1. self-soothing

comforting yourself through the 5 senses

Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket

Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation

See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually 

Taste: tea, mints, gum

Smell: lotion, candles, incense 

2. distraction

removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time

puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social

3. opposite action

doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion

affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus

4. emotional awareness

identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling

journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy

5. mindfulness

centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment

meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk

6. ask for help

this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental  

therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life 

NEVER TOLERATE A MAN-CHILD. BREAK THE CYCLE. HE CAN DO HIS LAUNDRY. HE CAN MAKE DINNER. HE CAN UNDERSTAND, TALK ABOUT, AND HELP WITH MENSTRUAL CYCLE ISSUES. HE LEAVES SHIT STAINS ON THE TOILET? HE CLEANS IT. TEACH YOUR SONS TO PLAY HOUSE. MAKE THEM PACK THEIR OWN DAMN LUNCHES. KEEPING A PLANNER ISNT MANLY? MISSING APPOINTMENTS IS INEXCUSABLE AND CHILD-LIKE. ITS NOT MASCULINE TO PRINT A RECIPE, SHOP, AND COOK? WELL THAT MAN-CHILD IS GONNA STARVE. POOR BABY HAS A COLD? WELL HER INTERNAL ORGANS ARE CONTRACTING AND BLEEDING ALL OVER THE DAMN PLACE AND SHE IS STILL CAPABLE OF MAKING THE DAMN BED, NOT TAKING UP SPACE IN IT.

FORCE THESE MEN TO GROW THE FUCK UP

Untilted (February 2014 | San Luis Obispo, CA)