I like your belly

When I started, I weighed about 63 Kg. I don’t know my current weight, but I guess it’s probably a little higher now, don’t you think? 😅

Vacation weight gain. BELLY, ASS, AND THIGHS ARE BALLOONING

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top pics: right when I started gaining back in 2012 or something, around 65kg

it bothered me too. 🫂💔 people say that all the time and it’s extremely harmful and offensive, especially to those of us who actually have struggled with real eating disorders. I guess they must be equating stuffing & fullness play to binge eating disorder? which demonstrates a lack of understanding of both BED and kink. stuffing does not meet the criteria for BED. it’s disordered when the following is present:

a. the sense of lack of control over eating during the episode (e.g., a feeling that one cannot stop eating or control what or how much one is eating)

b. feeling disgusted with oneself, depressed, or very guilty after overeating

c. eating alone because of being embarrassed by how much one is eating

d. marked distress regarding binge eating is present.

as opposed to a stuffing being planned, the feedee is completely in control, they are safe and calm, enjoying the sensations of taste and touch, feeling sexy, proud, aroused, comforted, validated, etc., often with the love and aftercare from their scene partner.

and guess what! a lot of feedists don’t like stuffings at all. shocker.

of course there are feedists who have a complicated relationship with their kink because of their eating disorder. I’ve also heard from countless feedists that practicing kink is actually a way of healing from their eating disorder. I know feedists who have never had problems with food or body image at all because of the positive feelings brought to them by their kink.

This is not a common take on BED. The fact that people with BED restrict (or have experienced chronic food insecurity) is overlooked by most medical professionals and the folks who have the disorder themselves. But if you take the time to look at folks in this situation (like i was), we try to restrict our eating and then react to that restriction with bingeing. The bingeing itself is not the disordered part. That's our bodies reacting to restriction by increasing our hunger and cravings, because our bodies are trying to protect us from calorie deprivation.

Photo: Wally McNamee/Corbis, circa 2009

What is Fat Liberation? 🐋⛓️‍💥

Fat liberation is a social justice movement that works against anti-fat bias, oppression, and discrimination. Fat liberation is a radical alternative to body positivity – a movement based largely in appearance that is often appropriated by the mainstream – and affirms the value of all people, regardless of their weight or health. Fat liberation understands anti-fat bias and discrimination to have strong roots in anti-Black racism, colonialism, and classism, and that anti-fat bias and discrimination are routinely practiced without recrimination. Fat liberation seeks to identify and alleviate systemic anti-fat bias and individual prejudice, and to unlearn internalized fat bias and oppression. Fat liberation is a struggle tied to other intersectional struggles against oppression, and stands shoulder-to-shoulder with struggles against racism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, ageism, ableism, and others. Fat liberation not only seeks to normalize fat bodies, but to celebrate them.

– fatliberation.org

Photo: Katie Loncke. Fat Rose, 2018

About Me 🪐

I'm a 24 year old blogger called @fatliberation (they/them), also known as @thaenad. I am a fat, queer, trans, and neurodivergent artist/activist. I am a fat liberationist and unapologetic feedist who openly speaks out about intra-communal stigma surrounding the marginalized identities that I hold. My experience battling deep-rooted childhood shame growing up as a sexual outsider has shaped my work in fat liberation and pleasure/autonomy advocacy from a distinct lens, and I am interested in empowering others to break free of ingrained anti-fat and sex-negative biases. Over the past five years, I have done years of extensive research in the field of Fat Studies. I have worked with four fat acceptance organizations since 2020 and currently serve as a board member of a fat activist non-profit in Chicago. In 2022, I helped design a course on de-stigmatizing body size for a CE program run by licensed clinical social workers and healthcare professionals, and in 2023, I organized and documented a scale-smashing protest to raise awareness of the harms of diet culture. In 2024, I drafted a design for a Fat Liberation Flag. Today, a large focus of my work integrates fat liberation and sex education. I have over a year of experience working a live hotline providing queer inclusive, comprehensive, and fat-positive sex education for teens and emerging adults. Offline, I spend much of my time building and strengthening in-person connections with my local fat kink community through the grassroots organization Abundance Chicago, which I founded solo in 2024. 🔗 My Links

My Writing 📝

(🚧 = in progress, 📃 = article)

📃 Anti-Obesity Drugs In Sociopolitical Context

📃 Fat Rights? Fat Chance! A History of Fat Liberation In The United States From 1967-1974

FAT MYTHS MASTERPOST

FAQ: An overview of my writing integrating fat liberation and the feedism/fat kink communities

Anti-Fatness is Systemic.

Diets Don't Work.

Guide to advocating for yourself at the doctor's office

Fat Genital Maintenance Guide + Accessible Sex

#Fat Sex Ed

Beginner fat liberation resources for eating disordered individuals

My Projects 💭

Fat Liberation Flag

🚧 The F Word: A Sex & Fat Positive Podcast

🚧 Fat-Positive Organizations Database + Interactive Map

Lived experiences with medical gaslighting: survey trends

SMASH YOUR SCALE! Live Protest

Fat LGBTQ+ Reading List

Fat Liberationist Films

Fat Bodies in Horror

“FAT DYKES RULE” at the New York City Dyke March, June 2000

Extra Resources 🔗

Fat Liberation Manifesto, 1973

Health at Every Size Principles

NAAFA's Campaign For Size Freedom

What's Wrong With 'The War on Obesity?'

Weight Science: Evaluating the Evidence for a Paradigm Shift

Long‐term Effects of Dieting: Is Weight Loss Related to Health?

HAES Health Sheet Library

Printable Self Advocacy Cards for Healthcare

Fat Friendly Health Professionals List

Weight Neutral Providers Spreadsheet (USA)

ASDAH Healthcare Provider Listing

Non-Diet Providers for Eating Disorder Recovery

Fat-Positive and Anti-Diet Parenting Resources

Fat Travel Resources

Eating Disorder Support

The Fat Protestor

Photo: Marge Dean. Members of the Fat Underground, 1979

Books 📚

Science & Health:

Health at Every Size by *Lindo Bacon PhD

Body Respect by *Lindo Bacon PhD and Lucy Aphramor PhD, RD

Secrets from the Eating Lab by Traci Mann PhD

Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison MPH, RD

The F*ck-It Diet: Eating Should Be Easy by Caroline Dooner

Decolonizing Wellness: A QTBIPOC-Centered Guide to Escape the Diet Trap, Heal Your Self-Image, and Achieve Body Liberation by Dalia Kinsey, RD, LD

Weight Bias in Health Education: Critical Perspectives for Pedagogy and Practice edited by Heather Brown, Nancy Ellis-Ordway

Fat Politics:

Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Dr. Sabrina Strings 

Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-Blackness by Da’Shaun L. Harrison

What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon

Thickening Fat: Fat Bodies, Intersectionality, and Social Justice edited by May Friedman, Carla Rice, and Jen Rinaldi

Queering Fat Embodiment edited by Jackie Wykes, Samantha Murray, and Cat Pausé

Fat Activism by Dr. Charlotte Cooper

Fat Politics by J. Eric Oliver

The Fat Studies Reader by Esther Rothblum (Editor) and Sondra Solovay (Editor)

Fat Shame by Amy Erdman Farrell

Fat and Queer: An Anthology of Queer and Trans Bodies and Lives edited by August Owens Grimm, Miguel M. Morales, and Tiff Joshua TJ Ferentini

Self Acceptance:

The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor

Things No One will Tell Fat Girls by Jes Baker

Eating in the Light of the Moon by Anita Johnson PhD

Fat! So? Because You Don't Have to Apologize for Your Size by Marilyn Wann

Happy Fat by Sofie Hagan

Fat Girls in Black Bodies: Creating Communities of Our Own by Joy Arlene Renee Cox, PhD

You have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar

*ASDAH's Statement on Lindo Bacon