How to fully control Your sub in 9 steps
1: You need to get into his head.
-Learn his fantasies and what turns him on. Use this information against him and to Your advantage.
-Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.
-Make him show his loyalty to You regularly. Reward him, even if it’s just with positive attention when he does.
- Aside from family, close friends and work, give him 0% privacy. Don’t hide this process from him, make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”
-Make him need You for everything. Point out how You help him, how You guide him, and how You accept the negative things about him that others may not.
- Hypnosis, especially while they are sleeping can help transfer messages, ideas and ideals about You deep into their faggot head.
2: Punish him often for everything, no exceptions!
- Don’t let him get away with anything! When You let your sub get away with something. You are telling him that You don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.
- You can Spank, paddle, or whip him.
- Humiliate him past what is easy for him.
- Long term bondage
- Corner time
- Food restrictions
- Writing standards/lines\
- Write a book report or essay.
- Ground him/take away privileges.
- Wash his mouth out with soap.
- Make him do anything he hates.
- Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.
- Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending Your control over him as a punishment. That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.
3: Routinely discipline him. This is different than punishment.
- Spank him once a week, just because You can, not too hard, not too soft.
-Humiliate him often.
- 5-10 minuets of corner time a day can do wonders for him, like a sub’s meditation.
- If he is stressed, give him a break and put him in some comfy bondage for a while. You may or may not want to integrate impact play with this. For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.
- Routine discipline will save You time and energy in the long run. You will have to punish him less as a result.
- Taking care of You can be part of his discipline. Have him do Your laundry, cleaning, etc.
4: On some level, even if it’s small, keep Your sub horny for You.
- Talk sexy to him.
-Sexualize non sexual things/activities You are interested in. He will see whatever it is You’ve sexualized as such and be more interested/eager to engage.
- Have Your sub do some or all of Your body grooming. This can be Your baths, Your nails, shaving, trimming, waxing, etc.
- Scare him by telling him when and what You’re going to do to him in the near future.
- Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.
- Make him give You orgasms. This is different from sex. This is a service.
- Let him rest on You to smell You as You watch TV or read.
- Give him underwear/items of Yours to smell as he sleeps.
- Hypnosis, especially while Your sub sleeps can help with this too.
5: Control Your own feelings of guilt.
- Your sub needs You to be strong “with” him. You may show vulnerabilities in Yourself for other aspects of Your life. When it comes to him and Your control over him, be firm!
- Some meanness and cruelty will be needed from time to time to help break Your sub down.
- Your sub may not want everything You give him/ do to him, but he needs it.
- Letting Your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because You feel guilty adequately and severely addressing it is weak. You need to control that shit.
- Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them. Sometimes real men need to show the fag that they are inferior. This can’t always be done by talking. And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.
- Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs. You are filling his needs.
- Remember, You both need to be happy. But happiness comes from different places for different people. If there is communication, and Your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then You are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.
- A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop You from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does be there for him.
6: Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.
- Have him wear a small butt-plug for a time, wifi enabled if possible.
- Have him be naked or close to it, around You and or Your friends.
- Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.
- Make him wear a chastity device sometimes.
- Teach them “tricks” like sit, drop to their knees to kiss Your crotch, etc. In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure Your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.
- Make him masturbate for You.
- Slap him in the face.
- Spit on him.
- Treat him as an inferior in public. (Ex: he carries all bags, opens doors, eats Your leftovers, holds Your drinks, tie Your shoes etc.)
- Make him eat his own cum sometimes.
- Talk down to him in front of others
7: Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please You. Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.
- If You want to change his body to Your liking, do so. Control his workouts, diet etc. Make sure and be realistic with this one.
- Make sure he is available during some of Your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve You during those times.
- Put him on a sleeping schedule. Lots of fags are not able to adequately manage their sleep times. The better rested he is, the better he will serve You.
- Go through his closet/things and throw away/put away any clothing You don’t like him to be wearing.
- Sign him up to learn new tasks or prefect tasks/skills that will help You. (Ex: massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.)
- Change their grooming habits to Your liking.
8: Help Your sub be grateful for everything he has. Make sure You are at the top of that list. One great way to do this is to deny him things. Yep, it’s time to say “No.” Subs need boundaries, and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.
- You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.
- Make him show his gratitude to You often. Faggots will show this to You in their own way. Most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to You.
- Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain why well enough. Then take it from him.
- You can take things/items from him that You know he does not need, but likes. (Make sure he can afford for You to take them and that they are not of an additional value such as sentimental etc.) Let him know from time to time that You enjoy something that You took from him.
- Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what You make him do. This could be sort or long term.
9: None of these actions will work without real trust.
- If Your sub is Your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes You and Your power.
- If Your sub is not Your partner, make sure You two are real friends. That You appreciate how his inferiority completes you. The more You two know about and do with each other. The more thoroughly You can control him.
-Part of trust on the subs part is trusting that You will follow through when You say You are going to do something to him or are going to make him do something. Follow through always.
- When a sub fully trusts You. He can submit to You his mind and privacy. Letting You go in and re-arrange/manage his life.
- Subs need constant reassurance. Let him know that no matter what, he is Yours. If a serious sub feels disposable. He will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.
- If Your life is getting too hard for a bit or You need help with something. Trust that Your sub will be able to take over for You and act in your best interest until You are back in shape. Giving sub this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that You are not actively controlling him 100% of the time. If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for You. Then drop him like a hot potato.
-Talk to Your sub often. Ask him how he is feeling, and let him honestly know how You are feeling on anything and everything.
- By taking things away from him, You are in a sense rewarding him when You give them back. Also, nothing he has is his forever. You need to re-take things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right. Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog. Your sub needs be docile enough that You can take his food bowl away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and patiently wait until the food is returned
-Please note: Do not ever deny him from being with Friends or family. Make him realize that the only reason You allow him to have constant contact/interaction with good friends and family is because he “helps” them by being a good friend or family member. Make sure the he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness that he brings them. Basically, he needs to understand that if he pulls away from loved ones. While he is under Your control his loved ones will suffer. That is why he is allowed (and encouraged) to keep and/or strengthen the bonds he has with them.
Please note: The following is a list of things to control a sub only. Please do not implement these ideas if You do not care about and are not committed to Your sub. This list is not all inclusive of how to treat Your sub. This list leaves out the important kind necessities that Your sub needs such as reassurance, love, respect, being protected, allowed to be protective of You etc. These ideas are for a long term 24/7 arrangements, not a scene. Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things on the list that will work for You.
Amazing list and great advice 😍😍
Some really good advice and tips!
Many great things here to think and decide upon for us Dom, Masters and Owners.
For me, since I enjoy things much more extreme, there is much that I would and be more extreme with. The big thing for me is that eventually I will searching for slaves and objects, which are much submissive than subs. One big thing for me is that I would search for slaves and objects that either have no family and no ties or ones that the relationships that they have need to be broken off as I need 100 percent of their focus. Many slaves and objects are not able to discern just what their needs are or even what they are. It is job of us Masters and Owners to show it was it is and what they are and then make it the best that it can be. That being said, since I want a closed family that has practically no outside interaction, the need to accomodate family, friends and work would be zero. Finding these types of candidates are harder to find and can be much more costly. If for cost needs, I might be persuaded to have a high Alpha who helps run the household that will have a priority of some employment (not career), unless I end up finding another Master/Owner as a lover that contributes to the household.
Yes, I agree that number 1 is essential to get inside the slave or objects head to find everything out. it needs to understand that I am the only reason that it exists and survives. slaves and objects usually have fear that prevents them from seeing what it is. Hypnosis is great for teaching and reinforcement.
slaves and objects needs punishment and discipline. Having the punishments fit the crime is very essential for slaves and objects because each are different. objects would not get punishments that require human skills as a slave would, since they rare understand human skills. slaves have the human abilities to household serve, whereas objects serve by being inanimate, torture and entertainment.
Yes, I do believe in keeping slaves and object in pain and horny. it has to learn that everything is because of being Owned and it needs constant reminders of Ownership. This is why it exists. For me, on objects, I prefer never to do things like amputation or castration. I may kill off the limb or keep it horny, only for it to realise what is no longer useful or has control of. It is more humiliating to know that it once had that. If the limb is gone, it will tend to forget that it had that.
Yes, slaves and objects especially need to constantly broken down and degraded to mold it in to what it needs to be at that current moment. That will change as time moves on. So this has to be pretty much daily.
Yes, slaves and objects need to be controlled 100 percent as most are not able to be full humans that can control their own lives. Especially objects, since it has no concept of what it really is. objects need micro-managing and that takes assistance from slaves, alphas, handlers or other Owners/Masters. slaves have the brain capacity to reason, learn and to an Owners bidding with just 100 percent supervision.
slaves need to be grateful for being owned and has someone to serve. objects need to know that without ownership, it does not exist. This is very important as once it is fully broken as an object, it will never again be able to exist without Ownership. It is imperative that either plans are in place for objects if something happens to the Owner. This can be transfer of ownership, preferably, or just plans of what is to be done with an objects remains or how one cares for an invalid human. The longer that it is in objectification, the less that it can do for itself or regain, it is really just an invalid.
As for the last item, Trust, slaves and objects need trust and reassurance much less than subs. Since both slaves and objects are 100 percent dependent on you and your servants, they exist to serve and serve to exist. Especially objects, when 100 percent of its humanity is gone, objects wither very quickly. Slaves do reassurance and trust in the beginning that it is doing the right thing submitting. objects, on the other, need to start seeing and accepting what it is and voluntary surrender to it. Once it sees what it is, the Owner take Ownership of the object. Keeping in mind that it may be overcome with fear realising this. This is when objects just need to be taken off the grid.
