love

I say no to things I don’t like.

I say no to things that don’t contribute to my growth.

I say no to things that rob me of valuable time.

I spend time around healthy people.

I reduce my interactions with people who drain my energy.

I protect my energy against people who threaten my sanity.

I practice positive self-talk.

I allow myself to feel and not judge my feelings.

I forgive myself when I make a mistake.

I actively cultivate the best version of myself.

I turn off my phone when appropriate.

I sleep when I’m tired.

I mind my business.

I make tough decisions because they’re healthy for me.

I create space for activities that bring me joy.

I say yes to activities that interest me despite my anxiety about trying them.

I experience things alone instead of waiting for the “right” people to join me.

When people raise their voice at me, I tell them it’s not okay.

I address issues when they arise instead of allowing them to fester.

When a boundary is violated, I clearly define my expectations for communication in the beginning and throughout my relationships. Example: “I’d prefer if we talked about serious matters in person instead of over text.”

When I notice that someone is trying to manipulate me by intentionally trying to guilt me or pushing my boundaries, I recognize it as manipulation and uphold my boundaries.

When someone says something about me that isn’t true, I immediately correct them. Example: They might say, “You’re always late.” You might respond: “I was late today. However, there are other times, such as ____, when I’ve been on time.” Don’t argue; just state what you know to be true.

I speak to myself as gently as I would talk to a small child.

I coach myself through awkward moments.

I allow myself to make mistakes without judging myself harshly.

I don’t call myself names.

I don’t make mean comments about myself either in my mind or out loud in front of others.

I don’t hit people or any property when I’m upset.

If I feel the need to cry, I allow myself to do so.

When I get agitated, I remove myself from the situation and practice my breathing until I feel calm.

I create an idea of the type of people I want in my life.

When I notice issues in my relationships, I honor myself by speaking up.