Well, I will categorize what you wanna know into two sides of this question (I think this needs to be done or what I say will be taken out of context). The mental aspect and the physical aspect. The mental aspect of women. Well, Part of it, I learned from my surroundings. The way women were treated in general. The way women wanted to be treated in general. And also, the way men saw women and women saw men as. It took me a bit of time to find a common ground in this where there is a line that meets both men and women in the middle. Where they are the same. That’s the part that took time to understand. Cos once I thought I had it all figured out, that’s when some aspect of men or women came up that just broke the line in a big way. Don’t ask me what that line is cos it only is according to my perspective and the way I think as a whole throughout the entirety of the life I have led. The whole thing can be different for someone else but the basics is the only thing that remains the same. I learned a lot about the mental aspects of women from my mother as well. She taught me how to treat a woman. Like what makes her happy or what you should do and shouldn’t do when I am with a woman. She also taught me that women, inherently are emotional beings. She even made me understand that men although like to think and suppress this part of them, they also have this side to them. She brought it out from my heart, that part of me. I did have help from some good friends of mine who were willing enough to share their dreams and needs and wants when it came to life and love. I do have a past where, I was very young and in love for the first time in my life with a girl. She made me into the man you see me as. At least part of me. It defined a part of my life that was a turning point or a part where I changed to be more of a man than a boy. She passed away in an accident after two years into our relationship. That was another turning point in my life. Bear with me as I am compressing a big part of my life into a short passage. I lost a year and a half after, to a tragedy that I didn’t see or much less never expected or would ever wish for in anyone’s life. It took a chunk of my heart with it. Literally felt it then. But, my head and my soul went on a path to find my way back to life through the loss itself. Through her, I found the strength to live life and think that she would’ve never wanted this for me. After that the years passed by with me meeting some amazing people along the way that shaped me to become who I am now. The fact of the mental side to my understanding of women is that, life in its complete and utter comedy chose to make me understand a woman’s heart by taking it away from me. Giving me time to understand who I knew, her hopes, her dreams, her needs, her love, her emotions, everything. I took my time to go through it all. It hurt every second of it. But it was also a path out of the hurt as well. And in doing so, I found a common ground in mostly every women out there that wants something out of their life. A commonality, no matter how much they deny it sometimes, what they want. Not just women, mostly all men too. People are different, character differs, needs differ, wants and desires differ. But always, I mean, always, the basis of all this remains the same. And I don’t need to explain what that common ground is to you. For as even the most unfeeling of hearts denies its existence, it also yearns deep inside for a smudge of that one emotion on it. So, that, my friend, is the mental side of how I learned to know women. Read on, cos I am not finished.
Now for the physical side. Its easy to say, hey, i am sure she wants this and that in bed. Or hey, she wants this out of bed or when you are with her. When it comes to the physical aspect. What everyone sees first and shoots for first is SEX! It’s the most wrong of things you can assume. People see sex as just a part of getting pleasure. Its a view molded by a society and a generational chasm between a time when love was necessary and a time that is when love is just background noise. Understanding a woman’s body is just half of the equation. You have to understand where she is coming from, who she is and what her needs and wants are if you want to please a woman physically. And by that I don’t just mean in bed. What I mean is, even just hugging her, kissing her, being close to her and giving her help in whatever she is doing is also part of this. Of course, there are people who just want sex and only cares for pleasure. But being as to who I am, I am not talking about that side of the ‘emotional non-existence’. That being said, lets just not get more into the sexual aspect of it. But rather I will say that, Life is the foreplay, and Making love is the outcome. As for how I learned about pleasing a woman physically, let me tell you first of all that I am still a virgin. I have never had experience in making love. What I know is from reading about it and also learning from reading on what women say what they want. And as for the medical side and dealing with sexual problems, I get help from Doctors. Don’t ask me who, cos they are in the family and I just ask them in passing about certain things that you all ask making sure that they think i am just asking out of serious curiosity and not for some blog I run. Let me tell you something as a final part to this side of the whole. Don’t try to understand the physical side of women. Try to understand the physical side of the woman you love. The woman you are with. It’s not about understanding the whole thing. Its about understanding and knowing little by little every bit of her body every single day. Finding something new that she loves or knowing more about her every single time you are with her, making love to her. And trust me on this, she will help you if she knows that you want to please her in every way. That you are trying to give her what she wants and yearns for. As I always say, communication is key to it all. Talk about everything and more importantly, listen. Listen to her needs, her wants and desires. Doesn’t always have to be to your liking. If you don’t like something, tell her you don’t and be honest. Sometimes you have to sacrifice a bit of your pride to do something she wants since she wants it a lot. But trust me on this, the favor will be returned. Few men understand that most women do know when you are faking it or do something for them even when you don’t like it. And just so everyone knows, sex isn’t and shouldn’t be like a job you do for the one you love, or a favor or something that arises out of the necessity of it being a part of life. It should be something that comes with the love, the yearning for each other and should be fun and loving and the culmination of the understanding of each others mind and heart.
As a whole, understanding a woman takes more than just the mental or physical. Its both combined along with your own mind being in sync with hers on a level. It doesn’t take books, or anything material to know about women. All it takes is life, the things we see around us, empathizing and understanding things you see and feel more than ignoring it. And learning from what life has already taught as through enough millennia to fill more than one book, or a compendium or even a single mind. Understand yourself, your priorities, your wants with life as a whole and your future. Then it will be really easy for you to understand someone else. Even women for that matter. Try to see everything from the inside to the out. Not from the outside to the in. And I don’t just mean that in one context of its meaning. And thank you for your kind words. And finally, this is all I can put into words right now. Or almost all I can remember. Never think that this is a complete part of my life or the answer to your question.
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