The same thing happened to me like were a close group and everything was cool between us but we grew apart i still have them in my socials and i was kinda close to this girl we used to text occasionally but the last few months she’s been ignoring me and i was genuinely worried until recently i heard that she cut me off because her other friend (was my friend) said that i bullied her in high school and if she was her real friend she would cut me off. mind you it’s been 6 years and we’ve known each other since we were 13 i felt like they could’ve at least told me something like hey you’re a shitty person or anything like let me apologize if you think i hurt you we don’t have to be friends but they choose other way so it’s whatever i can’t bring myself to care about someone that didn’t give me the benefit of the doubt or let me explain myself like if i were them i’d communicate.
side note truly i don’t recall bullying anyone ever i even asked the rest of the group if i ever were mean and they said no but i’m also aware that my words and actions can affect others even if i didn’t meant to hurt them
sorry that was kinda long but it’s fine you’ll meet better people
Hey, thanks for venting and sharing all that. It sounds genuinely frustrating and disappointing, especially after being part of the same close group for years and knowing them since you were 13. They really should’ve come to you directly instead of just ghosting u based on what someone else told them. After that long of a friendship, a simple convo would’ve at least given you the chance to hear their side, explain yourself, or apologize if you unintentionally hurt her. The fact that they chose to cut you off without saying anything says a lot about how they handle conflict.
It’s good that you checked with the rest of the group and that you’re staying open to the possibility that your words or actions might’ve affected her, even if you didn’t mean to. That shows self awareness. At the same time, you can’t force people to communicate like adults or give you the benefit of the doubt. Some prefer to make assumptions and move on quietly.
But you’re right though it’s whatever at this point. You’ll definitely meet better people too who value direct communication and won’t drop you over second hand stories without even talking to u first. Keep your peace and don’t carry unnecessary guilt for something you don’t even recall doing. :)
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