourself the best of all. Better than anybody else. Follow your own path, for you.
- To take breaks. From chores, work, even the things you love. We *need* to pause between tasks to perform better, and burning out is all too easy sometimes. Likewise, try and be proud for the littlest tasks you have completed.
⢠And when it comes to social mediaâŚ
- Try and spend less time on it in general. I know, itâs the most accessible thing in the world; a beautifully dangerous distractor â But *too* much time spent staring at the screen can take away so greatly from the momentum we can be putting towards more artistic endeavors. Try painting, writing, listening to an album all the way through, stepping outside to breathe fresh air, meditating, cleaning your space, visiting a museum, reading⌠More things to help water your soul.
- Also try to avoid things which make you feel panicky or pained to come across. Unfollow the accounts on platforms whose posts produce feelings of inadequacy or jealousy. Take a break from watching YouTubers whose lifestyles you may long for. Remember that it is all quite illusionary, and try your very best to center yourself⌠Right here, right now. đđť
