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♡ That relief after a good cry. You’ve been holding it in, and you finally let it out. Your f/o will rub your back, hold you, or give you space. Whatever you need. They’re not embarrassed or ashamed of your tears. If you’re comfortable with it, they’ll wipe them off, or kiss them away.

♡ Enjoying your favorite season. It doesn’t matter what it is. Spring because of all the flowers and rain. Summer for all the beach activities and sunshine. Autumn for the beautiful colors and perfect all-day weather. Winter for the pure snow and chill that’s amazing for curling up in a blanket. Even if it’s not a season your f/o likes, they love that they get to spend that season with YOU.

♡ Coming home to loved ones after a long day. Your family who cares for you? Your dog wagging her tail in delight? Your cat wondering why you haven’t fed him the second you walked in? Your lizard climbing their tank because they knows it’s feeding time? Any reason you look forward to coming home and spending time with a loved one, your f/o wants you to soak that time in.

♡ The warmth of your favorite spot. Your bed? Wrapped in blankets on the couch? Your desk chair made just-so? Your f/o will set it all up for you exactly to your liking, so they can watch you relax and enjoy whatever activities you like.

♡ Hand holding. Need I say more? Hold your f/o’s hand (tentacle, hoof, anything) right now. Close your eyes and really feel it. Feel them squeeze your hand tight. Feel them bring your hand to their lips and kiss your knuckles.

♡ Skin-to-skin contact. Just like before, really feel it. Imagine slipping your hands underneath your f/o’s clothes if they wear them, and touching their skin or fur. Feel that warmth (or that cold). Get lost in it.

♡ Flowers. If you don’t have allergies (or you do and you’ll gladly down a bunch of meds), your f/o would adore taking you out to see flowers. On a trail somewhere wildflowers bloom. At a flower shop or greenhouse where people tend to them so well and their blooms are huge. At your local grocery store where they keep bouquets. Go look at some flowers. Smell them if you can. Let your f/o buy some for you so you can keep it on your desk or your kitchen table or anywhere you can look at and care for them.

♡ Don’t like flowers? Do this with any kind of plant. Feel the leaves or vines on your skin. When you reconnect with nature and feel that deep peace within you, your f/o is utterly melting and crying in the background.

♡ “This made me think of you”. Was it a gift from your f/o? A meme from a friend? Someone thought of you, and the way that makes you feel, how it lights up your day even if just for that moment, means the world to your f/o.

♡ Do you like camping or s’mores? Have a bonfire if you’re able. Sit outside on the perfect, crisp night and enjoy a firepit and some marshmallows on a stick. Or make s’mores in the microwave, and sit with a fake fire on your screen. If it’s something you enjoy but can’t have right now, simulate it. Your f/o will set everything up for you (and give you lots of kisses while they do).

♡ Fireflies. Like them up close? Go catch some with your f/o. Prefer them from afar? Your f/o will set up a chair by the window so you can watch the fireflies for a little while. Enjoy the sounds of crickets and frogs and nature. Your f/o will be there with you.

♡ Live so you can dream. Maybe you struggle to dream. Maybe you have chronic nightmares. But when you have a good dream and it sticks with you and makes you smile? Your f/o loves that. Share your dreams with them! Make a notepad or journal or write on your phone/pc and detail your dreams to your f/o.

♡ Petrichor. That smell of rain. Earthy, cleansing. Maybe either you or your f/o can’t smell it. Imagine teasing each other for it. “You can’t smell RAIN? It’s RIGHT THERE!” 

♡ Even if you can’t smell it, you can enjoy the sound of it. It’s not raining right now? There are videos of rain sounds all over YouTube. Find your favorite, have your f/o close your curtains, and imagine the fresh rain pouring down. Your f/o would love to hold you through it. Cozy, warm, and beautiful.

♡ So you can make new friends. You’re in the yume community? There are so many people who want to be your friend here. It’s scary to put yourself out there. Connect with someone who seems kind. Ask them about their f/o and start a conversation. Your f/o will be so proud that you were brave.

♡ Have siblings you adore? Your f/o wants you to connect with them. Are they older and out of the house? Text/call them and ask how life is going. Text/call them and tell them you need someone. Are they younger? Watching them grow up, being their mentor and guide when they need you, is a wonderful feeling. Your f/o will be so happy to see you laughing, teaching, learning from, and holding your siblings.

♡ Saying “I love you” to those you love. Your siblings. Your parents. Your grandparents. Your friends. Your f/o. Your irl partner. Tell them you love them. Someone came to mind? Stop reading this right now and send them a text or call them. When you show your love, when you have so much love to give—your f/o is getting weepy-eyed just thinking about it.

♡ That feeling when your heart flips or your stomach is full of butterflies from seeing your f/o. They’re so flustered by that. If they smirk at you, or if they shy away, they get flustered that seeing them or hearing their voice gives you butterflies.

♡ Fulfilling your dreams. Just passing school or college? Looking for a big promotion? Trying to find a job that isn’t soul-crushing? You’re doing it. You’re pushing through even when it feels like you’re barely crawling. And your f/o is so proud of you, beyond words.

♡ When you go to kiss your f/o and you accidentally miss. That silly awkward moment you caught their nose, their facial hair, their fur and whiskers, their gills, their dials. Maybe you missed completely and caught their chin. Don’t be embarrassed! It was sweet and cute. They’ll happily cup your face and gently lead you in for a proper kiss. Lips on lips. Your cheek. Your nose. Your forehead. Your hair. All of the above.

♡ Feeling like a kid again. Even if you are a kid still, maybe you’ve been bogged down by school, chores, or poor circumstances. Jump on a trampoline. Stomp in puddles. Draw with chalk on the sidewalk or driveway. Pretend you can only step on certain tile colors at the store or in school or in your office building. Blow bubbles. Play hide n’ seek with friends, family, or even your dog or cat or other pet where it’s safe for them to play. Reconnect with that silly joy and forget whether you’re “too old” or “too mature” for it. Your f/o will laugh with you over your silly antics.

♡ So you can learn something new. A new language. Learn about a new culture. About animals or biology or medicine or anything that piques your interest. Infodump about it to your f/o. You can talk to a picture of them, or you can write it all down in a word document, a blog post, a journal. Your f/o would love to read all that you’ve learned, no matter how niche it is or how silly it seems to you.

♡ Spontaneous adventures. A road trip. A walk on a nature trail. You never know what you’ll find. Take your f/o on an adventure with you! Take a plushie of them, a picture of them on your phone, or even just keep them at the forefront of your mind. Take them anywhere. If it’s somewhere you want to go, they’re so happy to tag along. Just be safe. Let others you trust know where you're going. Give them a timeframe for when you'll be back.

♡ So you can help others. Make a list like this for people in your community. Volunteer at a homeless shelter. Volunteer at an animal shelter. Help someone who can’t reach something off the top shelf. Offer to call someone an Uber or help them get in touch with their family if their battery died. Give out compliments freely. You like someone’s dress or shoes? “Excuse me. I just wanted to let you know that your nails are so pretty”. You will make their day, I promise you. And your f/o will be so full of joy that you reached out to help someone and make their day just a little better.

♡ To feel love. Platonic love. Romantic love. Any love in between. Your f/o wants you to feel love from everywhere in your life. From friends and family. From your pets. From your f/o or irl partners. But most importantly: from yourself. Your f/o wants you to love yourself, and feel deserving of all the love they have for you. Because you do deserve it. You deserve their love, the love of your friends, family, and pets, and love from yourself. You are worthy. You are loved.

If you need help, reach out. To loved ones, to friends, to someone in the community, to your local hotline, to your therapist, to anyone at all. Your f/o will be so proud of you. You’re not weak. People are social creatures, we’re built to ask for help when we need it. We’re built to help others. To build people up who have been torn down. To be built up by trusted members of our communities or professionals.

Vent to your f/o. Send them letters or journal entries. Tell them that you set up that appointment with your therapist, or finally made a date with a loved one for coffee or lunch, or invited your friends to hang out with you at someone’s house or your local park. That will make them so happy. Your f/o will be so happy that you’re trying. They love you. They want you to live. Not just survive, but really, truly live.

And if you really feel like you have no one else, my DMs are open. To anyone. LGBTQ+ fears and worries? Nerves about school or work? Dealing with racism or any kind of prejudice? You can vent to me. It feels good just to get it out. We’re social creatures, and sometimes what we need more than anything is to connect with another person. Let me be that for you, if you have no one else in your life.

⋆˙⟡ ♡ Remember, your f/o wants you to drink water, eat nutritious food, exercise (even if it’s just a walk, 5 squats, or standing while you watch television), take care of your hygiene, and relax. Not for them, but because these things will help make you happy. And your f/o adores nothing more than seeing you thrive. ⋆˙⟡ ♡

I felt, as an at-risk person, that this list was necessary for others in the community dealing with depression; for any ficto/yumeshipper/person with fictional crushes. And if you have more to add, feel free to reblog and add them. Or reply and I'll add it to the list with credit to you.