kink safety tip:
you do not want a no limits sub. you do not want to be a no limits sub. this is how you and your partner(s) get very very hurt.
it is perfectly okay to have a well thought out stance of "i do not have many hard limits and can communicate when soft limits come up in the moment", because that is still fundamentally having a sense of boundaries at all.
but when you try and just deconstruct all sense of limits, it leaves your doms in a position where you've hoisted all your responsibility-agency onto them and left them no way to understand what you actually mean by it.
this is likely to get you hurt when they try something that you actually didn't want but didn't even think to communicate about because you abdicated that from the start, and this is likely to hurt the dominant too because, shockingly, most people don't like hurting their partners.
to have a healthy relationship, you need to have boundaries and the ability to communicate.
not to mention there is no such thing as a no limit sub. anyone who says they have no limits clearly doesn't have experience to know what they dislike or thinks it's somehow going to make themselves much more appealing. it's a huge red flag, and a sign for you and your partner to sit down and properly go through kinks you both are comfortable with.
always practice safe sex!! make sure both of you (and/or others) feel good!! whatever you see on the internet of noncon or other depraved shit are all fantasies and fiction. it's very very important to differentiate irl with fiction!!!
This is so important!
Whenever someone tells me they have no limits and I can just do what I want to them I ask:
"Oh nice! So you have gotten your fingers broken before during a scene and liked it?" (Something I would never actually do!!)
That usually then leads to a nuanced discussion about limits.
